So she doesn't break up with you, just silently resents you. Sounds like a great relationship ^__^
You'd have to be stupid to break up with someone who hated something that was a big part of you ^__^
.....which is why I think porn should be dropped. Did I really need to say that? I figured that was implied.
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It's pretty intolerant for her to get pissed off at you looking at porn. You should talk to her about that. Most men look at pornography, when in a relationship or alone. There is nothing bad about it unless you can't get excited by anything else, and that's another thing.
I watch pronography because it "comes looking for me". And frankly, it isn't for sexual pleasure (I have a very active imagination ;)), but for amusement, mostly hentai or really weird porn (which I won't specify). Frankly, I don't want to worry you, but her being against you watching porn might be a symptom for a bigger problem. Talk and talk. Comunication FTW.
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It's pretty intolerant for her to get pissed off at you looking at porn. You should talk to her about that. Most men look at pornography, when in a relationship or alone. There is nothing bad about it unless you can't get excited by anything else, and that's another thing.
I watch pronography because it "comes looking for me". And frankly, it isn't for sexual pleasure (I have a very active imagination ;)), but for amusement, mostly hentai or really weird porn (which I won't specify). Frankly, I don't want to worry you, but her being against you watching porn might be a symptom for a bigger problem. Talk and talk. Comunication FTW.
May I add my two cents? Might be harsh.
These threads really need less people coming here just to justify their own porn watching. Zyrakis' thread was almost the exact same debacle. At least nobody has called the OP's girlfriend a crazy ***** and gotten it locked yet.
Just because "most men do it" doesn't mean you shouldn't give it up. That's terrible logic. And there is something bad about it if it makes her feel uncomfortable. Isn't it funny how that works?
These threads really need less people coming here just to justify their own porn watching. Zyrakis' thread was almost the exact same debacle. At least nobody has called the OP's girlfriend a crazy ***** and gotten it locked yet.
Just because "most men do it" doesn't mean you shouldn't give it up. That's terrible logic. And there is something bad about it if it makes her feel uncomfortable. Isn't it funny how that works?
You obviously missed the WHOLE point of the reply. I'm not justifying anything. I don't need to justify that I watch porn. Hell, I don't WANT to justify anything.
To make it clearer, being intolerant to something that's clearly harmless and it's something that he likes to do, might be a symptom of something else. She might be intolerant to other things. I'm talking about personal experiences: A girlfriend I had was intolerant to me playing Magic. She then went on to become intolerant to me drinking, hanging out with my old friends, and eventually even to playing PC games or chatting to friends I have that she didn't know I had.
Quit trying to justify stuff.
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Porn is very different to Magic, drinking, friends and PC games though, wouldn't you say?
An enjoyable leisure activity that has the potential to damage your life/relationships if one spends an unreasonable amount of time with it, thus neglecting yourself and/or those around you? No, I'd say they're very much similar.
To make it clearer, being intolerant to something that's clearly harmless and it's something that he likes to do, might be a symptom of something else.
Of course she might. That's why I said you have to consider intention. Sounds like you are letting a bad experience with a controlling girl jade your point of view - it's not necessarily unreasonable to desire change in a partner.
To make it clearer, being intolerant to something that's clearly harmless and it's something that he likes to do
It's not clearly harmless. For a relationship partner, she won't want you getting an unrealistic image of a women, unrealistic expectations about sex, and it often depicts things such as adultery and rape. It's also addicting, and other rare things like over-masturbation.
The porn industry is a money making industry. They'll do whatever they have to do make that money, regardless of how it effects you.
Porn is very different to Magic, drinking, friends and PC games though, wouldn't you say?
Of course not. Those are things to do with free time, for example, but I prefer this explanation:
(For the record, I quit drinking while I was with her, and continued to do so for a full years afterwards, until I learned to drink properly. Not that I don't get drunk, I'm not gonna lie, and don't do stupid stuff (a thread here comes to mind), but I know how to behave most of the time. That I thank her, which was good befor it went on to become a nightmare.)
An enjoyable leisure activity that has the potential to damage your life/relationships if one spends an unreasonable amount of time with it, thus neglecting yourself and/or those around you? No, I'd say they're very much similar.
