He sounds entirely too stupid to understand any kind of comeback witty enough to be worth saying. Just ignore him. If he starts physical ☺☺☺☺ remember: your legs are longer then his arms (unless your a midget in which case my bad) and aim for the knees.
Best way I realized that can stop a bully in his tracks is to pin morale and reality into him.
Assuming you tell him to go away. If that doesn't work:
Then you tell him that he isn't the greatest person to hang around with because he's acting like a jerk.
If anything, he'll eventually get angry and start to threaten you. This is where you strike reality into him, something along the lines of:
"Good. Go ahead. Punch me, kick me. But know that if you choose to do that, you may get the school on you, the police on you, and your future may be shattered because you chose to physically harm someone. It will tell the world what kind of person you are: a bully, exactly what any normal person in their adult life would never want to be with in their lives." (By the way, say this in a dominating voice. Make yourself be heard, and make sure you have a serious attitude.)
I tried this on a certain guy in High School, and it turns out he was really stunned by it because he already had a bad record because he was an idiot who smoked pot during school hours.
It may not work on you, but you can only try it if you can really give out a face of seriousness and a tone of it too. You can do this without causing a scene by whispering it all to the guy's ear.
If god forbid he did do any physical things on you: Good. You can tell everyone that you tried to warn him, and he didn't follow and he revealed himself to be the person he really is. You may use self-defense if you have too, but don't be the one to start it.
No. Don't do this, it's a really bad idea and chances are you'll get in more trouble than him.
Well, the probability of success depends on several factors, including how much surveillance the school is under, your ability to sneak, and the ability to crack locks. If the school isn't under surveillance at like 4:00 AM, and you can sneak and crack locks efficiently, this could work out well. DO NOT REPORT HIM. If you report him, the principal will think know you broke into school property and you could get in trouble. Lockers are school property and can be searched by authorities, so if they find the beer bottle in his locker, he could be in trouble. Even with this outline I gave, this would only work on TV because a majority of schools have security cameras, and they're probably not shut off early in the morning.
On a more ethical route, ImpulsiveKnowledge's advice would work.
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Teenagers have a great talent for being immature, stupid and cruel. The best way to deal with it is play along with the game. If he wants to call you drunk, tell him you are indeed drunk and it will piss the kid off to no end. If he gets physical... then you do need to seek an authority figure, but as long as it's simple, stupid name calling, play along with his game and eventually he will become very frustrated and quit... better yet, if you have a friend or two in your class with this kid, have them there to vouch for you that you are drunk and he will become confused and frustrated all the more quickly. See, the way people get a kick out of name calling is when the victim resists it, but if he calls you a name and you play along, it defeats the purpose of it.
EDIT: And do not listen to the people who are telling you to plant beer in his locker... that's unrealistic and more importantly incredibly stupid.
You can always be polite and not acknowledge these... "Insults" or whatever they are.
You can always derail the topics and talk about other stuff, if he responds differently towards one of the topics you decided to talk about like lets say games, keep him in this state, hook, line and sinker.
EDIT: And do not listen to the people who are telling you to plant beer in his locker... that's unrealistic and more importantly incredibly stupid.
Yes, please don't do that, you will be in more trouble then you could possibly imagine.
(Really, just really? "You're Drunk" is an insult, along with Psycho?)
So...you're telling this kid to basically run away? That's the worst thing he could do. He would never, ever live it down.
Anyway...is "you're drunk" and "you're psycho" the best this kid can come up with? I mean...honestly, this guy doesn't sound like the brightest bulb in the box if his janks are that soft. Instead of ignoring him, how about putting him in his place? It doesn't sound like it would be hard.
If the other kid got one he wouldn't be it happens at my shcool once or twice a year
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I know it might sound mean, but you need to find some other kid you know to throw under the bus, because sometimes ignoring it isn't the best solution.
These kids used to bully me and my friend who lives a couple houses down on the bus every day coming home from school in middle school. We used to try and come up with witty remarks, but numbers matter, and there were more of them than us. (Bullies only bully when someone pays attention to what they are doing and thinks its funny, see.)
anyways......my dad told me at a younger age to just ingore bullies, because they are only looking for a reaction. That worked ok for most cases, but this was different. They did it simply because they had nothing better to do on the busride home. So, i stopped paying attention to what they were saying to me and stared out the window. (never take out anything to do that they can take from you. a book, ipod, etc....cuz then they will definately get a reaction from you.) After i started to ignore them, they started targeting my friend, and only him, because he kept giving a reaction.
