We all know that, in order to attract someone, we need a good mix of the following traits:
- Intelligence and knowledge: be it simple high IQ to understand about everything or knowing lots of info about interesting or local subjects, just to have a nice chat.
- Interesting skills: Like being a good dancer or race cars.
- Personality and behavior: Your education, politeness, the ability to express yourself, the way you approach others.
- Physical appareance: The way you dress, how much you exercise, the way you take care of your body, you haircut, etc.
- Resources: Where can you invite the person, what can you buy him/her, what luxuries can you afford.
Of course, to attract someone specifically, you need to adjust them accordingly to that person's interest.
But when trying to just get the most laids in your life, to maximize your chances with the average persone, how would you order them?
Also, feel free to mention any parameters that could change this (gender, location, culture, religion, etc.)
If you meant "sex", in my experience it highly depends on age.
Sorry about my english. Learning english seems like a never-ending process.
I talking about "scoring" at a bar, "picking up" someone from a party or just attract someone. At that normally leads to sex at some point (be it that moment or at some other date), but I don't think it's necessary that sex happens. Could just be trying to get the most number of dates to find your perfect soulmate, for example.
1) Personality
A funny, nice, engaging person will always make me attracted to them more than anything else.
2) Physical Appearance
It's shallow. But it is important to me that I am sexually attracted to someone to consider them a potential mate.
3) Interesting Skills
Arts and Crafts intrigue me.
4) Intelligence
Arguably my lowest priority. I prefer any potential mate to be less intelligent than myself.
5) Resources
The only reason this places lower than intelligence in importance is because I don't care what you can get for me financially, only emotionally.
The biggest two truisms for attracting a significant other.
1. Be Attractive
2. Don't be un-nattractive.
Within five seconds of meeting someone, they already have decided whether or not they would be willing to sleep with you based on looks alone. Generally, this is a subconscious happening. After that, comes personality. People say "intelligence" is a turn-on, but I think a good personality blows that out of the water.
Don't neglect reaction. When a guy shows interest in a girl, he is going to be encouraged if she reacts by returning the interest. Then she, picking up on his reaction to her reaction, is going to be encouraged as well, and they keep building up interest this way until there's a real connection. We've all seen this happen a zillion times, but very rarely do I see it mentioned in lists of attractive traits. Maybe it just comes off kind of the wrong way when you state it. "What, dude, you think she's hot if she looks like she's into you? Talk about your low standards."
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Intelligence by itself isn't attractive. Only if it enables you to do something attractive it is (e.g. Bill Gates becoming vastly rich by being smart).
No, I've definitely given (and gotten) second looks after pointless displays of erudition. When a girl kicks my ass at trivia night, I don't think I'm getting attracted to her wealth.
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If you let her walk away without breaking that ice, usually because you're too scared of rejection or something...none of your other traits matter.
I'm neither good looking, or rich. I've been successful at starting relationships first because I am fearless in approach, and second because I have enough personality and wit to break the ice in an interesting and inviting manor that doesn't scare them off.
Wit is something I think is often overlooked. It's not the same as intelligence. A brain who doesn't have witty charm is not going to do too well picking up ladies. A woman you meet at the park or the bar isn't going to have time to check on your mensa membership. You have to break that ice fast, melt it down, and warm her up.
Of course, I'm going on 33, married with a kid, so those days are far behind me.
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But Trivia isn't intelligence. You are attracted to the fact that she is "well read." Not necessarily intelligent.
That's a finer distiction than I expect a limbic system to make, there's a strong correlation in any case, and even if there weren't, there are plenty of other examples of "intelligence" I could have chosen.
OK, I have to rephrase. I assume that most people playing MTG and therefore people on this board are mostly male. What I meant is that being smart doesn't make a guy attractive. Nor does playing video games. Or playing MTG. But don't we all dig girls who love to play video games?
Well, sure. Shared interests are another very common way of bonding. The girls who don't love video games are gonna be more into guys who are into literature or saving the rainforest or chartered accountancy or whatever else they like. I don't think there's any intrinsic gender difference here.
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Even in my teens, I rarely liked the "hot girl with the huge tits and nice ass." Too much competition for those women and fawning on those sorts of girls I found to be a waste of taste time unless if they had a nice personality.
I wanted a best friend for life. Better off to find the low maintenance chick that you can be best friends with for life that has high standards and goals and a great personality. Sure being hot is a plus, but at some point if you're with her long enough you and her look like something between the Crypt Keeper and Yoda.
