Maybe if people decided to actually go out and look for a relationship (as opposed to sitting at their computer in their parents house) all of these things would be fixed.
Many posters here are young, and thus immature both in their relationships/romantic lives as well as socially in a more general sense.
I mean honestly, are you seriously wondering why young, teenage, Magic: the Gathering playing, forum-visiting gamers are asking about girl frustrations this way? Seriously?
Dear OP, I never thought someone would question it, basically the majority of the people posting are just looking for attention and indirectly either saying "look how awesome I am for liking girls" or "I will never talk to this girl so I just want to talk about her", and when a few non-socially inept people give advice (dajarri and thebutt along with myself) we get called trolls for not giving stupid advice, the reason I stopped posting here is the fact that every day there would be a thread along the lines of "I like this girl blah blah blah" and then a bunch of socially inept people give stupid generic advice along the lines of "she probably likes you too" or "talk to her" and no one ever listens to the good advice because it's not what they want to hear. 90%+ of the threads you are speaking of is just some whiney 14-20 year old either trying to assert social supperiority or just looking for people to talk to about his dreams about a girl who in most cases is out of his league.
TDLR; this forum is basically socially inept people giving bad advice to other socially inept people, if you wanna see what I mean look for a thread called "just curious" read the poll and the OP and you'll see what I mean by the fact that 90% of the people giving advice are socially inept
I think it's rather funny how many people actually ask relationship questions. I tend to not give advice, because even despite me being married... I still have my own issues to work out (only been married a year). Here's the way I look at it: If these kids/young adults were to stop watching sitcoms on tv, or those romantic comedies, or any related material... and actually went out and did stuff, life would be a lot better for them.
I met my wife through me going out, and actually getting to know people through different interests of mine. Even if these kids/young adults were to use Eharmony.com (not spamming any websites, just giving it as an example), or other similar dating websites they'd probably find a good match.
Here's the way I look at it: If these kids/young adults were to stop watching sitcoms on tv, or those romantic comedies, or any related material... and actually went out and did stuff, life would be a lot better for them.
Well the people who are asking for girl advice probably like girls, stevewaski. If you like boys, that's perfectly fine but you can't expect everyone to ask for boy advice just because that's what you are all about. If you want people to start asking you for boy advice maybe you should start a thread, or encourage it by leading by example. Don't just passively encourage it by questioning the alternative, take responsibility! Y'know maybe grow a sack?
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Othito gave the one that's true. Everyone is pretty confused about relationships at some point. Why not ask here? You can't be judged by people you actually know, so they probably feel safer.
because we are all immature idiotic little boys that play magic
Actually i've never used this subforum to post girl problems, mainly problems in which I know a consultant (i have one xD) will not be able to solve.
Playing mtg doesn't make a person immature, or idiotic... those traits usually happen in anyone. It doesn't come from enjoying one particular hobby, or the next. Here's another thing, some of the most intelligent people I've known so far play mtg, but they're also dumb. If a girl wearing a mini-skirt were to walk in and start playing mtg, half of a LGS would probably fall over. I can remember a situation where some hot girl was playing in an FNM, and she got paired against me.
Know what I did? I made sure I beat the living crap out of her deck, just to prove that I'm not gonna let some female win against me because of her looks. Okay, I'm going on a tangent here. Anyways, if there was more of a class like "Beauty and the Geek", where nerds could get taught how to score some girls, then this world would be a better place.
Got to love the self stereotyping that goes on here.
"oh, oh, oh, your such a loser for asking for advise go grow a pair..."
This frustrates me and only spreads more frustration, self defeat, and ignorance. Seriously it does no good to complain about other people having weaknesses which you find odd.
If you have relationship problems its normal. Not one person is immune to them, so why not allow people who want to, ask? If they get the help they wanted then hurray, only 6.2+ billion people more who may ask for something similar elsewhere in the world...
Do you not realise that most of them are looking for a relationship and by coming on here they're trying not to screw it up.
I'm sure they can easily find a relationship for a day. It's called a GFE, and there's lots of girls on craigslist who do it. If Johnny, or Timmy were to sell their Black Lotus, they'd have it made.:p
On a serious note, I don't see how a socially inept person can better their life by listening to another socially inept person. See the conundrum here? I'm really, really not trying to start a flame war or troll on MTGS, but I can honestly guess or estimate that the majority of this board is single, probably has had less than two girls in bed before.... and other such stereotypes that comes with being a nerd.
I posted various things that could have been used as a "solution", but some people took offense to it and downtrodded what I said. Oh wellz, tough luck.
I'm sure they can easily find a relationship for a day. It's called a GFE, and there's lots of girls on craigslist who do it. If Johnny, or Timmy were to sell their Black Lotus, they'd have it made.:p
On a serious note, I don't see how a socially inept person can better their life by listening to another socially inept person. See the conundrum here? I'm really, really not trying to start a flame war or troll on MTGS, but I can honestly guess or estimate that the majority of this board is single, probably has had less than two girls in bed before.... and other such stereotypes that comes with being a nerd.
