to add a note, she probably wouldn't be at work with anal bleeds since that is not a measly symptom.
I also agree that you should try and see things through her eyes, use that overthinking part of your mind in her shoes.
However, being female, I have been with my boyfriend for a long time. Since 7/8th grade up until present (2.5yr college students) and it was well known amongst the students and teachers of our school. Yet this guy who what one chair above me in band (even though he couldn't play worth a damn) insisted on hitting on me. I guess I can be a little flirtatious with friends at times (being in such a well known and long relationship kind of makes you feel like no other guy is going to push it beyond friendship) but this guy took it beyond that. He was deliberately trying to divide me and my love up. Instantly I turned anti-him. Half ignoring him, poking fun at him behind his back. Just my response. Though I wouldn't ever give him my number or make dates with him (Would just flat out say no time or other plans) but at the time I couldn't drive so I guess dates were out of the question. Though I am guilty of manipulating him into buying me more ink for my pens... I don't know about other girls, but for me... If a man knows I am in a relationship and even dares to push ours outside of friendship, he is no longer a friend of mine. I was just too timid/nice? to tell the man that I will NEVER like him like that.
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No single person would come up with anal bleeding as an excuse not to hang out with you.
This is the best quote of 2010.
The thing that bothers me about this whole situation is that you didn't just ask the girl out on a date after helping her with her essay the first time. Fortune favors the bold, to the victor go the spoils, etc. Skirting the issue may have made the girl think you weren't interested in her that way and so she friend zoned you.
The thing that bothers me about this whole situation is that you didn't just ask the girl out on a date after helping her with her essay the first time. Fortune favors the bold, to the victor go the spoils, etc. Skirting the issue may have made the girl think you weren't interested in her that way and so she friend zoned you.
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Yes I did falter in that regard. I didn't really know that I liked her at the time, it just sort of developed as the semester went on....
No single person would come up with anal bleeding as an excuse not to hang out with you.
I don't get it.....are you trying to say the anal bleeding excuse was legit? But that's not the issue. The issue is that she never called to explain herself. I recieved zero calls, zero texts, zero voicemail explainations for her actions and why she stood me up on the date. If it was because of anal bleeding, she could have told her manager to tell me that she had to go home sick.....when she left the restraunt she could have called me and said "hey i have to go to the emergency room, can't hang out lol" but she didn't contact me Friday. She didn't contact Saturday or Sunday or Monday. She waited until she ran directly into me to give me some lame anal bleeding excuse.
Again, I don't doubt that she has anal bleeding......but that is NOT why she didn't hang out with me on Friday. She either made other plans, was too tired, was not interested, etc.....
All I can say is that no girl is worth this much effort. I have been reading the thread, more or less lurking moar than I should. I guess my best advice is to find out what is up with her, or just ignore her and tell her to quit bothering you if all she is going to do is come up with excuses that you guys couldn't hang out together. I cant really say that much as I have only had one girlfriend, and we have been together for... 1 year and 7+ months. I cant really offer much advice but what I have heard happen to other friends of mine.
Doesn't the whole mormon thing kind of restrict you to either very asexual women or other mormons? I'd think that would be a huge issue for most people.
We've established hes being kind of a creeper. Lets try and be helpful now.
Personally, I'd just approach the situation like this; Apologize for being a d***(NOT FILTER DODGING.)- Make a note to call yourself that. Whether you beleive her or not, it gives you no right to point fingers, because there's no proof thats she was lying, and doing so will only make you out to be the bad guy. Sound sincere, but dont come off as begging for forgiveness. Apologize a second time, then continue Jonesing about as usual. If things dont pick up after that day, leave it alone.
And yeah...Blood in her stool? Not believeable, but it mightve been possible she decided to take a crap at work, noticed a red murk in the toilet, and ran to the doctor. I wouldn't tell my boss that I was pooping blood either, which would explain him not knowing.
Doesn't the whole mormon thing kind of restrict you to either very asexual women or other mormons? I'd think that would be a huge issue for most people.
Hey, Im Mormon.
And my Ex's sister just left about 4 hours ago. Sue me, please?
It's understandable blue control players would be shocked and in denial at the notion of this card, since their decks have been dominating multiple formats for an eternity yet they've curiously never once had to deal with any counter-hosers that weren't ineffectual, narrow CRAP.
