You see I am about to fly and meet this chick who I have been talking to for awhile. She sent me some nice pics and all and is pretty much ready to go when I fly down to chill at her parents pad for awhile. The problem is she has this uptight nosey brother who thinks that for some reason just because he has trouble both emotionally and physically having relations with the opposite sex that he should ruin it for her.
I don't get it guys/girls; what can I do to get rid of the pesky bro? Should I just tell him to chill? Beat him at his local FNM? What say you?
You see I am about to fly and meet this chick who I have been talking to for awhile. She sent me some nice pics and all and is pretty much ready to go when I fly down to chill at her parents pad for awhile. The problem is she has this uptight nosey brother who thinks that for some reason just because he has trouble both emotionally and physically having relations with the opposite sex that he should ruin it for her.
I don't get it guys/girls; what can I do to get rid of the pesky bro? Should I just tell him to chill? Beat him at his local FNM? What say you?
definitely beat him at FNM. it's unwritten law that a sisters purity is yours after that.
Honestly, it's up to you how to handle this situation. Do you envision this becoming a serious relationship? If so, you want to be good with her family. Be respectful, don't hang all over each other around him. Wait until you have privacy.
Anything else is up to the girl. She needs to tell her brother to mind his own business, much like the OP's sister needs to do.
It's hard to imagine your little sister being at that age. I remember when my sister got to the age where she started getting interested in sex and whatnot, and it wasn't an easy pill to swallow. Granted, I didn't stumble across any kind of picture of her in the act or anything, but the first guy she was active with was one of my buddies. I do agree with you in the fact that it's hard to look at them the same way again. However, if you truly care about the two of them, then it's the first of many bitter pills you'll have to swallow. Just think of it like this: when you were her age, if you were into stuff, did you want other people telling you what to do/interfering? The best thing you can do is let her know that you are there if she ever wants to talk about anything or if she needs guidance. Just give her room to grow. She 'll probably surprise you.
Please, don't listen to anything Sakura or Alacar says. The only reason Alacar said that Sakura knew what he was talking about was because he has some kind of man-crush on him. Alacar pretty much falls for everything that is either a girl or poses as a girl. Your best bet is to do what any smart person does and totally ignore anything they say. They should really just toke on each other's pipe and get it over with.
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The reason I know what I am talking about is because; I have been through this myself, had a good decade past my teen years to reflect back on it, and have studied deeply into child psychology.
Yeah Alacar has the hots for me, but it has nothing to do with me being "remotely female", it is because he knows me very well and respects me. Yeah he is a bit of a push over for a set of tits, but that gets me random errands where I send him scouring the net for stuff. For him to tell you to listen to what I say is because he actually respects my opinion. He is one of the best members on this site and has done more for it than you ever will.
Ironically; while you put down my comments, your own are not so far off from my own. Disagreeing with someone just because you dislike them is ignorant and foolish. In this case, you just came out looking like a fool.
Don't bother with a come back, I won't reply to you. This is a good thread with an important discussion and deserves better than to be trolled.
Stop 1-upping your post count and be useful, or GET OFF THE THREAD.
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It's necessary to ask, at least - just talk to her casually, go for a drive or a walk or something. Not in front of her friend of course, that would mortify her; just talk about safety and make sure she's doing what she wants, not just hurting herself for the guy's pleasure.
Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Washington 16 Colorado, Connecticut, Illinois, Missouri, New York, Texas 17 Arizona, California, Idaho, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wyoming 18
Shindash, you forget that most states also have a "three year" rule; if you're more than 3 years older than your "underaged" partner, you get jailed.
I know this is the case in NJ and I'm pretty sure a good number of other states have similar consent laws. So the dudes friend is probably already in a pot of water set to boil legally as it is.
Regardless of actual laws, let your sister do what she wants. The best way to learn, in magic and in life, is to make mistakes. You have to lose a lot of games before you finally realize how to win one. If your friend is a standup guy, I'm sure she's in good hands and despite the promiscuity of your friend (and as a 20 year old boy, can you blame him?). If anything, and I mean this in as less-creepily as I can, it sounds like you may just be jealous, either of your friend or of your sister I'm not sure, and that you should just let what happens happen.
