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Yes, I see no reason not to treat him like any other boy who would date my daughter. There is only three years difference. He is still in school as well (or at least school age) By the time he is out of highschool she will be 16 and that is age of consent. Since acceptable that if one person is older, if by the time the older one is done highschool the younger one is of age of consent then there is no real issue with the age difference.
Rather than make a big deal to seperate them I would just make sure (as any responsible parent should) that she was educated and aware of the "birdsnbees".
Couldn't say without knowing something about the personality and moral sensibility of the boy.
When I was seventeen, I was dating a fourteen year-old girl for a while; and it was perfectly innocent and nice and all, and her parents approved. But given who I was back then, it really never would've even occurred to me to try to get in her pants. But obviously there are seventeen year-old boys who think they're porn stars and all so...
...yeah, it would depend on the boy.
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i want to answer your question with another question. Why is a 17 year old wanting to date a 14 year old?i take it a freshman girl and a senior boy in high school.There seems to be no future, once he graduates she still has 3 more years in high school while he will probably be off to college. Im not familiar with laws in new zealand(if thats where your living) but in US thats statutory rape if they are caught and reported. This guy obviously has issues if he cant get a girl his own age.
I'll go with my favorite answer to high school level algebra: not enough information.
The long answer is that I would have to learn more about this boy than his age and sex before I'd allow unchaperoned dates. Hanging out, dates where there's at least someone else who is known or can be assumed to be level-head I have no problem with. But that goes with just about any boy with a fourteen-year-old daughter unless I find my daughter to be particularly trustworthy.
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My anecdotal evidence disagrees with yours! EXPLAIN THAT!
i want to answer your question with another question. Why is a 17 year old wanting to date a 14 year old?i take it a freshman girl and a senior boy in high school.There seems to be no future, once he graduates she still has 3 more years in high school while he will probably be off to college. Im not familiar with laws in new zealand(if thats where your living) but in US thats statutory rape if they are caught and reported.
"Dating" and "having sex with" are two rather different things - and the former is perfectly legal.
This guy obviously has issues if he cant get a girl his own age.
I know some happily married people who are ten years apart. Three years is not that large of a difference.
i want to answer your question with another question. Why is a 17 year old wanting to date a 14 year old?i take it a freshman girl and a senior boy in high school.There seems to be no future, once he graduates she still has 3 more years in high school while he will probably be off to college. Im not familiar with laws in new zealand(if thats where your living) but in US thats statutory rape if they are caught and reported. This guy obviously has issues if he cant get a girl his own age.
in new zealand freshman (year 9) is 13y/o and Graduation year (year 13) is 17y/o. its THE most common age diff for relationships in New Zealand schools and the questions been thrown around our national rock radio stations lol.
Also we only have just reached pop. 4million lol. State highway 1 runs from the northern point all the way down to the southern most city and only takes about 18 hours to drive from North to south so people are pretty much always within a days drive of each other lol
We live in a country were ~50% of the populace believe public schooling is a socialist conspiracy and that being called Einstein is an insult. We could try and fix it, but unfortunately the other 50% don't believe in euthanasia.
It would depend on the boy regardless of age difference. Age has nothing to do with it.
By the way, police wouldn't do anything about a 14 year old and 17 year old dating regardless of laws unless someone complained. I have been in this situation when I was 18, my gf at the time was 13. Her mother had no issues with it. (age of consent in Canada at the time was 14) Her daughter was in grade 10, self schooling at home on correspondence, and worked full time. On more than a few occaisions law enforcement became aware we were a couple and said and did nothing. When her mother is right next to us and obviously aware and fine, it isn't their concern anymore.
Maturity is more than a number.
Age of consent laws are there to protect, and sometimes there are good reasons for 14 year olds and 17 year olds to be a couple. Some people do not need protecting.
Reacting "zomg its illegal for you to be with your BF" is ridiculously useless and does more harm. Age of consent covers sex anyways, not relationships. Big difference.
Couldn't say without knowing something about the personality and moral sensibility of the boy.
When I was seventeen, I was dating a fourteen year-old girl for a while; and it was perfectly innocent and nice and all, and her parents approved. But given who I was back then, it really never would've even occurred to me to try to get in her pants. But obviously there are seventeen year-old boys who think they're porn stars and all so...
...yeah, it would depend on the boy.