So simply ignoring them is not the "best thing to do" persay. You have to fill that gap you just ripped. Throwing someone under the bus, though it sounds horrible, is the best way to do it.
The next time he calls you drunk, throw up on him. Play it off like you ate some bad fish and he was in the wrong place at the wrong time.
@Zer0: I don't want to judge, but there's definitely something wrong with that. I might not have a better idea but that sends up a red flag along with planting beer in the kid's locker. If the OP does that how is he any different than the ☺☺☺☺head who gives him grief in the first place?
So simply ignoring them is not the "best thing to do" persay. You have to fill that gap you just ripped. Throwing someone under the bus, though it sounds horrible, is the best way to do it.
Worst, most selfish advice I've ever seen offered on these forums.
To the original poster: You won't understand how absolutely trivial bullying is until you've graduated from your primary education. I'm not undermining your situation or saying that your emotions concerning it are trivial, but I am saying that you really should do your best to just ignore this kid--what are words, anyway? If he gets physical, go to an adult, period. And be reasonable and explain your problem--don't act like a desperate, whiny kid who doesn't know how to help himself, or you're likely to get treated like one (this goes for talking to the bully as well as any adults that get involved).
One thing that I've found usually works is to be friendly and amiable towards someone.
@The people who are telling you to be a smartass - When was the last time a bully ever left someone alone because they were too sarcastic? Bullies aren't put off by the cleverness of a retort. That's the reaction they want. If you make them feel stupid, that'll just give them more incentive to bother you.
So just be nice to the guy. Approach him at the start of every class before he can say anything to you. Say hi, ask him how he is, how his weekend was, etc. If he's like most 8th graders, he's probably lonely and will trade a victim for a friend. Even if he doesn't, it's a lot harder to pick on someone when they're being nice to you. It's just awkward, and will make him look like an ass to anyone around.
And if he starts with the "you're drunk" stuff, just change the subject. Ask him about what he's making in class or what other classes he's taking, etc.
If all else fails, you're in a room full of power tools. Size doesn't matter that much when things have motors.
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I can say I fully sympathize. Back in 8th grade I had serious bully issues, so bad I actually had the entire male population of gym class tackle me in a game of touch football. The teacher was only concerned with watching the girls so the guys just did what they wanted.
It came to a head in shop class for me as well, endless taunting, which I could not escape as we had assigned seating and he was always next to me. The teacher saw it all the time and did nothing. When I could not take it anymore he told me to punch him and he would say the kid tripped and I was innocent. I was so shocked that he wanted me to fight when I believed it was wrong. I ran out of class and wandered the halls the rest of the day, hiding in the bathrooms mostly.
That night I was suicidal, I had been in this school 3 years and harassed by many people. Girls used to write me notes, then when I went to talk to them, they would make fun of me for believing the note. I actually asked one girl out because I thought she was honestly interested, only to have her tell the entire school about it.
After that I decided I had to take things into my own hands, I made the rules. If they wanted to taunt me, I would play the waiting game. Learn some defense moves that put you at the advantage, size and weight can be used against people. One day a few weeks later I waited for one particular bully to cross a line and I grabbed him in a hold and threw all my weight into it. I purposely stopped just short of slamming his face into the concrete, he was shocked. I could have sent him to the hospital, but didn't. He never said a word nor touched me again.
Pick your battles, know the consequences of your actions and know that above all. Middle and high school suck, but they end. After school the world is incredibly different.
Aye, be like Jetfire. I had serious troubles until high school. Through gradeschool and middleschool I was relatively small (had a growth spurt at the end of middleschool, last month so it was a bit late).
I had two major bullies in middleschool, one was a stupid kid who just taunted and made fun of me. Eventually I broke down and ran to the bathroom and cried my heart out. Yea so I was kinda a wimp. A buncha other guys heard me and called over a teacher, who called over the principle, explaining my situation to him he suspended the kid and that was the end of it.
My 2nd major bully was more physical. He liked to push me around AND make fun of me. This kid was huge. Like 200 + pounds and at least 6 feet and that was in middleschool. It was during history he was punching me and I snapped and punched him. Then I promptly jumped on his back and was scratching at him (i didn't know how to fight haha). He stopped afterwards
Just let out your feelings on the kid, you'll feel better.