If your friend gets her pregnant, though, cave his skull in. There's a line between letting your friend make some play mistakes and your friend outright breaking the rules.
and make sure she's doing what she wants, not just hurting herself for the guy's pleasure.
She's 16, not 12. She knows exactly what she is doing, and even mentioning things like her 'hurting herself' for this kid are only going to further the OP's unnecessary involvement.
She's a young adult now, what's on her camera is her own business. He knows when he needs to step in, and if he didn't, then plenty of people here have informed him.
She's 16, not 12. She knows exactly what she is doing
I'm almost thirty, married with kids, and I still don't know exactly what I'm doing.
To the OP:
If I were in your situation, after getting over the initial shock, the one thing I'd be really concerned about is that my sister keep her sexual experimentation free of any drugs or alcohol, as such can lead to all sorts of nastiness. But even if her path were to turn potentially self-destructive...
Your sister is at that age where her own will for herself is Gospel. She will resent any perceived attempts to "run her life," especially from a brother. Your best bet is to try to be cool about it: you need to understand, and really believe, that she has a right to make decisions for herself that you disagree with; and then you need to make sure that she knows that. Then hopefully she will trust you enough that, if she does get into some really hot water and is in danger of being harmed (and I'm talking criminal harm here), she'll confide in you and you'll be able to intervene or find someone who can. But otherwise, it's her life; and you've got to sit on the sidelines and let her live it. Be a cheerleader for her if you can, but don't presume to be a coach.
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anyways ... there are a few points id like to make.
a. Sakura know what she is talking about. listen to her
b. She is 16, and its not so strange to become sexually active at that age
c. Your over obsession with this is unhealty.
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Dude. They don't make em like they use to. Things start and end eariler than you want to imagine. The only thing kids don't do earlier than our parents these days is get married (...and stay married). But if you've been watching the news lately, you'll hear things about Miley Cyrus and her MySpace page and her adult photos (of her in a wet t-shirt or something of that sorts). Anywho, the average age for girls to lose their virginy these days is 15-17, and boys lose it at 16-18. Boys and girls have urges, hormones are pumping everyday through your sister's veins. To be blunt, its gonna get weird. You're gonna have to be the bigger brother and accept what is about to happen (or happening) and be supportive. You can still beat off the wolves (...lol...) but one day she might be left with some roid headed prick because you've beaten away all the decent dudes. You know what I mean? She might have to figure life out the difficult way. Curiosities, etc, etc will crush her inhibitions one day. AND how do I know all this? I was baby brother and had been caught doing this exact same thing at 17. Right when camera phones came out, me and my girlfriend did the same little game. My 5 year older sister was totally cool about it and just told me wear a condom and not get anybody pregnant our mom and dad will kill you. Not only that, my girlfriend at the time was 15 and her older bro was one of my best friends and he kinda caught us doing some stuff...you know what I mean? He ended being cool about it too...he was the protective type but he trusted me. Even when things were all F'd up between us he was still cool. You baby sis is all grown up (almost) and it is probably a depressing reality check. Good Luck dude.
stop 1 upping YOUR post count and copying exactly what i just said in this thread to help the op.
i think as an addendum, you should also NOT get your parents involved, more pressure makes this overall a worse propisition
As much as I hate getting in immature scuffles over 'who helped more':
let her do what she wants...to a point
if its definitely bad (theres a litany) then step in, otherwise be cool
jesus why do you care so much, honestly set her straight briefly and then so be it, stop being a whiney (3 letter word) (female dog).
Look, i remember in high school my friends would get pictures from other girls theyre age in positions youd consider "pornography". Its really not a big deal jesus, its just another human being.
And if shes willingly taking the pictures, then so be it, who really cares. Just lay low and play it cool, that always is hte best approach
but srsly, PICS or it DIDNT HAPPEN!
