The thing is that I started smoking appromaxly 8 monthes ago. I stopped smoking 4 monthes ago. (Why? that's an whole othet story.) The thing is that at starts I thought to myself "he, it's not so hard, now is it?" but after ahile it started torturing me, litteraly. So one day, without even knowing why or what I'm doing, I took my pocket-swiss blade and just started cutting myself in the arm. Surprisngly, if felt good. For a couple of days (so long the pain was still there) the off-smoking tortures stopped. Actaully smoking is not the only reason why I've found myself in a mess probably bigger that smoking, but alot of other things (wich I won't discuss) as well. Actaully I think (okay, I KNOW) that smoking was just an excuse. That whole 'cutting' emotion started along time ago. Anyway, the thing is that I think (okay, I know) it's not healthy, and to be honest I'm running out of excuses to my parnets. I mean, how many times can one fall on a fence? I don't know if they do know the real deal, but it's very much possible. I realy want so stop it, I realy am. But I just don't know how; it seems to be the only things who keeps me on my feet. I'm huting myself, and I know it. It feels wrong, but I enjoy it. Help please.
Plain and simple; you have to get to the bottom of why you cut yourself. There's a root cause (usually people cut to escape or gain control over some sort of emotional deal that they can't seem to process otherwise or to physically express pain they're feeling) and in order to really put a stop to your cutting, you'll have to identify why you do it in the first place. Anything else is just a temporary solution.
If you're not willing to discuss here what's bothering you that you need to cut, you'll need to find someone you can discuss it with. Parents, psychologist, counsellor, helpline, whatever works.
PS: I hope this thread goes better than that time you started a thread to help you stop smoking.
Does the pain feel good? I know personally that pain can provide a very exciting stimulation. Sometimes I find myself almost unconciously digging a spiked bracelet into the back of my hand or striking myself across the forearm with a strip of leather just to stimulate myself.
The key to stopping is attempting to understand your thoughts as you cut. Do you have trouble releasing emotions? Do you feel like you need some kind of stimulation? Do you feel emotionally numb at times? These are all questions you should ask yourself.
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Does the pain feel good? I know personally that pain can provide a very exciting stimulation. Sometimes I find myself almost unconciously digging a spiked bracelet into the back of my hand or striking myself across the forearm with a strip of leather just to stimulate myself.
The key to stopping is attempting to understand your thoughts as you cut. Do you have trouble releasing emotions? Do you feel like you need some kind of stimulation? Do you feel emotionally numb at times? These are all questions you should ask yourself.
Unfortunally, the answer is "yes" to all of your questions. Now what?
Find an outlet to help keep yourself busy, maybe try to find a new hobby. Spend more time around friends and family. Talk to people, not just about your problem, but about anything that comes to mind. Maybe write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. Basically, do anything to find healthy ways to release your emotions.
Your problem isn't just going to go away over night. Your kidding yourself if you believe that it won't take a lot of mental focus and introspection to overcome your issues.
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Yeah, you probably right, however it's not as easy to do as it's easy to write.
Anyway, I thought of a creative way to stop doing it: doing tattoos. It hurts (so they say) and it alsaw usefull. Only problem is that my family religious, and according to our bible tattoos are unallowed.. (I persoanlly don't care anything about the religion, but my parents do, and I don't want them to know before I leave the house... if that. anyway long story.)
More seriously, professional help FTW. There are people out there who can help you through just about anything, and this, remarkably as it seems, is rather common. It will take a while, but between cigarettes, cutting, and Magic (okay, maybe not the last one), you'll soon be able to manage all your habits.
BTW, good job getting yourself to quit smoking so fast, and I hope your "tortures" stay away. Not smoking is one of the healthiest things someone can do for him(her?)self.
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Yeah, you probably right, however it's not as easy to do as it's easy to write.