Hey, Im Mormon.
And my Ex's sister just left about 4 hours ago. Sue me, please?
You need to learn to tell when a girl likes you and when they just think that you'd be a good friend. If you could have, then you'd have saved yourself all this trouble. I know some girls who are quite similar to her (in terms of relationship with me, not in terms of character etc.) and I know that I would have got myself quite screwed by now if I had responded the same way as you.
Also, I think that it's a bit rich you calling her psycho, presumably she's just been avoiding you, and anything she's done has been a result of what you've done. I'd be willing to bet that anal bleeding wasn't an excuse. She could have just been keeping it private from her boss/workmates, seeing as it is quite an embarrassing thing. I don't know how this would have worked out in real life, but it's quite likely she wasn't lying, maybe just bending the truth (which surely she has a right to do in the situation?). It's less likely that the communication issues weren't excuses, but you never know. I've had some pretty dodgy phones.
However, you want some advice. Apologize to her (though don't go into detail). If she says something like "What are you sorry for?" then you're fine. If she accepts your apology, you're probably fine too. Just let her come to you, not the other way round.
I find it quite ridiculous how most people in this thread are turning the problem onto you. Even if you tried to contact her a bit excessivly (which isn't as clear-cut as some people want to make you believe), the much more important failure is hers in a) sending clear (or even coherent) signals about the nature of your 'relationship' (Enthusiastically meeting up with you and telling you about anal bleeding after assumedly having stored your away as potentially dangerous 'creeper', is not logical in any book, though some people here seem to believe it is.) and b) communicating in a reliable manner (She obvioulsy lies and gives bizzare excuses, but then rekindles your 'contact' instead of making use of the normally coherent 'wear down the man's interest' strategy. So let me put that as clear as possible: She is the problem, not you! (Your only problem might be inexperience.)
Take the advice that was already given by a few others: Avoid her! Don't invest any more time or confidence in that person. She's definitly not worth it and would just cause you even more emotional turmoil. Is she playing you? I'm not sure. But you want to protect yourself, so it's your turn to use the 'wear down the girl's interest' strategy, at this point.
Thank you for being the voice of reason in this thread. I like how people here think the girl telling others about her anal bleeding is suppose to be the normal one, and I'm the crazy one.
Sure I might have excessively called her. Sure, I concede that. But I don't stand people up, send weird signals, make up excuses that are verified to be lies, and then 5 days later come up with a anal bleeding excuse. That's a lot worse than anything I did.
Thank you for being the voice of reason in this thread. I like how people here think the girl telling others about her anal bleeding is suppose to be the normal one, and I'm the crazy one.
Sure I might have excessively called her. Sure, I concede that. But I don't stand people up, send weird signals, make up excuses that are verified to be lies, and then 5 days later come up with a anal bleeding excuse. That's a lot worse than anything I did.
You know anal bleeding happens right? Consider my approach.
Women tend tp get the benifit of the doubt in most situations where they shouldn't. This just happens to be one of those cases.
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It's understandable blue control players would be shocked and in denial at the notion of this card, since their decks have been dominating multiple formats for an eternity yet they've curiously never once had to deal with any counter-hosers that weren't ineffectual, narrow CRAP.
No, really, you need to see the probable truth for what it is.
First of all, quit using the phrase "pathological liar"; you misuse it. She is probably lying out of no other compulsion than the fact that you creep her the hell out. Do you realize that people lie all the time? I'm not condoning it, but it is a very powerful social tool that leads to various shortcuts. Hell, I probably lie on a daily basis just to get out of a phone call or two.
I doubt she is lying to you because she has some sort of personality disorder. By the sound of your stories, you've probably just pushed her too far and crowded her too close to give her much breathing room for a story that holds water, and so you end up on the receiving end of oddball statements like, "there was blood in my stool." That, or maybe that was a legitimate emergency and she's now using it as leverage to put distance between the two of you, under the assumption that
1. an immature guy would not be attracted to the idea of blood in a girl's stool, and
2. being creepy is a sign of social immaturity, so
3. telling the creepster there was blood in her stool might scare him off.
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Does she think I'm an idiot?