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just because shes your sister doesnt mean her personal life is YOUR business...which it isnt
yeah im definitely getting that vibe now
he must like emo music...:eek:
its NOT YOUR BUSINESS
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god just dont get into her life
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dont get into peoples life
srsly
IDK.....
maybe the op is a proxy of one of them
Sorry, but I fail to see how I said anything along the lines of what you said, besides maybe "Be casual about it". And I also fail to see how the majority of your posts on this thread were anything of importance or helpful to the original poster... Unless "Srsly, get owt uv hurr lief" repeated over and over is intended to serve some kind of purpose.
Also, I agree with what was said earlier - if she gets an STD or becomes pregnant, show no mercy. kill him.
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I had some free time, for those who just want numbers and dont feel like reading through the finer details, here are the ages of consent in all of the USA States ;
Alabama, Alaska, Arkansas, Delaware, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Iowa, Kansas, Kentucky, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, New Jersey, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Washington 16 Colorado, Connecticut, Illinois, Missouri, New York, Texas 17 Arizona, California, Idaho, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wyoming 18
Most states also have allowance for underage people having sex together. This ranges from 12-16, but in most cases is 2 years less than whatever the usual age of consent is. Many states have "Position of Power" clauses protecting anyone under 18 regardless of the standard legal age.
So it is unlikely it is illegal for his sister to have sex at all.
Heh, figures you didn't list Wisconsin. This place is a ****hole. The age of consent here is 18 in case it's relevant.
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Arizona, California, Idaho, Oregon, Tennessee, Utah, Virginia, Wyoming 18
Most states also have allowance for underage people having sex together. This ranges from 12-16, but in most cases is 2 years less than whatever the usual age of consent is. Many states have "Position of Power" clauses protecting anyone under 18 regardless of the standard legal age.
So it is unlikely it is illegal for his sister to have sex at all.
This list is not entirely accurate. Like in Michigan, which is listed as 16, the age of consent is 16 for those between 16 and (I think) 20, but it's still stagitory for those outside that range.
I know people that got nailed for it, so don't try and say it's not true.
Aside from that, it's pointless to stop your sister from doing anything that she sets her mind to. Just be a good brother and keep her safe.
This list is not entirely accurate. Like in Michigan, which is listed as 16, the age of consent is 16 for those between 16 and (I think) 20, but it's still stagitory for those outside that range.
I'm pretty sure Michigan legally frowns upon anyone 18+ with anyone under 18. Although I last heard that 4+ years ago in my senior year of high school.
As for the situation at hand, I can understand why the OP is reaching out for a second opinion on the scenario. It's not like he had an idea this was going on, or he heard from a second hand source, but he visually saw it on a cell phone. Two things can come from this:
1.) I don't know who would think otherwise, but it'd be fairly scarring for me if I saw pictures of a sibling [I have no sisters, but I can only imagine] doing sexual acts with a friend of mine. Whether it's legal is not really the point here, so much as it's you having a visual representation sort of locked into your brain of your sibling and friend doing things. And really, anyone with any sort of imagination will start to think of things they don't want to. So, it's hard to really dwell on it and assume it'll just go away. You need to talk to SOMEBODY.....and really the best way to save others of the same mental imagery is to revert to third party opinion. Even though MTGS isn't the greatest source of advice necessarily, it is still a bunch of indifferent third parties who won't judge you or your sibling [or at least they shouldn't.....screw them].
2.) The other issue is the fact that there are pictures on her cell phone. Considering these pictures are easily sent to people, this is where bad things can happen. People really shouldn't be recording discrete acts like that. You never know who might end up with them. Although the OP didn't go into much detail, I think it's safe to assume that the pictures would be classified as pornography. If these pictures/images gets to even one creepy friend, they will print them, send them on the internet, etc. for money.
So, my $.02:
As long as what she's doing is legal, there's nothing that you are really able to do in terms of telling her what she should/shouldn't be doing outside of your concerns for potential consequences. Since her relationship is with a friend of yours, I can see how you feel as though you are affected and it's your business, as you have to continue your friendship knowing what he and your sister are getting into.