Anyway, I thought of a creative way to stop doing it: doing tattoos. It hurts (so they say) and it alsaw usefull. Only problem is that my family religious, and according to our bible tattoos are unallowed.. (I persoanlly don't care anything about the religion, but my parents do, and I don't want them to know before I leave the house... if that. anyway long story.)
That's still just transference. You're replacing one addiction for another. Again. Which does nothing to actually help solve your situation. You haven't done anything to identify and overcome whatever is wrong that made cutting such an addictive escape in the first place. And until you do, the problem will still be there. You may find more constructive (or at least less harmful) outlets, but that's still only a temporary fix.
More seriously, professional help FTW. There are people out there who can help you through just about anything, and this, remarkably as it seems, is rather common. It will take a while, but between cigarettes, cutting, and Magic (okay, maybe not the last one), you'll soon be able to manage all your habits.
BTW, good job getting yourself to quit smoking so fast, and I hope your "tortures" stay away. Not smoking is one of the healthiest things someone can do for him(her?)self.
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Trust me when I say that the pain of cutting yourself overcome those lousy insmoking pain... hell, it even overcome mental pain.
Before it was the rush of inhaling smoke and flow it from the mouth.
Now its the rush of watching your own blood drips... the thing is that it's not realy addictive; it's not like niccotine of cafein; this I can realy stop whenever I want to. But the thing is that for now that's the only thing that keeps me insane (wich is, ironicly, a something that most people would call a mental problem on its own). And finding just a hobby to relace it with that is not as easy; why? because "Some hobby" won't help me deal with (okay, forget) my problems. And that's why it's so hard to stop. The only thing that before that helped me forger my problems was smoking... and seriously I got to say that smkoing doesn't help as half as cutting myself... it's just the sensation of pure pain, that managed to make me forget even the worst of problems... for these few spectacular days all I care about is some stuiped cut... no outside problems, no desire to smoke... only a physical pain.
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You should seek professional help. Cutting on yourself to relieve stress may seem like a step up from smoking, or doing drugs, but in the long run it will stop being enough, you'll have more and more problems as life's responsibilities and stresses come at you. It's a sign you have something fundamentally wrong with the way you handle stress and emotions. I suggest a counselor and after that, if you think it may be needed, get your parents to take you to a psychiatrist.
There are better ways of handling stress...and you will need to master your emotions and understand them if you are going to make it on your own and be a productive and independent adult. I don't need to tell you that should you live with this your entire life, at some point you're going to run out of skin to cut, it will all be open sores and scars and whatnot. Once it becomes a threat to health, you're imposing your own personal problems on someone else and that's irresponsible and dangerous. Not to mention that nervous people often develop ulcers, heart problems, high blood pressure, and risk nervous exhaustion/depression. You live in dangerous times, in a dangerous country, and deserve to give yourself every chance of learning to keep a calm mind in times of crisis.
You should seek professional help. Cutting on yourself to relieve stress may seem like a step up from smoking, or doing drugs, but in the long run it will stop being enough, you'll have more and more problems as life's responsibilities and stresses come at you. It's a sign you have something fundamentally wrong with the way you handle stress and emotions. I suggest a counselor and after that, if you think it may be needed, get your parents to take you to a psychiatrist.
There are better ways of handling stress...and you will need to master your emotions and understand them if you are going to make it on your own and be a productive and independent adult. I don't need to tell you that should you live with this your entire life, at some point you're going to run out of skin to cut, it will all be open sores and scars and whatnot. Once it becomes a threat to health, you're imposing your own personal problems on someone else and that's irresponsible and dangerous. Not to mention that nervous people often develop ulcers, heart problems, high blood pressure, and risk nervous exhaustion/depression.
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And finding just a hobby to relace it with that is not as easy; why? because "Some hobby" won't help me deal with (okay, forget) my problems. And that's why it's so hard to stop. The only thing that before that helped me forger my problems was smoking... and seriously I got to say that smkoing doesn't help as half as cutting myself... it's just the sensation of pure pain, that managed to make me forget even the worst of problems
Well .... just a thought, but rather than seeking new ways of forgetting your problems, why don't you try to deal with those problems instead? That would get rid of the need to have a way of forgetting them.