The wife fits what I found attractive in my previous girl friends. I took a chance and dated a bit outside of my race for a long while, but was pleased with the results. Parents were okay with it, my father actually encouraged it or as he said "don't limit your options." Granted the wife was also interested in learning a new language and the like and very open to new things. So that inquisitiveness and willingness to try something that takes work to pass on a legacy is always great to have.
And I agree with BS, you want someone whose going to return your reactions. As it scales, you want someone that's going to be reliable, steadfast, and level headed.
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Individualities may form communities, but it is institutions alone that can create a nation.
Nothing succeeds like the appearance of success.
Here is my principle: Taxes shall be levied according to ability to pay. That is the only American principle.
0. Physical appearance- has to meet a certain minimum there as a prerequisite.
1. Masochism- those lot tend to be intelligent by default.
2. Intelligence- great at English at the very least, able to keep up with me.
3. Shared interests- the least likely of the bunch, but very welcome.
0. Physical appearance- has to meet a certain minimum there as a prerequisite.
1. Masochism- those lot tend to be intelligent by default.
2. Intelligence- great at English at the very least, able to keep up with me.
3. Shared interests- the least likely of the bunch, but very welcome.
... what? Masochism? Likes pain and humiliation? "tend to be intelligent by default?"
You're going to have to explain that.
And your view of intelligence is disturbing. It sounds like you're trying to directly correlate being able to speak english with intelligence.
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I've always been attracted to intelligence and confidence. A smart, confident woman with moderate looks is far more attractive to me than a conventionally 'hot' one. I really need someone I can talk to about serious issues, which is something previous relationships I've had didn't always provide. It's hard spending a lot of time with someone who is either stupid or mentally lazy.
Physically, I generally like women who look like they eat food on a regular basis (meaning not too skinny). Other than that, I'm not too picky, and I probably dated as many skinny girls as chubby ones in high school. I'm most definitely a 'boob guy', but only in that I like B/C cups. As long as the rest of the person is proportional (meaning no feature out of whack with the rest of the body type) and she can generally be considered 'cute', I'd be interested. Brown skin is a big plus (the best two relationships I was ever in were with brown women, and I married one of them), and I don't find blondes attractive.
If it was only for 'getting most laids', the above paragraph is pretty much it.
But smart and confident is a lot more important than the physical features to me for any kind of relationship.
We all know that, in order to attract someone, we need a good mix of the following traits:
- Intelligence and knowledge: be it simple high IQ to understand about everything or knowing lots of info about interesting or local subjects, just to have a nice chat.
- Interesting skills: Like being a good dancer or race cars.
- Personality and behavior: Your education, politeness, the ability to express yourself, the way you approach others.
- Physical appareance: The way you dress, how much you exercise, the way you take care of your body, you haircut, etc.
- Resources: Where can you invite the person, what can you buy him/her, what luxuries can you afford.
Of course, to attract someone specifically, you need to adjust them accordingly to that person's interest.
But when trying to just get the most laids in your life, to maximize your chances with the average persone, how would you order them?
Also, feel free to mention any parameters that could change this (gender, location, culture, religion, etc.)
It's funny that you started this thread as this is something that I have recently gone though. I made a commitment to changing the way I dressed and looked acted in an effort to attract more women after I got out of my last relationship.
In fact there were two people in this little "social experiment" as we called it.
The idea was simple: Do girls go gaga over a pretty guy the same way a guy goes gaga over a pretty girl? The answer is simply Yes.
So this is what I did:
- I changed how eat. This does more than help with weight lose and control. It affects your mood and energy all day.
- I changed my body composition. Chicks loooove the way guys in 300 (the movie) look. No really, they do.
- I stopped looking and started participating in conversations. I stopped being shy about making jokes or giving people complements. I wasn't immediately confident, but I decided to fake it till I made it, and I did.
Other stuff you can do that will randomly get chicks:
1. Have a nice body. I'm about 6 foot 200 lbs. and I have six pack and large arms/chest/back legs, and a 31 inch waist. Woooohooo, I'm so ****ing awesome!!! I'm just trying to give some perspective here from personal experience, not to brag.
I wasn't shooting to have a "nice body". I wanted to be jacked. It was part of the experiment to see how being really attractive alone could get more female attention.