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Learn self defense and take him out. Pull no punches, go for any vulnerable point you can like the temple, nose, neck, eyes, groin, solar plexus, etc until he is down and/or seriously injured. Maybe do it outside of school to reduce any issues from the principal/teachers. Show him you are finished putting up with it and you will do whatever is necessary to stand up to it, and you don't care about the consequences. Nothing else will really stop this neanderthal, other than changing schools. Changing to another/private school is another, better option, if you can.
Prior to this, you should at least try going to the principal. If nothing else, it will lay the foundation that HE is the problem. Then if they don't stop it, when you laid this guy out, you just did what you had to do.
Is there anything I can do to get this kid to shut up? Like I said, avoidance usually doesn't do a thing. I know, school will be out for us on the 11th, but I would love to get this resolved so it doesnt carry over into high school.
Most unfortunately there is nothing, absolutely nothing you can do.
The principle of bullying is simple. The bully want a reaction. Give no reaction they will move on to something putting up more pressure, and will then get a reaction. Trying hard not to react can result in violence.
I've been bullied from age 6 to 15. I remember that it didn't stop all of a sudden. You have to wait it out, there is no other way. I'm sorry.
While that might score you some money, it won't stop anything and it will make you disliked by the school staff. That's not something you want to happen.
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Awriiight. You are in woodshop, right? Make an awsome gauntlet out of wood, paint it red, yellow, and blue, with a matching jumpsuit in the same color scheme (keep yellow to a trim color) get a motorcycle helmet with a black vizor that can cover your eyes, paint THAT in the same color scheme (keep yellow a trim color again) and when that guy comes up to you again, one of two things will happen:
1. He will recognize the jumpsuit and helmet and back away, or
2. He will not react to the jumpsuit.
Now, if 1 occurs, just keep wearing the jumpsuit and keep interaction with the bully to non-verbal and silent glares through your vizor and the problem is solved.
However, if scenario 2 occurs, back up a few steps from the bully without saying anything and do the "come and get it" hand motion with your UNGAUNTLETED HAND (this is important). He will most likely back away, but if he repeats himself, back up a half-step, wind back your gauntleted hand, and stretch the word "Farucaaawn..." for as long as the windup takes. Then twist your body, hips, and feet in way that maximizes the amount force the gauntlet would inflict, and punch.
Now, this is the most important part. Before the punch lands and slightly after it begins, scream this word as manly as you can: "PAAAAAUWNCHUH!"
If you have followed these instuctions to the word, your problem will have been resolved, one way or the other.
(Note: this 5 step solution can be applied to abolsutly any problem conceivable. However, the addictional step "Farucawn Kiieeawkuh" may be necissary.)
You should just ride along with it. I mean, if some guy was like that to me, I'd enjoy it. Everyone would think I'm the most radical kid ever. *is kicked*
If it's really that bad, I can talk to him online for you. I can be like: y0, whUt R u dO1ng t0o Mahh p33pzz yo? !#$%^!!!@#%%
I mean this sounds like something an internet poster would do, he's essentially trolling you in real life. As soon as I read that first post the "u mad" meme came to mind, he's doing it to get a reaction out of you and you're satisfying his need. Actually if I were you I'd make a big spectacle out of it somehow, asking him a bunch of silly questions right back, and making similarly idiotic accusations until he realizes its pointless or something. The last thing you need is violence here, I was sorta picked on as a kid and the last thing I wanted to was to ☺☺☺☺ing pound the last breath out of the person picking on me, I would much rather pick on them back. Then if he starts to actually physically harm/touch you, you win, since he's a brainless dolt who resorts to violence. Meh, my point of view is kinda one sided, but it relies on people being around to actively witness it.
I had a serious bullying problem when I was in middle school, I believe it was about the 7th grade it happened, that was a really bad time for me. My grandfather whom I had lived with for 7 seven years had passed away that year and that was really devastating on me. Over the last seven years I helped him pass away and live out his final years in his own home, so naturally its a wrench thats thrown in your life when that happens. The day or so after he died I couldn't fall asleep and I wondered why, and it was because his oxygen machine wasn't there any more.