Let's see, you're clearly under the impression that you're the helpless victim of some psychotic misfit with blood in her crap that compulsively lies just to play with you. And yet you have a five-page thread about her.
Well shucks, I don't know if she thinks you're an idiot, but if you want my two cents, I can certainly tell you what you're acting like.
We've established hes being kind of a creeper. Lets try and be helpful now.
Personally, I'd just approach the situation like this; Apologize for being a d***(NOT FILTER DODGING.)- Make a note to call yourself that. Whether you beleive her or not, it gives you no right to point fingers, because there's no proof thats she was lying, and doing so will only make you out to be the bad guy. Sound sincere, but dont come off as begging for forgiveness. Apologize a second time, then continue Jonesing about as usual. If things dont pick up after that day, leave it alone.
And yeah...Blood in her stool? Not believeable, but it mightve been possible she decided to take a crap at work, noticed a red murk in the toilet, and ran to the doctor. I wouldn't tell my boss that I was pooping blood either, which would explain him not knowing.
Hey, Im Mormon.
And my Ex's sister just left about 4 hours ago. Sue me, please?
Ok I talked to my psychologist today about the whole situation, and I took his advice. I called and left her a voicemail message saying:
"hey, i apologize about what happened tuesday. This were a little wierd and I didn't know what to think or believe. IF you still want to hang out sometime, you've got my number. bye"
Ok I talked to my psychologist today about the whole situation, and I took his advice. I called and left her a voicemail message saying:
"hey, i apologize about what happened tuesday. This were a little wierd and I didn't know what to think or believe. IF you still want to hang out sometime, you've got my number. bye"
It's understandable blue control players would be shocked and in denial at the notion of this card, since their decks have been dominating multiple formats for an eternity yet they've curiously never once had to deal with any counter-hosers that weren't ineffectual, narrow CRAP.
how is it a week late? Today is Thursday, and this happened.......two days ago (on tuesday). Where do you get a week?
whoops, typo....I said: "hey, i apologize about what happened tuesday. Things were a little weird, and I didn't know what to think or believe. IF you still want to hang out sometime, you've got my number. bye"
I guess that's my problem. I overthink everything. I'm an engineering student at Georgia Tech, so I am used to analyzing and finding a logical reason behind everything and the whole girl thing is very confusing for me because girls seem to operate.......emotionally instead of logically! My mind is an engineer's mind built to perform Calculus 3 and physics, not try to figure out what a girl is thinking!
Okay word of advice from one engineering student to another engineering student:
People are not machines. People are not mathematical problems that you solve (or logic problems for that manner). You need to learn to treat them as they are: People. People, unlike machines/math problems/etc. have emotions. They respond to how you treat them with emotions. Not only will it help you socially, it will help you in life in general. Companies much rather have a guy who isn't as smart but has "people skills", as they are referred to.
So please, take a second to think. If someone was calling you constantly, showing up at your work for hours and hours, basically stalking you, how would you react? Personally, I'd be pretty annoyed.
Now of course she is lying to you. Oh dear. That mean's she's a psychopath! Uh....no. As someone already mentioned, lying is a big part of life. I don't condone it, most people don't, but it's something you have to do sometimes. This girl probably doesn't want to hurt you too badly so she's lying through her teeth to not do so. Don't make it harder than it has to be.
(Also, for the record, University of Illinois > Georgia Tech. :P)
Now of course she is lying to you. Oh dear. That mean's she's a psychopath! Uh....no. As someone already mentioned, lying is a big part of life. I don't condone it, most people don't, but it's something you have to do sometimes. This girl probably doesn't want to hurt you too badly so she's lying through her teeth to not do so. Don't make it harder than it has to be.
not to double post, but dang, now I feel bad about calling her today and leaving an apologetic voicemail. Crap
not to double post, but dang, now I feel bad about calling her today and leaving an apologetic voicemail. Crap
Sorry to say this dude but it seems you have some real issues. You are at a college, there are a million other girls to hang out with. Why are you so hung up on this one. Keep it moving, stop obsessing over her.
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Sorry to say this dude but it seems you have some real issues. You are at a college, there are a million other girls to hang out with. Why are you so hung up on this one. Keep it moving, stop obsessing over her.