2. Be nice. You don't have to be a push over, but the "bad boy" thing stops being cool in high school. You can exhibit a dominate position while also being polite.
3. FFS put on some decent clothes. We're talking about quality AND quantity here. Leave the ****ing converse shoes at home going buy something adults wear. This is coming from women, not me. You can look hipster or grunge or w/e and still wear decent clothes.
4. Take care of your skin. Facial wash followed by moisturizer every day. I guess in general I can say to be clean. If you don't shower EVERY DAY...well, you're' doing it wrong.
5. Take care of your hair. This isn't hard, just find a decent hair cut that chicks dig that looks good on you (perhaps the stylist could help).
6. SHAVE....god there are so many sloopy ass mofos that are clueless why they get no play from a ladies.
7. Don't live with your parents. Sorry to those that don't have another option, but as an adult it's a major turn off to be like "yo, wanna come over and hang with my mom...she's cool, wait...click."
8. Be flexible in the music you listen to. Yes, there are some country song you actually like I bet.
9. Dance dance dance. I women love a guy that will dance. Dancing is easy, you watch what other people are doing and immiate it. Before you know it you'll be freelancing and having a blast and getting numbers.
10. Be prepared to drop some money. Someone people can do it without spending, some can't. I'm somewhere in the middle.
The pick line you are looking for is:
(friendly eyes, big smile, open posture) "Hi, I'm (name), can I buy you a drink?"
If that doesn't work, seriously, **** that chick. She's not interested or sh wants a grand gesture from you before you've even met.
Lastly, confidence. This NOT something you have to have to exhibit. You can fake it. People will believe you. At this point I can approach anyone. Walk up confidently, speak in a clear voice, make eye contact, don't stare at her boobs, and buy her a drink, ask to dance, her name, w/e. DON'T attempt random small talk. They get that from every ****ing guy they meet. If you're talking about the weather, pack it in and over on, you blew it.
And remember, there are MILLIONS of them. M-I-L-L-I-O-N-S.
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The OP's native language is apparently Spanish. Give him a break; my membership of the Grammatik Third Reich is limited to when I can have pun doing so. But to get to the top, remember this acrostic:
Appearance
Charisma
Money
Everything else
Also, if you like someone, you have to make the first move. I don't care if you're a man or a woman.
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I think people redefine what they consider attractive based on who they end up with.
I've had a friends who was with a flat chested girl, and they would never shut up about how much it turned them on and how they hated chicks with a large chest. 6 months later, same dude is dating a girl with a large chest, and he can't shut up about how much he loves women with huge breasts and is constantly bragging about them. Same thing with hair color, height, weight, ethnicity, sexual experience, age, you name it.
So I rarely put any weight into what guys say they like. Or, to put it another way, the only quality I've seen that men *really* care about is a girls ability to say "Yes". Everything else is easily rationalized.
We all know that, in order to attract someone, we need a good mix of the following traits:
- Intelligence and knowledge: be it simple high IQ to understand about everything or knowing lots of info about interesting or local subjects, just to have a nice chat.
- Interesting skills: Like being a good dancer or race cars.
- Personality and behavior: Your education, politeness, the ability to express yourself, the way you approach others.
- Physical appareance: The way you dress, how much you exercise, the way you take care of your body, you haircut, etc.
- Resources: Where can you invite the person, what can you buy him/her, what luxuries can you afford.
Of course, to attract someone specifically, you need to adjust them accordingly to that person's interest.
But when trying to just get the most laids in your life, to maximize your chances with the average persone, how would you order them?
Also, feel free to mention any parameters that could change this (gender, location, culture, religion, etc.)
Simple if you want the most sex, the choice of Resources, Their are sites that show its cheeper to hire an escort 4 times a week than get married. So long as people are willing to exchange intercourse for money resources (money perticuarly) will always be king.
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- Intelligence and knowledge: be it simple high IQ to understand about everything or knowing lots of info about interesting or local subjects, just to have a nice chat.
- Interesting skills: Like being a good dancer or race cars.
- Personality and behavior: Your education, politeness, the ability to express yourself, the way you approach others.
- Physical appareance: The way you dress, how much you exercise, the way you take care of your body, you haircut, etc.
- Resources: Where can you invite the person, what can you buy him/her, what luxuries can you afford.
Of course, to attract someone specifically, you need to adjust them accordingly to that person's interest.
But when trying to just get the most laids in your life, to maximize your chances with the average persone, how would you order them?