As Mikeyg put it. If you can control those, though, It doesn't damages you. The thread creator didn't specify how much time did he spend watching porn, but I'm one to believe it isn't that much to form a problem. I'm actually thinking the girl might be jelous or afraid, or perhaps insecure. That would be good, it talks that she's interested in her boyfriend. It is on his hands to show her that it isn't gonna destroy anything.
Preparing for the worst, this is the other part of the discussion:
Of course she might. That's why I said you have to consider intention. Sounds like you are letting a bad experience with a controlling girl jade your point of view - it's not necessarily unreasonable to desire change in a partner.
I'm just firing off a friendly warning here. What happened to me has happened to a lot of people. Ask around. Read a bit. Funny is that what I'm saying isn't necesarily about the girl: I remember it from a magazine I read a few days ago that reminded me of that thing.
OK, I'll bite. What am I trying to justify?
I'd like to ask the same. You seem to resent something about porn and justify your feelings attacking anyone who watches porn.
It's not clearly harmless. For a relationship partner, she won't want you getting an unrealistic image of a women, unrealistic expectations about sex, and it often depicts things such as adultery and rape. It's also addicting, and other rare things like over-masturbation.
The porn industry is a money making industry. They'll do whatever they have to do make that money, regardless of how it effects you.
Again, the thread creator didn't stated how much porn did he watch... but he has a girlfriend, and (implicated) maintains a sexual relationship with her. I'd say he doesn't has that problem. Besides, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.
This thread isn't supposed to discuss adiction to porn, is about someone whose girlfriend doesn't wants him to watch porn. If he has an addiction, he should seek help, but I (perhaps I missed it) haven't seen any indications of the sign. I am not addicted to porn, whatever sexual problems I might have aren't related to porn, I don't even SAVE porn in my PC, and the last porn movie I watched was with six males and three woman in the room, fully clothed. Watching porn is not a bad thing.
Yes, it can lead to something bad, but regular sex might as well. Am I wrong?
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It's not clearly harmless. For a relationship partner, she won't want you getting an unrealistic image of a women, unrealistic expectations about sex, and it often depicts things such as adultery and rape. It's also addicting, and other rare things like over-masturbation.
The porn industry is a money making industry. They'll do whatever they have to do make that money, regardless of how it effects you.
So he has sex with his partner too. Oops, now there's no more unrealistic images of women or sex, as he knows what they and it are really like.
Depicting things like adultery and rape is only of concern to psychos who cannot distinguish depictions from reality.
Porn itself is not harmful. But it can harm people. Casting the blame on porn as evil is a cop-out, really.
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I'd like to ask the same. You seem to resent something about porn and justify your feelings attacking anyone who watches porn.
Hahahahaha. If anything, I watch too much. I do not resent porn, I have said several times it isn't harmful itself.
What I resent is the people (and maybe you don't belong in this group and I unfairly pidgeonholed you) who come into threads like this with blind cries of "don't be her *****!" - those cries motivated by the fact they feel they need to defend themselves (and their porn-watching) against girls. If they cast the anti-porn girls as emotionally-insecure whackjobs, then they don't have to feel bad about watching it.
And I don't think that's particularly fair.
Hahahahaha. If anything, I watch too much. I do not resent porn, I have said several times it isn't harmful itself.
What I resent is the people (and maybe you don't belong in this group and I unfairly pidgeonholed you) who come into threads like this with blind cries of "don't be her *****!" - those cries motivated by the fact they need to defend themselves (and their porn-watching) against girls. If they cast the anti-porn girls as emotionally-insecure whackjobs, then they don't have to feel bad about watching it.
And I don't think that's particularly fair.
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What I resent is the people (and maybe you don't belong in this group and I unfairly pidgeonholed you) who come into threads like this with blind cries of "don't be her *****!" - those cries motivated by the fact they feel they need to defend themselves (and their porn-watching) against girls.
Since I used that particular phrase in my post, I can't help but to think you're talking about me.