Anyways long story short I was an emotional mess and was doing terrible in school (A& B's went to C&'D's). This one kid decided it would be fun to pick on me and I didn't really do anything to defend myself for a long time. One day I remember working on a puzzle and he tried to steal my candy or something, and I just remember Decking him right in the face, the whole class turned around and went, "Oh snap... he cracked..." and the kid soon tried to begin wailing on me, I held him back and the teacher came in. Both of us got suspended. I came home and told my mom in tears and she said, "Meh. It was bound to happen. Just glad you didn't do it to your brother."
From that day forward no one ever decided it would be a good idea to mess with me. So show em some back bone, show them that you're willing to fight back and I'm sure they'll leave you alone in a heart beat.
The thing he needs to do that is to actually have a written record and/or witnesses(ideally both) to establish that there is a pattern of abuse and neglect from the school itself through elevating matters by meeting with the administration (and documenting those meetings). It's called "building a case." As an aside, this is what you also do with any form of abuse, you document it with as much information as possible, and then contact the authorities while escalating the issue as necessary for the conditions involved.
Most unfortunately there is nothing, absolutely nothing you can do.
The principle of bullying is simple. The bully want a reaction. Give no reaction they will move on to something putting up more pressure, and will then get a reaction. Trying hard not to react can result in violence.
I've been bullied from age 6 to 15. I remember that it didn't stop all of a sudden. You have to wait it out, there is no other way. I'm sorry.
Then you should have been pulled out of that school district and placed into another one that was more able to cater to your social needs. It is not the job to "put up with it." While I don't know your particular temperament
nor am I a professional on the issue, I can and will say this. That some forms of harassment become a cycle of abuse which breaks down the person psychologically. There is really no difference between a battered wife and a school kid that gets beat up and harassed every day. The question is one of frequency and intensity relative to the person's coping mechanisms and the protocols to deal with the situation.
The child in this particular bullying case right out admits to having an issue with his emotions from other sources of stress and from a combination of common sense, and honestly you should only need common sense to understand the context, and actual research will tell you that such a person should not be in such an environment, period.
While that might score you some money, it won't stop anything and it will make you disliked by the school staff. That's not something you want to happen.
For starters, "teasing" you can ignore. When it becomes a sustained daily, weekly, and monthly ritual it's coalesced into a form of mental or physical abuse from narcissists. The point is to lower the frequency and intensity of the issue to the point to where the victim can be in a healthy and productive environment.
Who gives a damn if a "staff member doesn't like you," if he or she isn't doing their job then they deserve to be fired. They are responsible for his well being as a part of loco parentis, and as with any such power comes great responsibility. If the case came into the newspapers, it is going to give the school a bad wrap for good reason. This is best only after establishing a history of no cooperation and a history of neglect, hence why earlier I advocated documentation and stealth narking.
The stealth narking has it explicitly placed that the wrap of being a "nark" goes onto the people in charge such as teachers, which is to be expected.
Documenting:
1. Conditions of the harassment, whose around, what time it was, where (details, details, details)
2. Who who reported the issue to and when and where (again details)
-document outcomes as well
3. Continued escalation of the issue proportional to the severity of the harassment and relative common sense judgement on whether school staff are slacking off on the issue or not
I'm not a lawyer or anything, but going from what I know as a parent as a child his parents do have several options depending on their finances such as home schooling, private school, living with another relative or parent and going to another district, internet schools, charter schools, and ect. His options only open up if his mental health were to decline. Also, a good lawyer in a case would be able to highlight probably even more options.
However, in his particular incident has not escalated to that point. Also, ignoring people for nine years in all frankness, you deserve what you got rather than standing up for your civil rights. And remember, not all people that get picked on get picked on in the same way, frequency, or intensity and many walk away into adulthood with invisible scars. Such problems are easier to deal with when they're small problems, rather than large problems and when they do become large problems handling them in the most constructive and profitable manner is the wisest manner to go.
In closing, with the one Irish girl that killed herself a few months ago went to a school that had a history of not dealing with these sorts of issues properly much to the detriment of the people that were around her. Escalating a case righteously prevents further abuses that other people might make incorrect decisions over such as what happened to that one girl. An institutional problem is an institutional problem, not an individual problem. However, in this young man's case we do not know the full context of the story of how receptive his institution is to help him.
Is there anything I can do to get this kid to shut up? Like I said, avoidance usually doesn't do a thing. I know, school will be out for us on the 11th, but I would love to get this resolved so it doesnt carry over into high school.
Just let me know where you live and keep in contact. If it persists me and my friend Harlan will make a road trip to sight see down that way and beat his "tail" (have to be nice here) and tell him if we have to come back we'll play with him all day and he won't have fun.