Also, feel free to mention any parameters that could change this (gender, location, culture, religion, etc.)
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If you meant "sex", in my experience it highly depends on age.
If you're a teenager, physical appearance is usually evaluated first.
As you get in your late teens to twenties, being confident and having a great sense of humor gets you further.
When you're in your 30s and up, nothing beats looking affluent.
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I talking about "scoring" at a bar, "picking up" someone from a party or just attract someone. At that normally leads to sex at some point (be it that moment or at some other date), but I don't think it's necessary that sex happens. Could just be trying to get the most number of dates to find your perfect soulmate, for example.
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A funny, nice, engaging person will always make me attracted to them more than anything else.
2) Physical Appearance
It's shallow. But it is important to me that I am sexually attracted to someone to consider them a potential mate.
3) Interesting Skills
Arts and Crafts intrigue me.
4) Intelligence
Arguably my lowest priority. I prefer any potential mate to be less intelligent than myself.
5) Resources
The only reason this places lower than intelligence in importance is because I don't care what you can get for me financially, only emotionally.
1. Be Attractive
2. Don't be un-nattractive.
Within five seconds of meeting someone, they already have decided whether or not they would be willing to sleep with you based on looks alone. Generally, this is a subconscious happening. After that, comes personality. People say "intelligence" is a turn-on, but I think a good personality blows that out of the water.
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Thanks Tom Brady.
That was one of the funniest SNL skits id seen in awhile.
As for the top traits, there's an old joke:
Sane
Sexy
Smart
Single
Pick 3.
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If you let her walk away without breaking that ice, usually because you're too scared of rejection or something...none of your other traits matter.
I'm neither good looking, or rich. I've been successful at starting relationships first because I am fearless in approach, and second because I have enough personality and wit to break the ice in an interesting and inviting manor that doesn't scare them off.
Wit is something I think is often overlooked. It's not the same as intelligence. A brain who doesn't have witty charm is not going to do too well picking up ladies. A woman you meet at the park or the bar isn't going to have time to check on your mensa membership. You have to break that ice fast, melt it down, and warm her up.
Of course, I'm going on 33, married with a kid, so those days are far behind me.
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Well, sure. Shared interests are another very common way of bonding. The girls who don't love video games are gonna be more into guys who are into literature or saving the rainforest or chartered accountancy or whatever else they like. I don't think there's any intrinsic gender difference here.
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I wanted a best friend for life. Better off to find the low maintenance chick that you can be best friends with for life that has high standards and goals and a great personality. Sure being hot is a plus, but at some point if you're with her long enough you and her look like something between the Crypt Keeper and Yoda.
The wife fits what I found attractive in my previous girl friends. I took a chance and dated a bit outside of my race for a long while, but was pleased with the results. Parents were okay with it, my father actually encouraged it or as he said "don't limit your options." Granted the wife was also interested in learning a new language and the like and very open to new things. So that inquisitiveness and willingness to try something that takes work to pass on a legacy is always great to have.
And I agree with BS, you want someone whose going to return your reactions. As it scales, you want someone that's going to be reliable, steadfast, and level headed.
Ambition must be made to counteract ambition.
Individualities may form communities, but it is institutions alone that can create a nation.
Nothing succeeds like the appearance of success.
Here is my principle: Taxes shall be levied according to ability to pay. That is the only American principle.
1. Masochism- those lot tend to be intelligent by default.
2. Intelligence- great at English at the very least, able to keep up with me.
3. Shared interests- the least likely of the bunch, but very welcome.
... what? Masochism? Likes pain and humiliation? "tend to be intelligent by default?"
You're going to have to explain that.
And your view of intelligence is disturbing. It sounds like you're trying to directly correlate being able to speak english with intelligence.
"Sometimes, the situation is outracing a threat, sometimes it's ignoring it, and sometimes it involves sideboarding in 4x Hope//Pray." --Doug Linn
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9001. Everything else
Physically, I generally like women who look like they eat food on a regular basis (meaning not too skinny). Other than that, I'm not too picky, and I probably dated as many skinny girls as chubby ones in high school. I'm most definitely a 'boob guy', but only in that I like B/C cups. As long as the rest of the person is proportional (meaning no feature out of whack with the rest of the body type) and she can generally be considered 'cute', I'd be interested. Brown skin is a big plus (the best two relationships I was ever in were with brown women, and I married one of them), and I don't find blondes attractive.