I tried to be as civil as possible in this discussion I've been trying to calmly and clearly illustrate my point, but as your posts carry a very degrading 'what I say is fact' attitude.....it is really starting to bug me, and many of the others here as well.
I'd really appreciate it if you don't discount my entire post as me being 'blind' and 'defending myself against my porn watching'. I HAVE LITTLE TO NO PORN WATCHING TO DEFEND!
When I said 'don't be her *****' I meant for that in the long run. Dont do everything she says. I never, ever suggested that you'd be her '*****' to listen to her when she says she wants you to stop watching porn. If it somehow set a precedent for her that whatever she says you'll do, then that's a problem in and of itself. However, dropping one habit the girlfriend deems as 'intolerable' to the relationship is a perfectly acceptable, reasonable, and good decision.
After looking over the last couple pages of this thread I can't help but to notice that there are many posts trying to satisfy your rantings of your own personal views, rather than trying to construct a viable argument to the OP's situation. And that is how to act to a girlfriend who's unhappy with porn watching.
For my sanity, I'm not gonna respond to further posts by you. Every one of your posts have traces of 'I'm right, and if you don't agree with me I'll say that you're blind and don't know what you're talking about'.
You can go ahead and retaliate to that, but please be conscious of what you're saying.
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Again, the thread creator didn't stated how much porn did he watch... but he has a girlfriend, and (implicated) maintains a sexual relationship with her. I'd say he doesn't has that problem. Besides, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.
This thread isn't supposed to discuss adiction to porn, is about someone whose girlfriend doesn't wants him to watch porn. If he has an addiction, he should seek help, but I (perhaps I missed it) haven't seen any indications of the sign. I am not addicted to porn, whatever sexual problems I might have aren't related to porn, I don't even SAVE porn in my PC, and the last porn movie I watched was with six males and three woman in the room, fully clothed. Watching porn is not a bad thing.
Yes, it can lead to something bad, but regular sex might as well. Am I wrong?
I'm giving reasons why his girlfriend wouldn't want him to watch porn. I'm telling you that her not liking porn isn't some idiotic blind thing to believe. I gave reasons, and not to count if she is religious and finds it sinful, then you can't discount that as blind either. It's her religious beliefs and they are just as right as your opinion that porn isn't bad.
I would suggest not lying to your girlfriend, and probably quitting for her. Talk to her first and see what she says. If you can't handle quitting, I'd suggest ending the relationship over lying to her.
Honestly, if you're so bent on watching porn that you're willing to lie to someone that you're emotionally involved with in order to watch it, you probably have no business dating anyone in the first place.
I'm giving reasons why his girlfriend wouldn't want him to watch porn. I'm telling you that her not liking porn isn't some idiotic blind thing to believe. I gave reasons, and not to count if she is religious and finds it sinful, then you can't discount that as blind either. It's her religious beliefs and they are just as right as your opinion that porn isn't bad.
I would suggest not lying to your girlfriend, and probably quitting for her. Talk to her first and see what she says. If you can't handle quitting, I'd suggest ending the relationship over lying to her.
As I said, Comunication is key. THere is no reason whatsoever to not quit watching porn as long as a coherent reason is given. But please talk to her.
To the thread creator: Don't lie to her. Talk. Talk. Talk. It rules.
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Since I used that particular phrase in my post, I can't help but to think you're talking about me.
Actually not really, more the people who got Zyrakis' thread on the topic closed.
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I tried to be as civil as possible in this discussion I've been trying to calmly and clearly illustrate my point, but as your posts carry a very degrading 'what I say is fact' attitude.....it is really starting to bug me, and many of the others here as well.
I apologise if my awesomeness overwhelms you.
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I'd really appreciate it if you don't discount my entire post as me being 'blind' and 'defending myself against my porn watching'. I HAVE LITTLE TO NO PORN WATCHING TO DEFEND!
Well then I'm obviously not talking about you, am I?
I'm not even going to bother commenting on the rest. You really start getting personal there and I'm rather confused by it all: you say you don't watch much porn but also that I must be discrediting your comments as the justification for your porn-watching. And frankly that makes no sense.
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What was wrong with that? He was complaining about me taking my positions with confidence, a rather ludicrous complaint in my opinion, and I gave it a ludicrous response.