In jdinatale's defense, though I'm 31 now I can remember what it was like to be young. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I got to college. When that relationship ended I was somewhat obsessive and I thought about her for over a year after she broke up with me. I was truly heartbroken and at that point I didn't have the relationship history to be able to understand and deal with my emotions. After about a year of obsessing over her and feeling sorry for myself, I finally started dating again and there was never a breakup (nor my divorce for that matter, lol) that was as hard on me as that first break up. So I can't say definitely about jdinatale (maybe he will answer?), but if he hasn't had many girlfriends or much experience with women I can understand why it is very hard for him to get over this girl. Relationships can be a headache at times, but one of the things I've found is that one ages their feelings and emotions kind of "level out" (whether that is good or bad, I'll leave for each person to decide). I find that I don't get as upset, excited, angry, or any other extreme emotion like I did when I was younger. Age, years, and life experience seem to work to subdue how our emotions operate and how we react and feel.
I type all of that to say that what jdinatale is experiencing is probably not that different from a lot of people who have had their hearts broken by their first love. While you or I might see what jdinatale has written and view it as "not a big deal" because it might not look like a "real relationship" to you or I, to him it very well could have been a big deal.
The point being made, ForceOfTheDragon, is that these kinds of relationships aren't healthy or normal. It's typically bad news when you become attached to your first relationship (and in jdinatale's case, a true one never developed), because people become instilled with this subconscious conclusion that this is the only person right for them, that it's not perfectly acceptable to date multiple people before you find someone you truly connect with.
First relationships cause people to get caught up in the throes of new experience when it's better to consider them from a level-headed perspective. Wouldn't you take that year of obsession back if you could? Do something more productive with yourself?
In jdinatale's defense, though I'm 31 now I can remember what it was like to be young. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I got to college. When that relationship ended I was somewhat obsessive and I thought about her for over a year after she broke up with me. I was truly heartbroken and at that point I didn't have the relationship history to be able to understand and deal with my emotions. After about a year of obsessing over her and feeling sorry for myself, I finally started dating again and there was never a breakup (nor my divorce for that matter, lol) that was as hard on me as that first break up. So I can't say definitely about jdinatale (maybe he will answer?), but if he hasn't had many girlfriends or much experience with women I can understand why it is very hard for him to get over this girl. Relationships can be a headache at times, but one of the things I've found is that one ages their feelings and emotions kind of "level out" (whether that is good or bad, I'll leave for each person to decide). I find that I don't get as upset, excited, angry, or any other extreme emotion like I did when I was younger. Age, years, and life experience seem to work to subdue how our emotions operate and how we react and feel.
I type all of that to say that what jdinatale is experiencing is probably not that different from a lot of people who have had their hearts broken by their first love. While you or I might see what jdinatale has written and view it as "not a big deal" because it might not look like a "real relationship" to you or I, to him it very well could have been a big deal.
Ok but the difference is yours was a real girlfriend. This is just some girl that he hung out with a couple times (who had a boyfriend at the time). It's not like they were together.
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First relationships cause people to get caught up in the throes of new experience when it's better to consider them from a level-headed perspective. Wouldn't you take that year of obsession back if you could? Do something more productive with yourself?
Of course, but changing the past is something I'm incapable of doing. It simply was what it was and the manner that I reacted to it. I've learned quite a bit from that experience, so as not to repeat the past.
I was simply offering a different perspective on jdinatale's saga. Hopefully this is something that he will learn from.
In jdinatale's defense, though I'm 31 now I can remember what it was like to be young. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I got to college. When that relationship ended I was somewhat obsessive and I thought about her for over a year after she broke up with me. I was truly heartbroken and at that point I didn't have the relationship history to be able to understand and deal with my emotions. After about a year of obsessing over her and feeling sorry for myself, I finally started dating again and there was never a breakup (nor my divorce for that matter, lol) that was as hard on me as that first break up. So I can't say definitely about jdinatale (maybe he will answer?), but if he hasn't had many girlfriends or much experience with women I can understand why it is very hard for him to get over this girl. Relationships can be a headache at times, but one of the things I've found is that one ages their feelings and emotions kind of "level out" (whether that is good or bad, I'll leave for each person to decide). I find that I don't get as upset, excited, angry, or any other extreme emotion like I did when I was younger. Age, years, and life experience seem to work to subdue how our emotions operate and how we react and feel.