It can't be an easy thing to deal with, but you more or less have to.
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Just make sure she knows about safe sex practices if she doesn't already. Beyond that there isn't really much you can do. You said yourself that the guy is a pretty good guy so you shouldn't have too much to worry about in terms of him getting her pregnant or anything.
Just make sure that they're both respecting each other and that he's being cool and up front with the family. Anything beyond being supportive and answering any posed questions or giving any wanted advice is up to your father to handle however he sees fit, don't make yourself the bad guy.
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I have to say, begin an only child rocks, I'm glad I don't have to deal with these kinds of situations...though, begin a young male I have dated many little sisters, so I guess I can give a little prospective from the other side.
First off, you say you are the good type, thats nice, keep in mind, most males aren't. I'm going to assume that this dude dating your sister is thinking like myself. That would be the bad type To make it simple, assume the worst. Always! Don't leave them in a room alone, don't let them stay out too long, does he have a car, cuz they have a lot of space in the backseat. Assume the worst. Watch out for him trying to be nice with you. The older brother is the only thing in his way, and if he wins you over well then he can do w/e. Men are evil, people are evil in general, but men are the worst. Men will only think with one head at a time if you know what I mean, so assume the worst.
A majority of the people here seem to say let her do w/e, since she is becoming an adult and blah blah blah. BS, dude is at your house for less than a month, his plan is to love her and leave her.
Also, skanky pics on cell phones are a sign that she is defiantly not mature enough to be left alone and to practice safe sex on her own, or at least its a sign she has no respect for her "gorgeous" body.
Assume the worst, they are horrible, disrespectful, sexmongers!
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Assume the worst, they are horrible, disrespectful, sexmongers!
While I think I should be offended by that, I agree. A massive majority of the folks with whom I share my gender seem to be giant creeps, at best. I see nothing wrong with doing whatever you can to protect your family members from a potential douchebag until you know they're decent, but at the same time, you can't obsess. She'll be with him regardless of what you want, and telling her not to often instead pushes her closer to him. Let her figure things out for herself, and give her whatever help you can while she's making her mistakes. Don't stop supporting her, but don't overkill it with "Brotherly Love" either.
Men are evil, people are evil in general, but men are the worst. Men will only think with one head at a time if you know what I mean, so assume the worst.
Agree with this statement for the most part. The only problem is, he's not going to be able to protect his sister forever.
Men are evil, people are evil in general, but men are the worst. Men will only think with one head at a time if you know what I mean, so assume the worst.
Unlike the above poster, I'll plainly take offense to this. Women aren't any less evil for not being open about it like men. It isn't evil to be lustful, especially at such a young age. Are you really accusing a 16 year old boy of being evil for wanting to score with a hottie?
I think dropping a word like evil is wrong here, but if you must do it then please don't push it onto one half of the human race.
Men are evil, people are evil in general, but men are the worst. Men will only think with one head at a time if you know what I mean, so assume the worst.
Assume the worst, they are horrible, disrespectful, sexmongers!
Hmm, should he act on the grossly exaggerated, generalizing portrayal of some random on the internet when thinking about this individual, or his own knowledge of the guy's character based on the fact that they've known each other for quite a long time? Gee, that's a tough one!
Hmm, should he act on the grossly exaggerated, generalizing portrayal of some random on the internet when thinking about this individual, or his own knowledge of the guy's character based on the fact that they've known each other for quite a long time? Gee, that's a tough one!
It is kind of tough.
How well does he know this guy? Is just casually through Magic or have they been friends for a long time?
One of my best friends started cutting himself senior year in high school. I never saw that one coming. I'm not sure what he was going through at the time. This is a guy I hung out with everyday at school and most of the time on weekends. Dude went nuts for some reason. Actually his gf broke up with him. I'm pretty sure that's what triggered the series of unfortunate events. I guess I just never though he would go that far.
The guy's friend and sister are still very young and growing. It's hard to say what kind of people they are and how mature they are.