Pretty much my answer. The way to think about this is to ask why there is a taboo on big age differences in young people dating. The general reason, I think, has to do with power in the relationship. An older boy can definitely wield a lot of power over a young girl, and influence her to do things she would otherwise not do. So the important thing is to see how they interact. If he is a relatively meek and innocent seventeen-year old, and she is fairly asserted and confident, there shouldn't be a problem. But if she's not very self-assured, and he has a strong, aggressive personality, then there are definite reasons to be concerned.
"Dating" and "having sex with" are two rather different things - and the former is perfectly legal.
I know some happily married people who are ten years apart. Three years is not that large of a difference.
im saying for someone who is 17, they are still in school, they are around hundreds of girls there own age almost every day. i can understand someone 36 who "hooks up" with a 28 year old, a 36 year old might not have as many "options" as a 17 year old and has to look outside there own age bracket
By the way, police wouldn't do anything about a 14 year old and 17 year old dating regardless of laws unless someone complained. I have been in this situation when I was 18, my gf at the time was 13. Her mother had no issues with it.
That's a dangerous game for you to have played. People's attitudes (parents included) can change in a heartbeat. If her mother had found out something about you that she didn't like, you could've been in a lot of trouble.
As for the OP, it depends on the boy. There are 14-year-old boys that I wouldn't let a 14-year-old girl date, but there may be 17-year-old boys that I'd allow. Maybe.
It depends on the person completely. When my daughter turns 14 I'll deal with it. I only have as much influence and choice as she gives me, less so than many as I'm a non-custodial parent. I can only hope to educate her so she makes intelligent decisions and chooses not to follow in her mother's footsteps.
That's a dangerous game for you to have played. People's attitudes (parents included) can change in a heartbeat. If her mother had found out something about you that she didn't like, you could've been in a lot of trouble.
She trusted me enough that she had me move in with them. She saw her daughter as an adult and really she was. It was one of the few relationships where my partner had the majority of the control. It was like being 18 and dating a 25 year old who has finished college.
She is probably the only person I have dated with a higher IQ than my own. That was attraction. (for those wondering what a 17 year old may see in a 14 year old.)
I wouldn't let a 14 year old daughter date period.
I think this is probably the correct answer. I don't see what good is going to come out of letting a 14 year old date anyone, much less a 17 year old. These relationships are almost never for the right reasons. Of course I'm just generalizing and under certain circumstances it could be okay, but that's the answer I'd lean towards most of the time.
If I had a daughter, I wouldn't let her date period, much less at the age of 14! And Sakura, that lady let her daughter in a lesbian relationship at such a young age?
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If I had a daughter, I wouldn't let her date period, much less at the age of 14! And Sakura, that lady let her daughter in a lesbian relationship at such a young age?
I was living as a boy at the time, though I doubt she would have stopped her daughter from dating girls. Her mother knew she liked both and never had an issue with it.
ath the age of 13 I dated a 18 year old, we never had sex in our 4 month relationship, at 15 I dated a 12 year old(tryst me she looked 16) never had sex, at 19 now I'm dating a 16 year old and... cough hack... uhh so at 14 I would trust her if I were you only if she showed trust worthyness. I can't say for the boy though it depends on her past dating record nice guys you liked vs the D***s that you didn't like.
I just think that it is most healthy to date some one as close to your age as possible. That whay you can be more of the same peer group.
How would you relate this to a 13 year old in grade 10, schooling by correspondace at home who works full time? She could not relate to anyone her own age, never could. That was why she asked to do her schooling at home, and on her own was finishing it alot faster. All of her friends were 17-25. In many ways she was more mature than most of the 30 year olds I know now, and the reason it never worked out is because at 17 she just was way to ahead of me.
I just think that it is most healthy to date some one as close to your level of experience and maturity as possible. That whay you can be more of the same peer group.
Imma go ahead and say no. 14-17 is just a massive disparity in maturity regardless of how you cut it, not taking into consideration one of the two being socially retarded (and then they really shouldn't be dating, eh?)
Now ask me if a 21 year old and an 18 year old could date? No Problemo!
EDIT: Sakura - Maturity/experience is a FINE gauge for who you should date, until it comes to minors. To me, thats when it gets screwy and just a bit creepy, considering that plenty of 20-somethings and 30-somethings are absolutely immature. Say a 26 year old is dating a 13 year old - by your rule, if they are similar in maturity, that would be ok? =/
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What i want to know are the reasons behind your Answer.