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Options:
1. Ignore him.
2. Agree with him, and laugh it off.
3. Come up with a witty response, and put him in his place.
4. Talk to the authorities, and make them force their hand.
5. No need to bulk up. Punch him in the throat.
6. Insult him until he rages. Take a punch. Press charges.
7. Go deep into the bully hideout, and take out their leader, making you king of the bullies.
Pick whichever you feel is most within your ability to do.
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Assuming you tell him to go away. If that doesn't work:
Then you tell him that he isn't the greatest person to hang around with because he's acting like a jerk.
If anything, he'll eventually get angry and start to threaten you. This is where you strike reality into him, something along the lines of:
"Good. Go ahead. Punch me, kick me. But know that if you choose to do that, you may get the school on you, the police on you, and your future may be shattered because you chose to physically harm someone. It will tell the world what kind of person you are: a bully, exactly what any normal person in their adult life would never want to be with in their lives." (By the way, say this in a dominating voice. Make yourself be heard, and make sure you have a serious attitude.)
I tried this on a certain guy in High School, and it turns out he was really stunned by it because he already had a bad record because he was an idiot who smoked pot during school hours.
It may not work on you, but you can only try it if you can really give out a face of seriousness and a tone of it too. You can do this without causing a scene by whispering it all to the guy's ear.
If god forbid he did do any physical things on you: Good. You can tell everyone that you tried to warn him, and he didn't follow and he revealed himself to be the person he really is. You may use self-defense if you have too, but don't be the one to start it.
Well, the probability of success depends on several factors, including how much surveillance the school is under, your ability to sneak, and the ability to crack locks. If the school isn't under surveillance at like 4:00 AM, and you can sneak and crack locks efficiently, this could work out well. DO NOT REPORT HIM. If you report him, the principal will
thinkknow you broke into school property and you could get in trouble. Lockers are school property and can be searched by authorities, so if they find the beer bottle in his locker, he could be in trouble. Even with this outline I gave, this would only work on TV because a majority of schools have security cameras, and they're probably not shut off early in the morning.On a more ethical route, ImpulsiveKnowledge's advice would work.
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You can always be polite and not acknowledge these... "Insults" or whatever they are.
You can always derail the topics and talk about other stuff, if he responds differently towards one of the topics you decided to talk about like lets say games, keep him in this state, hook, line and sinker.
Yes, please don't do that, you will be in more trouble then you could possibly imagine.
(Really, just really? "You're Drunk" is an insult, along with Psycho?)
If the other kid got one he wouldn't be it happens at my shcool once or twice a year
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These kids used to bully me and my friend who lives a couple houses down on the bus every day coming home from school in middle school. We used to try and come up with witty remarks, but numbers matter, and there were more of them than us. (Bullies only bully when someone pays attention to what they are doing and thinks its funny, see.)
anyways......my dad told me at a younger age to just ingore bullies, because they are only looking for a reaction. That worked ok for most cases, but this was different. They did it simply because they had nothing better to do on the busride home. So, i stopped paying attention to what they were saying to me and stared out the window. (never take out anything to do that they can take from you. a book, ipod, etc....cuz then they will definately get a reaction from you.) After i started to ignore them, they started targeting my friend, and only him, because he kept giving a reaction.
So simply ignoring them is not the "best thing to do" persay. You have to fill that gap you just ripped. Throwing someone under the bus, though it sounds horrible, is the best way to do it.
@Zer0: I don't want to judge, but there's definitely something wrong with that. I might not have a better idea but that sends up a red flag along with planting beer in the kid's locker. If the OP does that how is he any different than the ☺☺☺☺head who gives him grief in the first place?
Worst, most selfish advice I've ever seen offered on these forums.
To the original poster: You won't understand how absolutely trivial bullying is until you've graduated from your primary education. I'm not undermining your situation or saying that your emotions concerning it are trivial, but I am saying that you really should do your best to just ignore this kid--what are words, anyway? If he gets physical, go to an adult, period. And be reasonable and explain your problem--don't act like a desperate, whiny kid who doesn't know how to help himself, or you're likely to get treated like one (this goes for talking to the bully as well as any adults that get involved).
@The people who are telling you to be a smartass - When was the last time a bully ever left someone alone because they were too sarcastic? Bullies aren't put off by the cleverness of a retort. That's the reaction they want. If you make them feel stupid, that'll just give them more incentive to bother you.