While teenage boys tend to be more often than not blinded by hormones, so are girls. Your sister is proving that. The last few posts are just ignorance perpetuating stereotypes.
Most of the truth attached to the stereotypes are the result of kids being raised improperly educated in matters of sexual activity.
While teenage boys tend to be more often than not blinded by hormones, so are girls. Your sister is proving that. The last few posts are just ignorance perpetuating stereotypes.
Most of the truth attached to the stereotypes are the result of kids being raised improperly educated in matters of sexual activity.
So are you pretty much stating that everyone here is pretty much raise poorly next to you being raised correctly? Thats a pretty ignorant statement if I say so myself. If anything kids are raised MORE poorly now at days due to Political correct parents HIDING the facts from there kids.
While teenage boys tend to be more often than not blinded by hormones, so are girls. Your sister is proving that. The last few posts are just ignorance perpetuating stereotypes.
I don't think it's your place to tell posters on this forum whether or not they were raised properly any more than it's the OP's place to decide for his sister what she should or shouldn't do in her relationships with the opposite sex.
Hmm, should he act on the grossly exaggerated, generalizing portrayal of some random on the internet when thinking about this individual, or his own knowledge of the guy's character based on the fact that they've known each other for quite a long time? Gee, that's a tough one!
I am trying to voice a side that nobody else is mentioning. Hell, I've dated my current gf for about a year, spending time with her almost everyday, and she knows nothing about me. She knows me now. You can't keep track of everyone at all times, you don't know what he really wants, you have to assume.
The dude seems confused about how to handle this situation he's in, so my advice is to think nothing positive out of his friend and his sister. You cannot trust people.
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You see I am about to fly and meet this chick who I have been talking to for awhile. She sent me some nice pics and all and is pretty much ready to go when I fly down to chill at her parents pad for awhile. The problem is she has this uptight nosey brother who thinks that for some reason just because he has trouble both emotionally and physically having relations with the opposite sex that he should ruin it for her.
I don't get it guys/girls; what can I do to get rid of the pesky bro? Should I just tell him to chill? Beat him at his local FNM? What say you?
definitely beat him at FNM. it's unwritten law that a sisters purity is yours after that.
Honestly, it's up to you how to handle this situation. Do you envision this becoming a serious relationship? If so, you want to be good with her family. Be respectful, don't hang all over each other around him. Wait until you have privacy.
Anything else is up to the girl. She needs to tell her brother to mind his own business, much like the OP's sister needs to do.
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The reason I know what I am talking about is because; I have been through this myself, had a good decade past my teen years to reflect back on it, and have studied deeply into child psychology.
Yeah Alacar has the hots for me, but it has nothing to do with me being "remotely female", it is because he knows me very well and respects me. Yeah he is a bit of a push over for a set of tits, but that gets me random errands where I send him scouring the net for stuff. For him to tell you to listen to what I say is because he actually respects my opinion. He is one of the best members on this site and has done more for it than you ever will.
Ironically; while you put down my comments, your own are not so far off from my own. Disagreeing with someone just because you dislike them is ignorant and foolish. In this case, you just came out looking like a fool.
Don't bother with a come back, I won't reply to you. This is a good thread with an important discussion and deserves better than to be trolled.
Stop 1-upping your post count and be useful, or GET OFF THE THREAD.
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It's necessary to ask, at least - just talk to her casually, go for a drive or a walk or something. Not in front of her friend of course, that would mortify her; just talk about safety and make sure she's doing what she wants, not just hurting herself for the guy's pleasure.
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Shindash, you forget that most states also have a "three year" rule; if you're more than 3 years older than your "underaged" partner, you get jailed.
I know this is the case in NJ and I'm pretty sure a good number of other states have similar consent laws. So the dudes friend is probably already in a pot of water set to boil legally as it is.
Regardless of actual laws, let your sister do what she wants. The best way to learn, in magic and in life, is to make mistakes. You have to lose a lot of games before you finally realize how to win one. If your friend is a standup guy, I'm sure she's in good hands and despite the promiscuity of your friend (and as a 20 year old boy, can you blame him?). If anything, and I mean this in as less-creepily as I can, it sounds like you may just be jealous, either of your friend or of your sister I'm not sure, and that you should just let what happens happen.