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Rather than make a big deal to seperate them I would just make sure (as any responsible parent should) that she was educated and aware of the "birdsnbees".
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When I was seventeen, I was dating a fourteen year-old girl for a while; and it was perfectly innocent and nice and all, and her parents approved. But given who I was back then, it really never would've even occurred to me to try to get in her pants. But obviously there are seventeen year-old boys who think they're porn stars and all so...
...yeah, it would depend on the boy.
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The long answer is that I would have to learn more about this boy than his age and sex before I'd allow unchaperoned dates. Hanging out, dates where there's at least someone else who is known or can be assumed to be level-head I have no problem with. But that goes with just about any boy with a fourteen-year-old daughter unless I find my daughter to be particularly trustworthy.
I know some happily married people who are ten years apart. Three years is not that large of a difference.
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in new zealand freshman (year 9) is 13y/o and Graduation year (year 13) is 17y/o. its THE most common age diff for relationships in New Zealand schools and the questions been thrown around our national rock radio stations lol.
Also we only have just reached pop. 4million lol. State highway 1 runs from the northern point all the way down to the southern most city and only takes about 18 hours to drive from North to south so people are pretty much always within a days drive of each other lol
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It would depend on the boy regardless of age difference. Age has nothing to do with it.
By the way, police wouldn't do anything about a 14 year old and 17 year old dating regardless of laws unless someone complained. I have been in this situation when I was 18, my gf at the time was 13. Her mother had no issues with it. (age of consent in Canada at the time was 14) Her daughter was in grade 10, self schooling at home on correspondence, and worked full time. On more than a few occaisions law enforcement became aware we were a couple and said and did nothing. When her mother is right next to us and obviously aware and fine, it isn't their concern anymore.
Maturity is more than a number.
Age of consent laws are there to protect, and sometimes there are good reasons for 14 year olds and 17 year olds to be a couple. Some people do not need protecting.
Reacting "zomg its illegal for you to be with your BF" is ridiculously useless and does more harm. Age of consent covers sex anyways, not relationships. Big difference.
Pretty much my answer. The way to think about this is to ask why there is a taboo on big age differences in young people dating. The general reason, I think, has to do with power in the relationship. An older boy can definitely wield a lot of power over a young girl, and influence her to do things she would otherwise not do. So the important thing is to see how they interact. If he is a relatively meek and innocent seventeen-year old, and she is fairly asserted and confident, there shouldn't be a problem. But if she's not very self-assured, and he has a strong, aggressive personality, then there are definite reasons to be concerned.
im saying for someone who is 17, they are still in school, they are around hundreds of girls there own age almost every day. i can understand someone 36 who "hooks up" with a 28 year old, a 36 year old might not have as many "options" as a 17 year old and has to look outside there own age bracket
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As for the OP, it depends on the boy. There are 14-year-old boys that I wouldn't let a 14-year-old girl date, but there may be 17-year-old boys that I'd allow. Maybe.
She trusted me enough that she had me move in with them. She saw her daughter as an adult and really she was. It was one of the few relationships where my partner had the majority of the control. It was like being 18 and dating a 25 year old who has finished college.
She is probably the only person I have dated with a higher IQ than my own. That was attraction. (for those wondering what a 17 year old may see in a 14 year old.)
I think this is probably the correct answer. I don't see what good is going to come out of letting a 14 year old date anyone, much less a 17 year old. These relationships are almost never for the right reasons. Of course I'm just generalizing and under certain circumstances it could be okay, but that's the answer I'd lean towards most of the time.
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I was living as a boy at the time, though I doubt she would have stopped her daughter from dating girls. Her mother knew she liked both and never had an issue with it.
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How would you relate this to a 13 year old in grade 10, schooling by correspondace at home who works full time? She could not relate to anyone her own age, never could. That was why she asked to do her schooling at home, and on her own was finishing it alot faster. All of her friends were 17-25. In many ways she was more mature than most of the 30 year olds I know now, and the reason it never worked out is because at 17 she just was way to ahead of me.
Ill re-edit your post so it is more accurate
Now ask me if a 21 year old and an 18 year old could date? No Problemo!
EDIT: Sakura - Maturity/experience is a FINE gauge for who you should date, until it comes to minors. To me, thats when it gets screwy and just a bit creepy, considering that plenty of 20-somethings and 30-somethings are absolutely immature. Say a 26 year old is dating a 13 year old - by your rule, if they are similar in maturity, that would be ok? =/