So just be nice to the guy. Approach him at the start of every class before he can say anything to you. Say hi, ask him how he is, how his weekend was, etc. If he's like most 8th graders, he's probably lonely and will trade a victim for a friend. Even if he doesn't, it's a lot harder to pick on someone when they're being nice to you. It's just awkward, and will make him look like an ass to anyone around.
And if he starts with the "you're drunk" stuff, just change the subject. Ask him about what he's making in class or what other classes he's taking, etc.
If all else fails, you're in a room full of power tools. Size doesn't matter that much when things have motors.
It came to a head in shop class for me as well, endless taunting, which I could not escape as we had assigned seating and he was always next to me. The teacher saw it all the time and did nothing. When I could not take it anymore he told me to punch him and he would say the kid tripped and I was innocent. I was so shocked that he wanted me to fight when I believed it was wrong. I ran out of class and wandered the halls the rest of the day, hiding in the bathrooms mostly.
That night I was suicidal, I had been in this school 3 years and harassed by many people. Girls used to write me notes, then when I went to talk to them, they would make fun of me for believing the note. I actually asked one girl out because I thought she was honestly interested, only to have her tell the entire school about it.
After that I decided I had to take things into my own hands, I made the rules. If they wanted to taunt me, I would play the waiting game. Learn some defense moves that put you at the advantage, size and weight can be used against people. One day a few weeks later I waited for one particular bully to cross a line and I grabbed him in a hold and threw all my weight into it. I purposely stopped just short of slamming his face into the concrete, he was shocked. I could have sent him to the hospital, but didn't. He never said a word nor touched me again.
Pick your battles, know the consequences of your actions and know that above all. Middle and high school suck, but they end. After school the world is incredibly different.
I had two major bullies in middleschool, one was a stupid kid who just taunted and made fun of me. Eventually I broke down and ran to the bathroom and cried my heart out. Yea so I was kinda a wimp. A buncha other guys heard me and called over a teacher, who called over the principle, explaining my situation to him he suspended the kid and that was the end of it.
My 2nd major bully was more physical. He liked to push me around AND make fun of me. This kid was huge. Like 200 + pounds and at least 6 feet and that was in middleschool. It was during history he was punching me and I snapped and punched him. Then I promptly jumped on his back and was scratching at him (i didn't know how to fight haha). He stopped afterwards
Just let out your feelings on the kid, you'll feel better.
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Prior to this, you should at least try going to the principal. If nothing else, it will lay the foundation that HE is the problem. Then if they don't stop it, when you laid this guy out, you just did what you had to do.
Most unfortunately there is nothing, absolutely nothing you can do.
The principle of bullying is simple. The bully want a reaction. Give no reaction they will move on to something putting up more pressure, and will then get a reaction. Trying hard not to react can result in violence.
I've been bullied from age 6 to 15. I remember that it didn't stop all of a sudden. You have to wait it out, there is no other way. I'm sorry.
While that might score you some money, it won't stop anything and it will make you disliked by the school staff. That's not something you want to happen.
1. He will recognize the jumpsuit and helmet and back away, or
2. He will not react to the jumpsuit.
Now, if 1 occurs, just keep wearing the jumpsuit and keep interaction with the bully to non-verbal and silent glares through your vizor and the problem is solved.
However, if scenario 2 occurs, back up a few steps from the bully without saying anything and do the "come and get it" hand motion with your UNGAUNTLETED HAND (this is important). He will most likely back away, but if he repeats himself, back up a half-step, wind back your gauntleted hand, and stretch the word "Farucaaawn..." for as long as the windup takes. Then twist your body, hips, and feet in way that maximizes the amount force the gauntlet would inflict, and punch.
Now, this is the most important part. Before the punch lands and slightly after it begins, scream this word as manly as you can: "PAAAAAUWNCHUH!"
If you have followed these instuctions to the word, your problem will have been resolved, one way or the other.
(Note: this 5 step solution can be applied to abolsutly any problem conceivable. However, the addictional step "Farucawn Kiieeawkuh" may be necissary.)