Yeah, that's a good advice, but the only thing is that my problems (atleast some of them) involves my parents, and I know them too well. If I'll tell them I'm cutting myself they would think I got insane and send me to some institute... wich I realy don't want to go to.
And BTW, SnoopDogg, I'm not cutting myself too harsh; all the cuts I make heal in a matter of weeks.
From past psychological experience (not so severe as this, but similar psychological problems/depression) I've found that talking about it really helps. Often i've found that talking to my parents about problems is more awkward/ strange than talking to a complete stranger, strangely enough. I believe someone mentioned a helpline. And you CAN always talk to your parents about it, because deep down, they really love you, no matter what (Idk your situation). And they want to help you. So consider that-
Talking about it is the best solution.
Yeah, that's a good advice, but the only thing is that my problems (atleast some of them) involves my parents, and I know them too well. If I'll tell them I'm cutting myself they would think I got insane and send me to some institute... wich I realy don't want to go to.
....... so seek help from someone other than your parents. Doctor-patient confidentiality exists for a reason. Look into it. Though if your problems involve your parents, chances are you'll have to confront them about those problems (not necessarily mentioning the cutting itself, however) eventually.
And BTW, SnoopDogg, I'm not cutting myself too harsh; all the cuts I make heal in a matter of weeks.
Yeah, that's a good advice, but the only thing is that my problems (atleast some of them) involves my parents, and I know them too well. If I'll tell them I'm cutting myself they would think I got insane and send me to some institute... wich I realy don't want to go to.
Did you ever think that maybe getting time away from your parents in an ordered setting might be just where you need to start from in dealing with your stress levels?
I really think you owe it to them to be honest. Any reasonable parent would recommend you seek help, and not blame you or threaten to put you in an institution. Also, I don't know how it works in your country, but here in the US if you're under 18 your parents have a lot to say about your making medical decisions. Leaving them out of things means your options for help might be severely limited, both financially and ethically.
Lastly, If your parents aren't on board with what's going on with you, not only can they not help you, but if they are contributing to the problem in some way, they won't stop.
You cried for help, people in this thread have been answering, now either listen or don't but for crissake think about what people are saying and not just keep coming back with "Yes but..."
Did you ever think that maybe getting time away from your parents in an ordered setting might be just where you need to start from in dealing with your stress levels?
I really think you owe it to them to be honest. Any reasonable parent would recommend you seek help, and not blame you or threaten to put you in an institution. Also, I don't know how it works in your country, but here in the US if you're under 18 your parents have a lot to say about your making medical decisions. Leaving them out of things means your options for help might be severely limited, both financially and ethically.
Lastly, If your parents aren't on board with what's going on with you, not only can they not help you, but if they are contributing to the problem in some way, they won't stop.
You cried for help, people in this thread have been answering, now either listen or don't but for crissake think about what people are saying and not just keep coming back with "Yes but..."
I'm 18 and some if it makes a difference...
And believe me, from harshly taught experience, I know my parents. Here's an almost one-to-one conversation that would accur if I'll tell my parents:
Me: Mom, I need to tell you something.
Mom: What is it.
*me revealing sleeves, showing the cuts*
Mom: Are all of these from a fence? from a fall? what is it realy all about? Did someone beat you?
Me: I did it to myself.
Mom: You did WHAT?! Are you crazy? Why on earth would you do that?
Me: It's just all the prolems I'm having recently... it helps forget them.
Mom: Well that's too bad. You better stop doing it or I'm sending you to an institution.
That, more or less, would be the result. And I hate the fact that everytime I open my mouth and complain to my parents about my issues all they do is yell. Instatnly yell. They think all would go away if they just yell and force me to stop doing what I'm doing or else...