I'm happy to be proven wrong (surely that's come up in these 200 or so posts of mine) and to reconsider things, even if I don't fill my every post with "Personally, I believe..." and "in my opinion".
Nothing. Though that couldn't have screamed "FLAMEBAIT" any louder if it had a megaphone.
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I been with my wife for 10 years and we watch porn together. I do also look at some for some solo action, but I try to keep it minimal as it does just slow down my actual sex time with my wife (which I find much more enjoyable). I also have some porn with my wife that is also good to look at. Porn is fine if used wisely, but as with most things they get abused. My wife even allows the occasional strip club, but I don't really find very fun, it more just something for the guys to do while out drinking once in while. We trust each other so there are no problems, but keep in mind this trust takes some time to build (possibly years).
it's all good
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As I was saying before it's all just a matter of choice in what you feel comfortable. Nothing here is straight bad or good, is what you feel is worth it. Hiding things from others usually happens, I prefer to not have little to none, but some work with much more. There is no cut and dry quidelines, it all what we decide and if in a relationship it how you both/all decide. I could go on much more about this idea, but basically we make our own morals and they are subject to change. Some folks are very strict about them and will stick with what they choose in virtually every situation, some are more relaxed about it. Only you can decide where you want to be.
As always...
it's all good
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The thing is people I wasn't lying about it. I was very open with it and honest.
I saw it as her wanting to change something of me unfoundedly. There is nothing wrong with Pornography, it can be abused as with anything, but I wasn't abusing it.
Still at the end of the day, it upset her, and It didn't give me enough pleasure to justify upsetting her. We talk and talked, and we made a compromise, I now have pornography....just not with other women :D!
Still at the end of the day, it upset her, and It didn't give me enough pleasure to justify upsetting her. We talk and talked, and we made a compromise, I now have pornography....just not with other women :D!
Sounds like you've come to the same compromise that my girlfriend and I have! Although in my case, it wasn't so much a compromise because personally I enjoy the, er .."self-created" material much much more..
As mentioned, the biggest problem I think many people have with their significant others' porn habits is that often these habits are hidden and lied about.
I've done some reading on the subject of sexuality, and discovered that it is a natural reaction (specifically male, but also female in some cases) to become "excited" by seeing other couples mate. This is not only a human response, and those people that consider it "disgusting" or immoral are simply denying human (and animal) nature. Our bodies and brains are built to respond to various stimuli in a variety of ways, and this is one of them. It's not necessarily something that can be controlled (although I'm sure you can "train" yourself not to like it, eg. Pavlov's dogs).
.....which is why I think porn should be dropped. Did I really need to say that? I figured that was implied.
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It's pretty intolerant for her to get pissed off at you looking at porn. You should talk to her about that. Most men look at pornography, when in a relationship or alone. There is nothing bad about it unless you can't get excited by anything else, and that's another thing.
I watch pronography because it "comes looking for me". And frankly, it isn't for sexual pleasure (I have a very active imagination ;)), but for amusement, mostly hentai or really weird porn (which I won't specify). Frankly, I don't want to worry you, but her being against you watching porn might be a symptom for a bigger problem. Talk and talk. Comunication FTW.
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May I add my two cents? Might be harsh.
These threads really need less people coming here just to justify their own porn watching. Zyrakis' thread was almost the exact same debacle. At least nobody has called the OP's girlfriend a crazy ***** and gotten it locked yet.
Just because "most men do it" doesn't mean you shouldn't give it up. That's terrible logic. And there is something bad about it if it makes her feel uncomfortable. Isn't it funny how that works?
You obviously missed the WHOLE point of the reply. I'm not justifying anything. I don't need to justify that I watch porn. Hell, I don't WANT to justify anything.
To make it clearer, being intolerant to something that's clearly harmless and it's something that he likes to do, might be a symptom of something else. She might be intolerant to other things. I'm talking about personal experiences: A girlfriend I had was intolerant to me playing Magic. She then went on to become intolerant to me drinking, hanging out with my old friends, and eventually even to playing PC games or chatting to friends I have that she didn't know I had.