If your friend gets her pregnant, though, cave his skull in. There's a line between letting your friend make some play mistakes and your friend outright breaking the rules.
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She's 16, not 12. She knows exactly what she is doing, and even mentioning things like her 'hurting herself' for this kid are only going to further the OP's unnecessary involvement.
She's a young adult now, what's on her camera is her own business. He knows when he needs to step in, and if he didn't, then plenty of people here have informed him.
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To the OP:
If I were in your situation, after getting over the initial shock, the one thing I'd be really concerned about is that my sister keep her sexual experimentation free of any drugs or alcohol, as such can lead to all sorts of nastiness. But even if her path were to turn potentially self-destructive...
Your sister is at that age where her own will for herself is Gospel. She will resent any perceived attempts to "run her life," especially from a brother. Your best bet is to try to be cool about it: you need to understand, and really believe, that she has a right to make decisions for herself that you disagree with; and then you need to make sure that she knows that. Then hopefully she will trust you enough that, if she does get into some really hot water and is in danger of being harmed (and I'm talking criminal harm here), she'll confide in you and you'll be able to intervene or find someone who can. But otherwise, it's her life; and you've got to sit on the sidelines and let her live it. Be a cheerleader for her if you can, but don't presume to be a coach.
who me?
she is too young for me.
anyways ... there are a few points id like to make.
a. Sakura know what she is talking about. listen to her
b. She is 16, and its not so strange to become sexually active at that age
c. Your over obsession with this is unhealty.
As much as I hate getting in immature scuffles over 'who helped more':
Sorry, but I fail to see how I said anything along the lines of what you said, besides maybe "Be casual about it". And I also fail to see how the majority of your posts on this thread were anything of importance or helpful to the original poster... Unless "Srsly, get owt uv hurr lief" repeated over and over is intended to serve some kind of purpose.
Also, I agree with what was said earlier - if she gets an STD or becomes pregnant, show no mercy. kill him.
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Heh, figures you didn't list Wisconsin. This place is a ****hole. The age of consent here is 18 in case it's relevant.
This list is not entirely accurate. Like in Michigan, which is listed as 16, the age of consent is 16 for those between 16 and (I think) 20, but it's still stagitory for those outside that range.
I know people that got nailed for it, so don't try and say it's not true.
Aside from that, it's pointless to stop your sister from doing anything that she sets her mind to. Just be a good brother and keep her safe.
I'm pretty sure Michigan legally frowns upon anyone 18+ with anyone under 18. Although I last heard that 4+ years ago in my senior year of high school.
As for the situation at hand, I can understand why the OP is reaching out for a second opinion on the scenario. It's not like he had an idea this was going on, or he heard from a second hand source, but he visually saw it on a cell phone. Two things can come from this:
1.) I don't know who would think otherwise, but it'd be fairly scarring for me if I saw pictures of a sibling [I have no sisters, but I can only imagine] doing sexual acts with a friend of mine. Whether it's legal is not really the point here, so much as it's you having a visual representation sort of locked into your brain of your sibling and friend doing things. And really, anyone with any sort of imagination will start to think of things they don't want to. So, it's hard to really dwell on it and assume it'll just go away. You need to talk to SOMEBODY.....and really the best way to save others of the same mental imagery is to revert to third party opinion. Even though MTGS isn't the greatest source of advice necessarily, it is still a bunch of indifferent third parties who won't judge you or your sibling [or at least they shouldn't.....screw them].
2.) The other issue is the fact that there are pictures on her cell phone. Considering these pictures are easily sent to people, this is where bad things can happen. People really shouldn't be recording discrete acts like that. You never know who might end up with them. Although the OP didn't go into much detail, I think it's safe to assume that the pictures would be classified as pornography. If these pictures/images gets to even one creepy friend, they will print them, send them on the internet, etc. for money.