The only real solution is to move out, that's way I could litteraly run away from my problems. I could live the way I want to, and how I want to. I won't ever again would have to confront my parents. But that's quite impossible at the moment... it takes alot of money wich I don't have. I realy am here deep in the mud.
Which really does nothing to change the fact that you should tell them and they deserve to know.
And I hate the fact that everytime I open my mouth and complain to my parents about my issues all they do is yell. Instatnly yell. They think all would go away if they just yell and force me to stop doing what I'm doing or else...
Listen, I have unreasonable parents. Even when they listened to me, they never really heard what I was saying because they were stuck on their own ideas about me. But even they were capable of being levelled to. And I highly doubt your parents are utterly unable to be reasonable. You just need to find a way to make them compromise with you, make them listen, make them help.
It could be as easy (relatively speaking, of course) as saying "Yes, I know that what I'm doing is bad and I'll stop, but I do need your help and support to get through this and fix what's wrong."
The only real solution is to move out, that's way I could litteraly run away from my problems. I could live the way I want to, and how I want to.
I thought that once, too. It really isn't that simple. Problems don't go away if you run from them. Eventually, they'll catch up with you. It's better to learn to deal with them now.
I won't ever again would have to confront my parents.
Ha! Good one. Like it or not, your parents will be a part of your life for as long as you live. Even if you never see them again. Even after they're dead and gone.
Belive me, I DO NOT want to be in the mud. cutting myself is not fun; if I didn't had any problems, and if I never would've smoked, then cutting myself would just be plain pain. Now THAT'S stupid. But the way it is, cutting covers ALOT of my problems. Physical pain is much better than mental one, and even better than the feeling of "I have to smoke".
Yes, I know it's not okay, that's why I opened this thread, but what can I do? set an appointment to a phycologist myself? the way I see it there are three options:
1) Keep cutting myself, and ignore all the problems.
2) Telling my parents, wich can lead to me being sent to an instutution.
3) Move out.
Option 1 is what I'm doing right now, and we all know it's not a good one.
Option 2 is too much of a risk; they could send me to an instutution regardless of what I'll tell them, because the only words they'lll hear is "me" and "cutting myself", ignoring the rest.
Option 3 is impractical, because it's too much money.
I guess the only thing I can do is to try to approach my parents in some proper way, a way to keep them relaxed and not freaked out and immidiatley send me packing. But I do not know of such way yet.
but what can I do? set an appointment to a phycologist myself?
YES!
the way I see it there are three options:
1) Keep cutting myself, and ignore all the problems.
2) Telling my parents, wich can lead to me being sent to an instutution.
3) Move out.
Have you even read this thread? You have so many more options than that. And pretty much all of them are far more constructive than the ones you listed. So wake up and stop only reading what you want to be told and face reality.
Option 1 is what I'm doing right now, and we all know it's not a good one.
No, no it's not.
Option 2 is too much of a risk; they could send me to an instutution regardless of what I'll tell them, because the only words they'lll hear is "me" and "cutting myself", ignoring the rest.
Besides the fact that I doubt your parents will ship you off at the first sign of problems (I don't doubt parents like that exist, but for the most part, whenever I hear someone saying their parents will act that way, my cynicism kicks in and I take those claims with a grain of salt. Mostly because such claims are the products of the minds of self-isolated, overdramatic teens.), I'm not even sure they can. I'm not clear on Israeli law, but one would think that your parents can't make such decisions for you once you're eighteen.
Option 3 is impractical, because it's too much money.
Well, it's a bad idea for bigger reasons than the impracticality, but whatever.
I guess the only thing I can do is to try to approach my parents in some proper way, a way to keep them relaxed and not freaked out and immidiatley send me packing.
Not the only thing you can do (gah!), but it's certainly a start.