Quit trying to justify stuff.
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An enjoyable leisure activity that has the potential to damage your life/relationships if one spends an unreasonable amount of time with it, thus neglecting yourself and/or those around you? No, I'd say they're very much similar.
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Of course she might. That's why I said you have to consider intention. Sounds like you are letting a bad experience with a controlling girl jade your point of view - it's not necessarily unreasonable to desire change in a partner.
OK, I'll bite. What am I trying to justify?
It's not clearly harmless. For a relationship partner, she won't want you getting an unrealistic image of a women, unrealistic expectations about sex, and it often depicts things such as adultery and rape. It's also addicting, and other rare things like over-masturbation.
The porn industry is a money making industry. They'll do whatever they have to do make that money, regardless of how it effects you.
Of course not. Those are things to do with free time, for example, but I prefer this explanation:
(For the record, I quit drinking while I was with her, and continued to do so for a full years afterwards, until I learned to drink properly. Not that I don't get drunk, I'm not gonna lie, and don't do stupid stuff (a thread here comes to mind), but I know how to behave most of the time. That I thank her, which was good befor it went on to become a nightmare.)
As Mikeyg put it. If you can control those, though, It doesn't damages you. The thread creator didn't specify how much time did he spend watching porn, but I'm one to believe it isn't that much to form a problem. I'm actually thinking the girl might be jelous or afraid, or perhaps insecure. That would be good, it talks that she's interested in her boyfriend. It is on his hands to show her that it isn't gonna destroy anything.
Preparing for the worst, this is the other part of the discussion:
I'm just firing off a friendly warning here. What happened to me has happened to a lot of people. Ask around. Read a bit. Funny is that what I'm saying isn't necesarily about the girl: I remember it from a magazine I read a few days ago that reminded me of that thing.
I'd like to ask the same. You seem to resent something about porn and justify your feelings attacking anyone who watches porn.
Again, the thread creator didn't stated how much porn did he watch... but he has a girlfriend, and (implicated) maintains a sexual relationship with her. I'd say he doesn't has that problem. Besides, there is nothing wrong with fantasies.
This thread isn't supposed to discuss adiction to porn, is about someone whose girlfriend doesn't wants him to watch porn. If he has an addiction, he should seek help, but I (perhaps I missed it) haven't seen any indications of the sign. I am not addicted to porn, whatever sexual problems I might have aren't related to porn, I don't even SAVE porn in my PC, and the last porn movie I watched was with six males and three woman in the room, fully clothed. Watching porn is not a bad thing.
Yes, it can lead to something bad, but regular sex might as well. Am I wrong?
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So he has sex with his partner too. Oops, now there's no more unrealistic images of women or sex, as he knows what they and it are really like.
Depicting things like adultery and rape is only of concern to psychos who cannot distinguish depictions from reality.
Porn itself is not harmful. But it can harm people. Casting the blame on porn as evil is a cop-out, really.
Hahahahaha. If anything, I watch too much. I do not resent porn, I have said several times it isn't harmful itself.
What I resent is the people (and maybe you don't belong in this group and I unfairly pidgeonholed you) who come into threads like this with blind cries of "don't be her *****!" - those cries motivated by the fact they feel they need to defend themselves (and their porn-watching) against girls. If they cast the anti-porn girls as emotionally-insecure whackjobs, then they don't have to feel bad about watching it.
And I don't think that's particularly fair.
Now we understand each other
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Since I used that particular phrase in my post, I can't help but to think you're talking about me.
I tried to be as civil as possible in this discussion I've been trying to calmly and clearly illustrate my point, but as your posts carry a very degrading 'what I say is fact' attitude.....it is really starting to bug me, and many of the others here as well.
I'd really appreciate it if you don't discount my entire post as me being 'blind' and 'defending myself against my porn watching'. I HAVE LITTLE TO NO PORN WATCHING TO DEFEND!
When I said 'don't be her *****' I meant for that in the long run. Dont do everything she says. I never, ever suggested that you'd be her '*****' to listen to her when she says she wants you to stop watching porn. If it somehow set a precedent for her that whatever she says you'll do, then that's a problem in and of itself. However, dropping one habit the girlfriend deems as 'intolerable' to the relationship is a perfectly acceptable, reasonable, and good decision.