I type all of that to say that what jdinatale is experiencing is probably not that different from a lot of people who have had their hearts broken by their first love. While you or I might see what jdinatale has written and view it as "not a big deal" because it might not look like a "real relationship" to you or I, to him it very well could have been a big deal.
That pretty much sums it up. I have never had a girl friend or been on a date before this girl, and have never really hung out with girls before (seriously).
So to have this "relationship" (for lack of word) just abruptly end with no logical explanation, it's a lot harder to deal with than if she had just told me "I have a boyfriend" or "I see you as a friend".
And I know everyone thinks this about the girl he likes, but this girl did stand out to me from the stereotypical college girl. Like her hobbies and interests really fascinated me and were so different from these other girls I have met in highschool or college.
you know, I have had tons of hot girls like me (8+/10) based on my looks, but once they get to know me, I think my actions/personality creeps them away. Like they way that I dress, pretty much most of the girls think I look hot. But once they meet me, I think I fail at communicating.
For example, I had a girl who looked straight up like angelina jolee (almost), who liked me in highschool. We hung out, and she really liked me, but I failed in communicating and blew the whole situation.
So you have never hung out with girls before this one...yet in high school you hung out with an angelina jolie look alike and girls tell you your hot all the time. LMAO dude you got some issues.
What you gotta do is just relax and be yourself. Its probably not you that creeps them out, its probably the awkwardness that inevibility happens because your so nervous around them. They want the same thing as you and if they straight up tell you they like you, you can relax.
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dude she made you look like a fool! the fact that she needs to be drunk to have sex is a first warning sign that she's a flocking immature chore! (let's just say that the last word starts with the letter W). don't ever mess with girls that are already in a relationship (trust me i know). she just played with your emotion. she probably just used you as an excuse to break up with her boyfriend back home. sorry dude but she played you. forget about her and move on. if she dicked you around before you're journey together what makes you think that she wont dick you around during the trip. don't waste your time on her. move on my friend. move on.
I also agree that you should try and see things through her eyes, use that overthinking part of your mind in her shoes.
However, being female, I have been with my boyfriend for a long time. Since 7/8th grade up until present (2.5yr college students) and it was well known amongst the students and teachers of our school. Yet this guy who what one chair above me in band (even though he couldn't play worth a damn) insisted on hitting on me. I guess I can be a little flirtatious with friends at times (being in such a well known and long relationship kind of makes you feel like no other guy is going to push it beyond friendship) but this guy took it beyond that. He was deliberately trying to divide me and my love up. Instantly I turned anti-him. Half ignoring him, poking fun at him behind his back. Just my response. Though I wouldn't ever give him my number or make dates with him (Would just flat out say no time or other plans) but at the time I couldn't drive so I guess dates were out of the question. Though I am guilty of manipulating him into buying me more ink for my pens... I don't know about other girls, but for me... If a man knows I am in a relationship and even dares to push ours outside of friendship, he is no longer a friend of mine. I was just too timid/nice? to tell the man that I will NEVER like him like that.
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This is the best quote of 2010.
The thing that bothers me about this whole situation is that you didn't just ask the girl out on a date after helping her with her essay the first time. Fortune favors the bold, to the victor go the spoils, etc. Skirting the issue may have made the girl think you weren't interested in her that way and so she friend zoned you.
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Yes I did falter in that regard. I didn't really know that I liked her at the time, it just sort of developed as the semester went on....
I don't get it.....are you trying to say the anal bleeding excuse was legit? But that's not the issue. The issue is that she never called to explain herself. I recieved zero calls, zero texts, zero voicemail explainations for her actions and why she stood me up on the date. If it was because of anal bleeding, she could have told her manager to tell me that she had to go home sick.....when she left the restraunt she could have called me and said "hey i have to go to the emergency room, can't hang out lol" but she didn't contact me Friday. She didn't contact Saturday or Sunday or Monday. She waited until she ran directly into me to give me some lame anal bleeding excuse.
Again, I don't doubt that she has anal bleeding......but that is NOT why she didn't hang out with me on Friday. She either made other plans, was too tired, was not interested, etc.....