Anyway, I will try a different take on this, and I don't mean to sound mean or anything, I understand what you mean about the mental pain that won't go away, but there are alot better things to do than to cut yourself, because honestly, if you don't fix this problem now, you could seriously screw yourself up for the rest of your life.
Dude, if you don't have the balls to go see a psychologist, or something, why are you even posting here? You probably don't even want to fix this.
And if you want to, you have to step up and get out of your comfort zone. Your eighteen, your an adult, you should be able to go by yourself. And alright, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but still there are alot of helplines you can call, helplines are great, you speak to councillors who are good at listening, they don't make judgements, they listen and they help, they will stay on the phone with you for hours.
And I doubt your parents can be that bad, everyone makes their parents out to be evil, but unless they are heartless rednecks living in Israel, I'm sure they can't be that bad, and they may understand.
You want the pain of cutting yourself to get rid of other pains you have? Thats somewhat understandable. But if you want real pain, not some emo cutting yourself stuff, do something constructive and hard. See how far you can run, and don't stop until you drop. Now that is pain, because once you go far enough, your whole body will be hurting, your sides will literally feel like you got a spear driven right through you, and your legs will be splitting with pain, given you don't wuss out and stop to cut yourself before the good running pain kicks in.
Or punch and kick a punching bag, become a boxer. That can hurt too, or play football, see if the pain of getting run over by a couple 220+ pound guys doesn't take your mind off of your "problems". There are alot better types of pain than watching the blood run down your arm and drip off your finger onto the cold pavement.
And think about it this way, your problems are insignificant in this world. At least your alive. Think about some of the people a thousand miles south of you or so in Africa. They fight for their lives everyday, they see their parents get killed by machetes, or their children, or they get tortured and have their limbs, noses, or ears cut off. Or think about some of the people in the North American native communities, which have the highest suicide rates in probably most of the world for teens. The teens grow up only to have their best friend, their brother, and the guy or girl they like in their class commit suicide. Now those are problems.
Dude, I'm sorry I don't mean to be mean or anything, but you have to step up. Just stop the habit, and you have to want to stop it, and if you have psychological pain, grow balls and go see someone about it, or do something constructive. And telling your parents can't hurt that badly either. I know that if I were a parent I would want my child to come to me with their problems, that way I could help them through it, because I don't think there would be anything more important in life than my kid.
And I must admit I have a contempt for people that cut themselves, its nothing personal, but a couple of friends did that to themselves when I was in high school, one of them ended up killing herself. Which I suppose is a reason this cutting yourself stuff upsets me.
Anyway, good luck, and once again I don't mean to sound mean. I kind of understand what your going through, life gets tough like that, I turned to smoking and quit a bit later (after my friend killed herself), although I never cut myself to fix it.
Once again good luck, but fix it, and make up your mind that you want to fix it, don't think about it and just do it.
Belive me, I DO NOT want to be in the mud. cutting myself is not fun; if I didn't had any problems, and if I never would've smoked, then cutting myself would just be plain pain. Now THAT'S stupid. But the way it is, cutting covers ALOT of my problems. Physical pain is much better than mental one, and even better than the feeling of "I have to smoke".
Yes, I know it's not okay, that's why I opened this thread, but what can I do? set an appointment to a phycologist myself? the way I see it there are three options:
1) Keep cutting myself, and ignore all the problems.
2) Telling my parents, wich can lead to me being sent to an instutution.
3) Move out.
Option 1 is what I'm doing right now, and we all know it's not a good one.
Option 2 is too much of a risk; they could send me to an instutution regardless of what I'll tell them, because the only words they'lll hear is "me" and "cutting myself", ignoring the rest.
Option 3 is impractical, because it's too much money.
I guess the only thing I can do is to try to approach my parents in some proper way, a way to keep them relaxed and not freaked out and immidiatley send me packing. But I do not know of such way yet.