If it was only for 'getting most laids', the above paragraph is pretty much it.
But smart and confident is a lot more important than the physical features to me for any kind of relationship.
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Attractive qualities in order of importance:
1. Loyalty.
2. Legs.
3. Willing to let me do my own thing when I want to.
4. There when I want her.
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This man right here knows his priorities.
For me it's:
1- How well they can express themselves
2- Looks
3- Everything else.
It's funny that you started this thread as this is something that I have recently gone though. I made a commitment to changing the way I dressed and looked acted in an effort to attract more women after I got out of my last relationship.
In fact there were two people in this little "social experiment" as we called it.
The idea was simple: Do girls go gaga over a pretty guy the same way a guy goes gaga over a pretty girl? The answer is simply Yes.
So this is what I did:
- I changed how eat. This does more than help with weight lose and control. It affects your mood and energy all day.
- I changed my body composition. Chicks loooove the way guys in 300 (the movie) look. No really, they do.
- I stopped looking and started participating in conversations. I stopped being shy about making jokes or giving people complements. I wasn't immediately confident, but I decided to fake it till I made it, and I did.
Other stuff you can do that will randomly get chicks:
1. Have a nice body. I'm about 6 foot 200 lbs. and I have six pack and large arms/chest/back legs, and a 31 inch waist. Woooohooo, I'm so ****ing awesome!!! I'm just trying to give some perspective here from personal experience, not to brag.
I wasn't shooting to have a "nice body". I wanted to be jacked. It was part of the experiment to see how being really attractive alone could get more female attention.
2. Be nice. You don't have to be a push over, but the "bad boy" thing stops being cool in high school. You can exhibit a dominate position while also being polite.
3. FFS put on some decent clothes. We're talking about quality AND quantity here. Leave the ****ing converse shoes at home going buy something adults wear. This is coming from women, not me. You can look hipster or grunge or w/e and still wear decent clothes.
4. Take care of your skin. Facial wash followed by moisturizer every day. I guess in general I can say to be clean. If you don't shower EVERY DAY...well, you're' doing it wrong.
5. Take care of your hair. This isn't hard, just find a decent hair cut that chicks dig that looks good on you (perhaps the stylist could help).
6. SHAVE....god there are so many sloopy ass mofos that are clueless why they get no play from a ladies.
7. Don't live with your parents. Sorry to those that don't have another option, but as an adult it's a major turn off to be like "yo, wanna come over and hang with my mom...she's cool, wait...click."
8. Be flexible in the music you listen to. Yes, there are some country song you actually like I bet.
9. Dance dance dance. I women love a guy that will dance. Dancing is easy, you watch what other people are doing and immiate it. Before you know it you'll be freelancing and having a blast and getting numbers.
10. Be prepared to drop some money. Someone people can do it without spending, some can't. I'm somewhere in the middle.
The pick line you are looking for is:
(friendly eyes, big smile, open posture) "Hi, I'm (name), can I buy you a drink?"
If that doesn't work, seriously, **** that chick. She's not interested or sh wants a grand gesture from you before you've even met.
Lastly, confidence. This NOT something you have to have to exhibit. You can fake it. People will believe you. At this point I can approach anyone. Walk up confidently, speak in a clear voice, make eye contact, don't stare at her boobs, and buy her a drink, ask to dance, her name, w/e. DON'T attempt random small talk. They get that from every ****ing guy they meet. If you're talking about the weather, pack it in and over on, you blew it.
And remember, there are MILLIONS of them. M-I-L-L-I-O-N-S.
― Christopher Hitchens, God Is Not Great
Appearance
Charisma
Money
Everything else
Also, if you like someone, you have to make the first move. I don't care if you're a man or a woman.
On phasing:
I've had a friends who was with a flat chested girl, and they would never shut up about how much it turned them on and how they hated chicks with a large chest. 6 months later, same dude is dating a girl with a large chest, and he can't shut up about how much he loves women with huge breasts and is constantly bragging about them. Same thing with hair color, height, weight, ethnicity, sexual experience, age, you name it.
So I rarely put any weight into what guys say they like. Or, to put it another way, the only quality I've seen that men *really* care about is a girls ability to say "Yes". Everything else is easily rationalized.
Simple if you want the most sex, the choice of Resources, Their are sites that show its cheeper to hire an escort 4 times a week than get married. So long as people are willing to exchange intercourse for money resources (money perticuarly) will always be king.