After looking over the last couple pages of this thread I can't help but to notice that there are many posts trying to satisfy your rantings of your own personal views, rather than trying to construct a viable argument to the OP's situation. And that is how to act to a girlfriend who's unhappy with porn watching.
For my sanity, I'm not gonna respond to further posts by you. Every one of your posts have traces of 'I'm right, and if you don't agree with me I'll say that you're blind and don't know what you're talking about'.
You can go ahead and retaliate to that, but please be conscious of what you're saying.
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I'm giving reasons why his girlfriend wouldn't want him to watch porn. I'm telling you that her not liking porn isn't some idiotic blind thing to believe. I gave reasons, and not to count if she is religious and finds it sinful, then you can't discount that as blind either. It's her religious beliefs and they are just as right as your opinion that porn isn't bad.
I would suggest not lying to your girlfriend, and probably quitting for her. Talk to her first and see what she says. If you can't handle quitting, I'd suggest ending the relationship over lying to her.
As I said, Comunication is key. THere is no reason whatsoever to not quit watching porn as long as a coherent reason is given. But please talk to her.
To the thread creator: Don't lie to her. Talk. Talk. Talk. It rules.
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Actually not really, more the people who got Zyrakis' thread on the topic closed.
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Well then I'm obviously not talking about you, am I?
I'm not even going to bother commenting on the rest. You really start getting personal there and I'm rather confused by it all: you say you don't watch much porn but also that I must be discrediting your comments as the justification for your porn-watching. And frankly that makes no sense.
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What was wrong with that? He was complaining about me taking my positions with confidence, a rather ludicrous complaint in my opinion, and I gave it a ludicrous response.
I'm happy to be proven wrong (surely that's come up in these 200 or so posts of mine) and to reconsider things, even if I don't fill my every post with "Personally, I believe..." and "in my opinion".
B Ob Nixilis, The Fallen - EDH
R Red Deck Wins - Standard
R Burn- Legacy
RG Spiders! - Multiplayer
GW Enchantress -Casual
U/G Treshold - Casual
RGU Snake-Tongue Aggro-Control - Retired
W Old School Rebels! -Retired
As I was saying before it's all just a matter of choice in what you feel comfortable. Nothing here is straight bad or good, is what you feel is worth it. Hiding things from others usually happens, I prefer to not have little to none, but some work with much more. There is no cut and dry quidelines, it all what we decide and if in a relationship it how you both/all decide. I could go on much more about this idea, but basically we make our own morals and they are subject to change. Some folks are very strict about them and will stick with what they choose in virtually every situation, some are more relaxed about it. Only you can decide where you want to be.
As always...
it's all good
thanks and enjoy
Tidbits of George Carlin :
“I like it when a flower or a little tuft of grass grows through a crack in the concrete. It's so f***in' heroic.”
"I'm completely in favor of the separation of Church and State. My idea is that these two institutions screw us up enough on their own, so both of them together is certain death."
"Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist”
I saw it as her wanting to change something of me unfoundedly. There is nothing wrong with Pornography, it can be abused as with anything, but I wasn't abusing it.
Still at the end of the day, it upset her, and It didn't give me enough pleasure to justify upsetting her. We talk and talked, and we made a compromise, I now have pornography....just not with other women :D!
Sounds like you've come to the same compromise that my girlfriend and I have! Although in my case, it wasn't so much a compromise because personally I enjoy the, er .."self-created" material much much more..
As mentioned, the biggest problem I think many people have with their significant others' porn habits is that often these habits are hidden and lied about.
I've done some reading on the subject of sexuality, and discovered that it is a natural reaction (specifically male, but also female in some cases) to become "excited" by seeing other couples mate. This is not only a human response, and those people that consider it "disgusting" or immoral are simply denying human (and animal) nature. Our bodies and brains are built to respond to various stimuli in a variety of ways, and this is one of them. It's not necessarily something that can be controlled (although I'm sure you can "train" yourself not to like it, eg. Pavlov's dogs).
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