If I were in your position, I would sit my parents down and explain to them in a calm, collected manner, that I am going through a rough time and have alot of problems I need to work out, some of which with them. I would then go on to tell them that I would like to see a Counselor, or Psychiatrist of some sorts to help me work out these problems. If you honestly believe your parents will be completley unreasonable if you reveal your cutting yourself, I wouldn't tell them at all untill you have it under control. Just tell them you have alot of stress and emotions you are having difficulty dealing with and would like to see someone about it.
That seems to me to be the easiest and simplest way to deal with this.
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If you're not willing to discuss here what's bothering you that you need to cut, you'll need to find someone you can discuss it with. Parents, psychologist, counsellor, helpline, whatever works.
PS: I hope this thread goes better than that time you started a thread to help you stop smoking.
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It's good that you are getting help. It'd be bad for you to just try and handle without outside help.
The key to stopping is attempting to understand your thoughts as you cut. Do you have trouble releasing emotions? Do you feel like you need some kind of stimulation? Do you feel emotionally numb at times? These are all questions you should ask yourself.
Unfortunally, the answer is "yes" to all of your questions. Now what?
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Your problem isn't just going to go away over night. Your kidding yourself if you believe that it won't take a lot of mental focus and introspection to overcome your issues.
Anyway, I thought of a creative way to stop doing it: doing tattoos. It hurts (so they say) and it alsaw usefull. Only problem is that my family religious, and according to our bible tattoos are unallowed.. (I persoanlly don't care anything about the religion, but my parents do, and I don't want them to know before I leave the house... if that. anyway long story.)
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More seriously, professional help FTW. There are people out there who can help you through just about anything, and this, remarkably as it seems, is rather common. It will take a while, but between cigarettes, cutting, and Magic (okay, maybe not the last one), you'll soon be able to manage all your habits.
BTW, good job getting yourself to quit smoking so fast, and I hope your "tortures" stay away. Not smoking is one of the healthiest things someone can do for him(her?)self.
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That's still just transference. You're replacing one addiction for another. Again. Which does nothing to actually help solve your situation. You haven't done anything to identify and overcome whatever is wrong that made cutting such an addictive escape in the first place. And until you do, the problem will still be there. You may find more constructive (or at least less harmful) outlets, but that's still only a temporary fix.
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Trust me when I say that the pain of cutting yourself overcome those lousy insmoking pain... hell, it even overcome mental pain.
Before it was the rush of inhaling smoke and flow it from the mouth.
Now its the rush of watching your own blood drips... the thing is that it's not realy addictive; it's not like niccotine of cafein; this I can realy stop whenever I want to. But the thing is that for now that's the only thing that keeps me insane (wich is, ironicly, a something that most people would call a mental problem on its own). And finding just a hobby to relace it with that is not as easy; why? because "Some hobby" won't help me deal with (okay, forget) my problems. And that's why it's so hard to stop. The only thing that before that helped me forger my problems was smoking... and seriously I got to say that smkoing doesn't help as half as cutting myself... it's just the sensation of pure pain, that managed to make me forget even the worst of problems... for these few spectacular days all I care about is some stuiped cut... no outside problems, no desire to smoke... only a physical pain.
p.s. yes, I'm screwd, I know that.
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There are better ways of handling stress...and you will need to master your emotions and understand them if you are going to make it on your own and be a productive and independent adult. I don't need to tell you that should you live with this your entire life, at some point you're going to run out of skin to cut, it will all be open sores and scars and whatnot. Once it becomes a threat to health, you're imposing your own personal problems on someone else and that's irresponsible and dangerous. Not to mention that nervous people often develop ulcers, heart problems, high blood pressure, and risk nervous exhaustion/depression. You live in dangerous times, in a dangerous country, and deserve to give yourself every chance of learning to keep a calm mind in times of crisis.
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Well .... just a thought, but rather than seeking new ways of forgetting your problems, why don't you try to deal with those problems instead? That would get rid of the need to have a way of forgetting them.