So, my $.02:
As long as what she's doing is legal, there's nothing that you are really able to do in terms of telling her what she should/shouldn't be doing outside of your concerns for potential consequences. Since her relationship is with a friend of yours, I can see how you feel as though you are affected and it's your business, as you have to continue your friendship knowing what he and your sister are getting into.
It can't be an easy thing to deal with, but you more or less have to.
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Just make sure that they're both respecting each other and that he's being cool and up front with the family. Anything beyond being supportive and answering any posed questions or giving any wanted advice is up to your father to handle however he sees fit, don't make yourself the bad guy.
First off, you say you are the good type, thats nice, keep in mind, most males aren't. I'm going to assume that this dude dating your sister is thinking like myself. That would be the bad type To make it simple, assume the worst. Always! Don't leave them in a room alone, don't let them stay out too long, does he have a car, cuz they have a lot of space in the backseat. Assume the worst. Watch out for him trying to be nice with you. The older brother is the only thing in his way, and if he wins you over well then he can do w/e. Men are evil, people are evil in general, but men are the worst. Men will only think with one head at a time if you know what I mean, so assume the worst.
A majority of the people here seem to say let her do w/e, since she is becoming an adult and blah blah blah. BS, dude is at your house for less than a month, his plan is to love her and leave her.
Also, skanky pics on cell phones are a sign that she is defiantly not mature enough to be left alone and to practice safe sex on her own, or at least its a sign she has no respect for her "gorgeous" body.
Assume the worst, they are horrible, disrespectful, sexmongers!
While I think I should be offended by that, I agree. A massive majority of the folks with whom I share my gender seem to be giant creeps, at best. I see nothing wrong with doing whatever you can to protect your family members from a potential douchebag until you know they're decent, but at the same time, you can't obsess. She'll be with him regardless of what you want, and telling her not to often instead pushes her closer to him. Let her figure things out for herself, and give her whatever help you can while she's making her mistakes. Don't stop supporting her, but don't overkill it with "Brotherly Love" either.
Agree with this statement for the most part. The only problem is, he's not going to be able to protect his sister forever.
Unlike the above poster, I'll plainly take offense to this. Women aren't any less evil for not being open about it like men. It isn't evil to be lustful, especially at such a young age. Are you really accusing a 16 year old boy of being evil for wanting to score with a hottie?
I think dropping a word like evil is wrong here, but if you must do it then please don't push it onto one half of the human race.
Hmm, should he act on the grossly exaggerated, generalizing portrayal of some random on the internet when thinking about this individual, or his own knowledge of the guy's character based on the fact that they've known each other for quite a long time? Gee, that's a tough one!
It is kind of tough.
How well does he know this guy? Is just casually through Magic or have they been friends for a long time?
One of my best friends started cutting himself senior year in high school. I never saw that one coming. I'm not sure what he was going through at the time. This is a guy I hung out with everyday at school and most of the time on weekends. Dude went nuts for some reason. Actually his gf broke up with him. I'm pretty sure that's what triggered the series of unfortunate events. I guess I just never though he would go that far.
The guy's friend and sister are still very young and growing. It's hard to say what kind of people they are and how mature they are.
Most of the truth attached to the stereotypes are the result of kids being raised improperly educated in matters of sexual activity.
So are you pretty much stating that everyone here is pretty much raise poorly next to you being raised correctly? Thats a pretty ignorant statement if I say so myself. If anything kids are raised MORE poorly now at days due to Political correct parents HIDING the facts from there kids.
I don't think it's your place to tell posters on this forum whether or not they were raised properly any more than it's the OP's place to decide for his sister what she should or shouldn't do in her relationships with the opposite sex.
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I am trying to voice a side that nobody else is mentioning. Hell, I've dated my current gf for about a year, spending time with her almost everyday, and she knows nothing about me. She knows me now. You can't keep track of everyone at all times, you don't know what he really wants, you have to assume.
The dude seems confused about how to handle this situation he's in, so my advice is to think nothing positive out of his friend and his sister. You cannot trust people.