Many of us are doing just fine, thanks. (Even if we could stand to lose 50 lbs or something.. :embarrass:)
Anyway, bottom line, it's true that a lot of posters have trouble getting out there and being social.
However, there is nothing wrong with them seeking advice here. Perhaps if they discuss the anxiety they are having, they will be able to find solutions for it. There's a difference between wanting to act and actually doing it, and some people need help getting from point A to point B.
I just want it noted that girls aren't magically any better at dealing with guy issues. So a lot of the situations where you're seriously unsure of what to do and need advice... odds are she's not any more sure of things than you are.
I just want it noted that girls aren't magically any better at dealing with guy issues. So a lot of the situations where you're seriously unsure of what to do and need advice... odds are she's not any more sure of things than you are.
Just food for thought.
Disagree. From what I've seen, girls can pick up a guy much more easily than a guy can pick up a girl. There *are* exceptions of course, and some moderately attractive girls I know just can't pick up a guy to save their lives.
But by and large, I have seen girls know instinctually how to handle the dating scene much more easily than guys do.
I mean, I guess it's possible that all the girls I know just read a bunch of cosmo all the time, but still...(That was a joke)
Actually recovering alcoholics might be the very place to look for that kind of advice.
Been there as a mandatory "go to the meeting with your father or your grounded" deal a few times. (He's the alchohalic, I'm the straight edge self disciplined one in the family)
I'm sorry, I just don't buy into the argument that "it's a disease and not your fault." So no, I feel that an AA meeting is a TERRIBLE place to go for self control advice.
Because a bunch of Magic nerds is obviously the best place to get girl advice.
This is a stupid, unfair argument and it makes me ☺☺☺☺ bricks whenever I see it because of how incredibly asinine it is.
Why wouldn't the forum-goers here be able to give good advice? A good number of us actually have experiences that lend themselves to providing advice. As much as dumbasses want to perpetuate the stereotype that the entire membership of Salvation is made up of awkward, virginal teenage nerds who can't escape the parents' basement, that isn't the case. Some are married with kids, some have had more than a few successful long-term relationships, others are a little on the whorey side. Playing Magic doesn't have to slow you down from having a life, and many here have been more than capable of living a life beyond a game.
Point in fact, I'm quite proud of how successful this section has been in the past couple years. And the regulars here who have been providing excellent, insightful advice should be beyond getting questioned as to their capabilities simply because they're a part of this site.
An important reason to come here for advice, that hasn't been mentioned yet, is the strategy.
A nerd has a different way to approach women than, let's say, some athlete, or any other guy with too much self esteem.
Those guys often have had several girlfriends since high school, and let them go just as easily.
People asking for help in these forums want to learn from other nerds how they became succesful, even though they were just as socially awkward in the past. I can't imagine some nerd going up to one of the players asking for advice. A nerd can't just pretend to be too good for the ladies, and be wanted through that.
So yeah, I can imagine why nerds would come here for advice, because that's what nerds do. They observe, ask, learn. That's what made them smart in the first place.
And, once a nerd gets over the self confidence speed bump, they often have longer lasting relationships, because they put in a lot of effort.
And when she dumps you for some cooler guy anyway, this forum is also the place to get advice, because we all experienced that as well..
I just want it noted that girls aren't magically any better at dealing with guy issues. So a lot of the situations where you're seriously unsure of what to do and need advice... odds are she's not any more sure of things than you are.
Just food for thought.
While they're not "magically" better at dealing with these types of things, they're still better. Girls usually have a group of friends that they can diffuse their burden on, while guys aren't as open and can only confide in a couple friends. This leads to guys being more emotional than girls when it comes to breakups/relationship issues etc.
As for getting advice from another socially inept person, it's not like they're equally inept. We've all had different experiences so there's always something to share.
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I mean honestly, are you seriously wondering why young, teenage, Magic: the Gathering playing, forum-visiting gamers are asking about girl frustrations this way? Seriously?
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TDLR; this forum is basically socially inept people giving bad advice to other socially inept people, if you wanna see what I mean look for a thread called "just curious" read the poll and the OP and you'll see what I mean by the fact that 90% of the people giving advice are socially inept
I met my wife through me going out, and actually getting to know people through different interests of mine. Even if these kids/young adults were to use Eharmony.com (not spamming any websites, just giving it as an example), or other similar dating websites they'd probably find a good match.
Ain't that the goddamned truth.
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Othito gave the one that's true. Everyone is pretty confused about relationships at some point. Why not ask here? You can't be judged by people you actually know, so they probably feel safer.
Actually i've never used this subforum to post girl problems, mainly problems in which I know a consultant (i have one xD) will not be able to solve.