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And BTW, SnoopDogg, I'm not cutting myself too harsh; all the cuts I make heal in a matter of weeks.
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Talking about it is the best solution.
....... so seek help from someone other than your parents. Doctor-patient confidentiality exists for a reason. Look into it. Though if your problems involve your parents, chances are you'll have to confront them about those problems (not necessarily mentioning the cutting itself, however) eventually.
Yeah, that's still not a good thing.
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I really think you owe it to them to be honest. Any reasonable parent would recommend you seek help, and not blame you or threaten to put you in an institution. Also, I don't know how it works in your country, but here in the US if you're under 18 your parents have a lot to say about your making medical decisions. Leaving them out of things means your options for help might be severely limited, both financially and ethically.
Lastly, If your parents aren't on board with what's going on with you, not only can they not help you, but if they are contributing to the problem in some way, they won't stop.
You cried for help, people in this thread have been answering, now either listen or don't but for crissake think about what people are saying and not just keep coming back with "Yes but..."
I'm 18 and some if it makes a difference...
And believe me, from harshly taught experience, I know my parents. Here's an almost one-to-one conversation that would accur if I'll tell my parents:
Me: Mom, I need to tell you something.
Mom: What is it.
*me revealing sleeves, showing the cuts*
Mom: Are all of these from a fence? from a fall? what is it realy all about? Did someone beat you?
Me: I did it to myself.
Mom: You did WHAT?! Are you crazy? Why on earth would you do that?
Me: It's just all the prolems I'm having recently... it helps forget them.
Mom: Well that's too bad. You better stop doing it or I'm sending you to an institution.
That, more or less, would be the result. And I hate the fact that everytime I open my mouth and complain to my parents about my issues all they do is yell. Instatnly yell. They think all would go away if they just yell and force me to stop doing what I'm doing or else...
The only real solution is to move out, that's way I could litteraly run away from my problems. I could live the way I want to, and how I want to. I won't ever again would have to confront my parents. But that's quite impossible at the moment... it takes alot of money wich I don't have. I realy am here deep in the mud.
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Which really does nothing to change the fact that you should tell them and they deserve to know.
Listen, I have unreasonable parents. Even when they listened to me, they never really heard what I was saying because they were stuck on their own ideas about me. But even they were capable of being levelled to. And I highly doubt your parents are utterly unable to be reasonable. You just need to find a way to make them compromise with you, make them listen, make them help.
It could be as easy (relatively speaking, of course) as saying "Yes, I know that what I'm doing is bad and I'll stop, but I do need your help and support to get through this and fix what's wrong."
I thought that once, too. It really isn't that simple. Problems don't go away if you run from them. Eventually, they'll catch up with you. It's better to learn to deal with them now.
Ha! Good one. Like it or not, your parents will be a part of your life for as long as you live. Even if you never see them again. Even after they're dead and gone.
Only because you seem to want to be.
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Yes, I know it's not okay, that's why I opened this thread, but what can I do? set an appointment to a phycologist myself? the way I see it there are three options:
1) Keep cutting myself, and ignore all the problems.
2) Telling my parents, wich can lead to me being sent to an instutution.
3) Move out.
Option 1 is what I'm doing right now, and we all know it's not a good one.
Option 2 is too much of a risk; they could send me to an instutution regardless of what I'll tell them, because the only words they'lll hear is "me" and "cutting myself", ignoring the rest.
Option 3 is impractical, because it's too much money.
I guess the only thing I can do is to try to approach my parents in some proper way, a way to keep them relaxed and not freaked out and immidiatley send me packing. But I do not know of such way yet.
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Is your family exempt from sending you to Army service? I was under the impression that it was mandatory in Israel, starting at 18.
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Yes, it is. However I got released due to "mental issues", as they stated. But anyway how is that have to do with the thread's topic?
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Uh-huh.
YES!
Have you even read this thread? You have so many more options than that. And pretty much all of them are far more constructive than the ones you listed. So wake up and stop only reading what you want to be told and face reality.