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If it's really that bad, I can talk to him online for you. I can be like: y0, whUt R u dO1ng t0o Mahh p33pzz yo? !#$%^!!!@#%%
Anyways long story short I was an emotional mess and was doing terrible in school (A& B's went to C&'D's). This one kid decided it would be fun to pick on me and I didn't really do anything to defend myself for a long time. One day I remember working on a puzzle and he tried to steal my candy or something, and I just remember Decking him right in the face, the whole class turned around and went, "Oh snap... he cracked..." and the kid soon tried to begin wailing on me, I held him back and the teacher came in. Both of us got suspended. I came home and told my mom in tears and she said, "Meh. It was bound to happen. Just glad you didn't do it to your brother."
From that day forward no one ever decided it would be a good idea to mess with me. So show em some back bone, show them that you're willing to fight back and I'm sure they'll leave you alone in a heart beat.
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The thing he needs to do that is to actually have a written record and/or witnesses(ideally both) to establish that there is a pattern of abuse and neglect from the school itself through elevating matters by meeting with the administration (and documenting those meetings). It's called "building a case." As an aside, this is what you also do with any form of abuse, you document it with as much information as possible, and then contact the authorities while escalating the issue as necessary for the conditions involved.
Then you should have been pulled out of that school district and placed into another one that was more able to cater to your social needs. It is not the job to "put up with it." While I don't know your particular temperament
nor am I a professional on the issue, I can and will say this. That some forms of harassment become a cycle of abuse which breaks down the person psychologically. There is really no difference between a battered wife and a school kid that gets beat up and harassed every day. The question is one of frequency and intensity relative to the person's coping mechanisms and the protocols to deal with the situation.
The child in this particular bullying case right out admits to having an issue with his emotions from other sources of stress and from a combination of common sense, and honestly you should only need common sense to understand the context, and actual research will tell you that such a person should not be in such an environment, period.
For starters, "teasing" you can ignore. When it becomes a sustained daily, weekly, and monthly ritual it's coalesced into a form of mental or physical abuse from narcissists. The point is to lower the frequency and intensity of the issue to the point to where the victim can be in a healthy and productive environment.
Who gives a damn if a "staff member doesn't like you," if he or she isn't doing their job then they deserve to be fired. They are responsible for his well being as a part of loco parentis, and as with any such power comes great responsibility. If the case came into the newspapers, it is going to give the school a bad wrap for good reason. This is best only after establishing a history of no cooperation and a history of neglect, hence why earlier I advocated documentation and stealth narking.
The stealth narking has it explicitly placed that the wrap of being a "nark" goes onto the people in charge such as teachers, which is to be expected.
Documenting:
1. Conditions of the harassment, whose around, what time it was, where (details, details, details)
2. Who who reported the issue to and when and where (again details)
-document outcomes as well
3. Continued escalation of the issue proportional to the severity of the harassment and relative common sense judgement on whether school staff are slacking off on the issue or not
I'm not a lawyer or anything, but going from what I know as a parent as a child his parents do have several options depending on their finances such as home schooling, private school, living with another relative or parent and going to another district, internet schools, charter schools, and ect. His options only open up if his mental health were to decline. Also, a good lawyer in a case would be able to highlight probably even more options.
However, in his particular incident has not escalated to that point. Also, ignoring people for nine years in all frankness, you deserve what you got rather than standing up for your civil rights. And remember, not all people that get picked on get picked on in the same way, frequency, or intensity and many walk away into adulthood with invisible scars. Such problems are easier to deal with when they're small problems, rather than large problems and when they do become large problems handling them in the most constructive and profitable manner is the wisest manner to go.
In closing, with the one Irish girl that killed herself a few months ago went to a school that had a history of not dealing with these sorts of issues properly much to the detriment of the people that were around her. Escalating a case righteously prevents further abuses that other people might make incorrect decisions over such as what happened to that one girl. An institutional problem is an institutional problem, not an individual problem. However, in this young man's case we do not know the full context of the story of how receptive his institution is to help him.
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Just let me know where you live and keep in contact. If it persists me and my friend Harlan will make a road trip to sight see down that way and beat his "tail" (have to be nice here) and tell him if we have to come back we'll play with him all day and he won't have fun.
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Wait, what?
1. Ignore him.
2. Agree with him, and laugh it off.
3. Come up with a witty response, and put him in his place.
4. Talk to the authorities, and make them force their hand.
5. No need to bulk up. Punch him in the throat.
6. Insult him until he rages. Take a punch. Press charges.
7. Go deep into the bully hideout, and take out their leader, making you king of the bullies.
Pick whichever you feel is most within your ability to do.