Playing mtg doesn't make a person immature, or idiotic... those traits usually happen in anyone. It doesn't come from enjoying one particular hobby, or the next. Here's another thing, some of the most intelligent people I've known so far play mtg, but they're also dumb. If a girl wearing a mini-skirt were to walk in and start playing mtg, half of a LGS would probably fall over. I can remember a situation where some hot girl was playing in an FNM, and she got paired against me.
Know what I did? I made sure I beat the living crap out of her deck, just to prove that I'm not gonna let some female win against me because of her looks. Okay, I'm going on a tangent here. Anyways, if there was more of a class like "Beauty and the Geek", where nerds could get taught how to score some girls, then this world would be a better place.
"oh, oh, oh, your such a loser for asking for advise go grow a pair..."
This frustrates me and only spreads more frustration, self defeat, and ignorance. Seriously it does no good to complain about other people having weaknesses which you find odd.
If you have relationship problems its normal. Not one person is immune to them, so why not allow people who want to, ask? If they get the help they wanted then hurray, only 6.2+ billion people more who may ask for something similar elsewhere in the world...
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I'm sure they can easily find a relationship for a day. It's called a GFE, and there's lots of girls on craigslist who do it. If Johnny, or Timmy were to sell their Black Lotus, they'd have it made.:p
On a serious note, I don't see how a socially inept person can better their life by listening to another socially inept person. See the conundrum here? I'm really, really not trying to start a flame war or troll on MTGS, but I can honestly guess or estimate that the majority of this board is single, probably has had less than two girls in bed before.... and other such stereotypes that comes with being a nerd.
I posted various things that could have been used as a "solution", but some people took offense to it and downtrodded what I said. Oh wellz, tough luck.
Many of us are doing just fine, thanks. (Even if we could stand to lose 50 lbs or something.. :embarrass:)
Anyway, bottom line, it's true that a lot of posters have trouble getting out there and being social.
However, there is nothing wrong with them seeking advice here. Perhaps if they discuss the anxiety they are having, they will be able to find solutions for it. There's a difference between wanting to act and actually doing it, and some people need help getting from point A to point B.
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Dude. I was about to say this word for word. No joke.
but yeah. like... would you go to an AA meeting to ask people for advice on self control?
same concept.
Just food for thought.
Disagree. From what I've seen, girls can pick up a guy much more easily than a guy can pick up a girl. There *are* exceptions of course, and some moderately attractive girls I know just can't pick up a guy to save their lives.
But by and large, I have seen girls know instinctually how to handle the dating scene much more easily than guys do.
I mean, I guess it's possible that all the girls I know just read a bunch of cosmo all the time, but still...(That was a joke)
Actually recovering alcoholics might be the very place to look for that kind of advice.
Been there as a mandatory "go to the meeting with your father or your grounded" deal a few times. (He's the alchohalic, I'm the straight edge self disciplined one in the family)
I'm sorry, I just don't buy into the argument that "it's a disease and not your fault." So no, I feel that an AA meeting is a TERRIBLE place to go for self control advice.
This is a stupid, unfair argument and it makes me ☺☺☺☺ bricks whenever I see it because of how incredibly asinine it is.
Why wouldn't the forum-goers here be able to give good advice? A good number of us actually have experiences that lend themselves to providing advice. As much as dumbasses want to perpetuate the stereotype that the entire membership of Salvation is made up of awkward, virginal teenage nerds who can't escape the parents' basement, that isn't the case. Some are married with kids, some have had more than a few successful long-term relationships, others are a little on the whorey side. Playing Magic doesn't have to slow you down from having a life, and many here have been more than capable of living a life beyond a game.
Point in fact, I'm quite proud of how successful this section has been in the past couple years. And the regulars here who have been providing excellent, insightful advice should be beyond getting questioned as to their capabilities simply because they're a part of this site.
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A nerd has a different way to approach women than, let's say, some athlete, or any other guy with too much self esteem.
Those guys often have had several girlfriends since high school, and let them go just as easily.
People asking for help in these forums want to learn from other nerds how they became succesful, even though they were just as socially awkward in the past. I can't imagine some nerd going up to one of the players asking for advice. A nerd can't just pretend to be too good for the ladies, and be wanted through that.
So yeah, I can imagine why nerds would come here for advice, because that's what nerds do. They observe, ask, learn. That's what made them smart in the first place.
And, once a nerd gets over the self confidence speed bump, they often have longer lasting relationships, because they put in a lot of effort.
And when she dumps you for some cooler guy anyway, this forum is also the place to get advice, because we all experienced that as well..
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While they're not "magically" better at dealing with these types of things, they're still better. Girls usually have a group of friends that they can diffuse their burden on, while guys aren't as open and can only confide in a couple friends. This leads to guys being more emotional than girls when it comes to breakups/relationship issues etc.
As for getting advice from another socially inept person, it's not like they're equally inept. We've all had different experiences so there's always something to share.