Hope this helps a bit.
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Personally, I'd just approach the situation like this; Apologize for being a d***(NOT FILTER DODGING.)- Make a note to call yourself that. Whether you beleive her or not, it gives you no right to point fingers, because there's no proof thats she was lying, and doing so will only make you out to be the bad guy. Sound sincere, but dont come off as begging for forgiveness. Apologize a second time, then continue Jonesing about as usual. If things dont pick up after that day, leave it alone.
And yeah...Blood in her stool? Not believeable, but it mightve been possible she decided to take a crap at work, noticed a red murk in the toilet, and ran to the doctor. I wouldn't tell my boss that I was pooping blood either, which would explain him not knowing.
Hey, Im Mormon.
And my Ex's sister just left about 4 hours ago. Sue me, please?
You need to learn to tell when a girl likes you and when they just think that you'd be a good friend. If you could have, then you'd have saved yourself all this trouble. I know some girls who are quite similar to her (in terms of relationship with me, not in terms of character etc.) and I know that I would have got myself quite screwed by now if I had responded the same way as you.
Also, I think that it's a bit rich you calling her psycho, presumably she's just been avoiding you, and anything she's done has been a result of what you've done. I'd be willing to bet that anal bleeding wasn't an excuse. She could have just been keeping it private from her boss/workmates, seeing as it is quite an embarrassing thing. I don't know how this would have worked out in real life, but it's quite likely she wasn't lying, maybe just bending the truth (which surely she has a right to do in the situation?). It's less likely that the communication issues weren't excuses, but you never know. I've had some pretty dodgy phones.
However, you want some advice. Apologize to her (though don't go into detail). If she says something like "What are you sorry for?" then you're fine. If she accepts your apology, you're probably fine too. Just let her come to you, not the other way round.
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Thank you for being the voice of reason in this thread. I like how people here think the girl telling others about her anal bleeding is suppose to be the normal one, and I'm the crazy one.
Sure I might have excessively called her. Sure, I concede that. But I don't stand people up, send weird signals, make up excuses that are verified to be lies, and then 5 days later come up with a anal bleeding excuse. That's a lot worse than anything I did.
You know anal bleeding happens right? Consider my approach.
Women tend tp get the benifit of the doubt in most situations where they shouldn't. This just happens to be one of those cases.
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First of all, quit using the phrase "pathological liar"; you misuse it. She is probably lying out of no other compulsion than the fact that you creep her the hell out. Do you realize that people lie all the time? I'm not condoning it, but it is a very powerful social tool that leads to various shortcuts. Hell, I probably lie on a daily basis just to get out of a phone call or two.
I doubt she is lying to you because she has some sort of personality disorder. By the sound of your stories, you've probably just pushed her too far and crowded her too close to give her much breathing room for a story that holds water, and so you end up on the receiving end of oddball statements like, "there was blood in my stool." That, or maybe that was a legitimate emergency and she's now using it as leverage to put distance between the two of you, under the assumption that
1. an immature guy would not be attracted to the idea of blood in a girl's stool, and
2. being creepy is a sign of social immaturity, so
3. telling the creepster there was blood in her stool might scare him off.
Let's see, you're clearly under the impression that you're the helpless victim of some psychotic misfit with blood in her crap that compulsively lies just to play with you. And yet you have a five-page thread about her.
Well shucks, I don't know if she thinks you're an idiot, but if you want my two cents, I can certainly tell you what you're acting like.
Ok I talked to my psychologist today about the whole situation, and I took his advice. I called and left her a voicemail message saying:
"hey, i apologize about what happened tuesday. This were a little wierd and I didn't know what to think or believe. IF you still want to hang out sometime, you've got my number. bye"
Smooth. A week late, but smooth nonetheless.
how is it a week late? Today is Thursday, and this happened.......two days ago (on tuesday). Where do you get a week?
whoops, typo....I said: "hey, i apologize about what happened tuesday. Things were a little weird, and I didn't know what to think or believe. IF you still want to hang out sometime, you've got my number. bye"
I know when I see people that I want to avoid, I do just that, avoid them. Not go up and start a conversation about my recent bowel movements.