No, no it's not.
Besides the fact that I doubt your parents will ship you off at the first sign of problems (I don't doubt parents like that exist, but for the most part, whenever I hear someone saying their parents will act that way, my cynicism kicks in and I take those claims with a grain of salt. Mostly because such claims are the products of the minds of self-isolated, overdramatic teens.), I'm not even sure they can. I'm not clear on Israeli law, but one would think that your parents can't make such decisions for you once you're eighteen.
Well, it's a bad idea for bigger reasons than the impracticality, but whatever.
Not the only thing you can do (gah!), but it's certainly a start.
Try maturity, calmness and reasonablity.
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Quest for the Forsaken (Set Two of the Excellion Block)
Katingal: Plane of Chains
Dude, if you don't have the balls to go see a psychologist, or something, why are you even posting here? You probably don't even want to fix this.
And if you want to, you have to step up and get out of your comfort zone. Your eighteen, your an adult, you should be able to go by yourself. And alright, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, but still there are alot of helplines you can call, helplines are great, you speak to councillors who are good at listening, they don't make judgements, they listen and they help, they will stay on the phone with you for hours.
And I doubt your parents can be that bad, everyone makes their parents out to be evil, but unless they are heartless rednecks living in Israel, I'm sure they can't be that bad, and they may understand.
You want the pain of cutting yourself to get rid of other pains you have? Thats somewhat understandable. But if you want real pain, not some emo cutting yourself stuff, do something constructive and hard. See how far you can run, and don't stop until you drop. Now that is pain, because once you go far enough, your whole body will be hurting, your sides will literally feel like you got a spear driven right through you, and your legs will be splitting with pain, given you don't wuss out and stop to cut yourself before the good running pain kicks in.
Or punch and kick a punching bag, become a boxer. That can hurt too, or play football, see if the pain of getting run over by a couple 220+ pound guys doesn't take your mind off of your "problems". There are alot better types of pain than watching the blood run down your arm and drip off your finger onto the cold pavement.
And think about it this way, your problems are insignificant in this world. At least your alive. Think about some of the people a thousand miles south of you or so in Africa. They fight for their lives everyday, they see their parents get killed by machetes, or their children, or they get tortured and have their limbs, noses, or ears cut off. Or think about some of the people in the North American native communities, which have the highest suicide rates in probably most of the world for teens. The teens grow up only to have their best friend, their brother, and the guy or girl they like in their class commit suicide. Now those are problems.
Dude, I'm sorry I don't mean to be mean or anything, but you have to step up. Just stop the habit, and you have to want to stop it, and if you have psychological pain, grow balls and go see someone about it, or do something constructive. And telling your parents can't hurt that badly either. I know that if I were a parent I would want my child to come to me with their problems, that way I could help them through it, because I don't think there would be anything more important in life than my kid.
And I must admit I have a contempt for people that cut themselves, its nothing personal, but a couple of friends did that to themselves when I was in high school, one of them ended up killing herself. Which I suppose is a reason this cutting yourself stuff upsets me.
Anyway, good luck, and once again I don't mean to sound mean. I kind of understand what your going through, life gets tough like that, I turned to smoking and quit a bit later (after my friend killed herself), although I never cut myself to fix it.
Once again good luck, but fix it, and make up your mind that you want to fix it, don't think about it and just do it.
If I were in your position, I would sit my parents down and explain to them in a calm, collected manner, that I am going through a rough time and have alot of problems I need to work out, some of which with them. I would then go on to tell them that I would like to see a Counselor, or Psychiatrist of some sorts to help me work out these problems. If you honestly believe your parents will be completley unreasonable if you reveal your cutting yourself, I wouldn't tell them at all untill you have it under control. Just tell them you have alot of stress and emotions you are having difficulty dealing with and would like to see someone about it.
That seems to me to be the easiest and simplest way to deal with this.