Okay word of advice from one engineering student to another engineering student:
People are not machines. People are not mathematical problems that you solve (or logic problems for that manner). You need to learn to treat them as they are: People. People, unlike machines/math problems/etc. have emotions. They respond to how you treat them with emotions. Not only will it help you socially, it will help you in life in general. Companies much rather have a guy who isn't as smart but has "people skills", as they are referred to.
So please, take a second to think. If someone was calling you constantly, showing up at your work for hours and hours, basically stalking you, how would you react? Personally, I'd be pretty annoyed.
Now of course she is lying to you. Oh dear. That mean's she's a psychopath! Uh....no. As someone already mentioned, lying is a big part of life. I don't condone it, most people don't, but it's something you have to do sometimes. This girl probably doesn't want to hurt you too badly so she's lying through her teeth to not do so. Don't make it harder than it has to be.
(Also, for the record, University of Illinois > Georgia Tech. :P)
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Well.....according to this ranking, Georgia Tech = UoI
http://colleges.usnews.rankingsandreviews.com/best-colleges/spec-doct-engineering
not to double post, but dang, now I feel bad about calling her today and leaving an apologetic voicemail. Crap
Sorry to say this dude but it seems you have some real issues. You are at a college, there are a million other girls to hang out with. Why are you so hung up on this one. Keep it moving, stop obsessing over her.
In jdinatale's defense, though I'm 31 now I can remember what it was like to be young. I didn't have my first real girlfriend until I got to college. When that relationship ended I was somewhat obsessive and I thought about her for over a year after she broke up with me. I was truly heartbroken and at that point I didn't have the relationship history to be able to understand and deal with my emotions. After about a year of obsessing over her and feeling sorry for myself, I finally started dating again and there was never a breakup (nor my divorce for that matter, lol) that was as hard on me as that first break up. So I can't say definitely about jdinatale (maybe he will answer?), but if he hasn't had many girlfriends or much experience with women I can understand why it is very hard for him to get over this girl. Relationships can be a headache at times, but one of the things I've found is that one ages their feelings and emotions kind of "level out" (whether that is good or bad, I'll leave for each person to decide). I find that I don't get as upset, excited, angry, or any other extreme emotion like I did when I was younger. Age, years, and life experience seem to work to subdue how our emotions operate and how we react and feel.
I type all of that to say that what jdinatale is experiencing is probably not that different from a lot of people who have had their hearts broken by their first love. While you or I might see what jdinatale has written and view it as "not a big deal" because it might not look like a "real relationship" to you or I, to him it very well could have been a big deal.
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First relationships cause people to get caught up in the throes of new experience when it's better to consider them from a level-headed perspective. Wouldn't you take that year of obsession back if you could? Do something more productive with yourself?
Ok but the difference is yours was a real girlfriend. This is just some girl that he hung out with a couple times (who had a boyfriend at the time). It's not like they were together.
Of course, but changing the past is something I'm incapable of doing. It simply was what it was and the manner that I reacted to it. I've learned quite a bit from that experience, so as not to repeat the past.
I was simply offering a different perspective on jdinatale's saga. Hopefully this is something that he will learn from.
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Casual: Warp World Revolution and Old School Red-Green.
Standard: Ob-Nixilis Wave and Elves.
That pretty much sums it up. I have never had a girl friend or been on a date before this girl, and have never really hung out with girls before (seriously).
So to have this "relationship" (for lack of word) just abruptly end with no logical explanation, it's a lot harder to deal with than if she had just told me "I have a boyfriend" or "I see you as a friend".
And I know everyone thinks this about the girl he likes, but this girl did stand out to me from the stereotypical college girl. Like her hobbies and interests really fascinated me and were so different from these other girls I have met in highschool or college.
you know, I have had tons of hot girls like me (8+/10) based on my looks, but once they get to know me, I think my actions/personality creeps them away. Like they way that I dress, pretty much most of the girls think I look hot. But once they meet me, I think I fail at communicating.
For example, I had a girl who looked straight up like angelina jolee (almost), who liked me in highschool. We hung out, and she really liked me, but I failed in communicating and blew the whole situation.
What you gotta do is just relax and be yourself. Its probably not you that creeps them out, its probably the awkwardness that inevibility happens because your so nervous around them. They want the same thing as you and if they straight up tell you they like you, you can relax.