I'm rereading this thread. It's weird. I broke up with her yesterday. I broke up with her because I was attracted to someone else. I'm fine, she feels like crap. Same as our Zephyrnoir friend. Although the cybersexing wasn't the cause for our break up, I think it was a symptom.
I think I read through about 6 pages of this thread before this question nagged me enough to skip ahead and post it.
HOW did you reach 6 YEARS into your relationship, and not already have a clear understanding of her boundaries/expectations and personal definitions for what is and is not ok? Do you not ever talk!?
I don't know. We didn't built our relationship around sex. Actually, I don't really like to talk about it, although I think she did.
Anyway, it's over now.
Thanks for the input, everyone.
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My girlfriend got really mad at me because she found out I have an account on a cam site. I left a message to someone on the site, she found out and now she's disappointed and feels like I cheated on her.
Is she being too rough on me? The message sounded like I wanted to meet the girl, but I was just messing around.
lol yes it is.
How would you feel if it were the other way around?
Vc ia ficar puto, ia dizer que ela tava querendo te fazer de corno. Deixa de ser maneh, porra!
I personally don't think its cheating.. your never gonna meet the person and sometimes your gotta do what you gotta do.. its like watching porn... Is porn cheating?
didn't think so.
This just strikes me as a really selfish and immature way of seeing relationships. It's not about some arbitrary set of rules that you may have or may have not agreed to follow, it's about trust and respect.
If you don't see how having secret virtual sex encounters with strangers is a breach of trust, then maybe you aren't ready for a relationship. And if after six years you suddenly break up because "you were attracted to someone else", one has to wonder how shallow your relationship was to begin with.
I personally don't think its cheating.. your never gonna meet the person and sometimes your gotta do what you gotta do.. its like watching porn... Is porn cheating?
didn't think so.
Porn is highly impersonal, where video cyber sex is not therefore yes, yes it is cheating. Anything you would do with your partner that shows you are a couple that you are doing with someone who is NOT you're parter IS cheating. Simple as that. Cyber Sex is still sex...a sad sex but sex none the less.
It was cheating for a very simple reason, she defined it as cheating. If it had been the first time she had caught you with something kind of pornographic, and you cleared the air, I would have had a different view. As you know that she was bothered by you watching regular porn, one where you had direct interaction with someone else would bother her more and you knew it. You did something with another woman that your woman would have a problem with and you knew it. That's why it was cheating in my eyes.
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I'm rereading this thread. It's weird. I broke up with her yesterday. I broke up with her because I was attracted to someone else. I'm fine, she feels like crap. Same as our Zephyrnoir friend. Although the cybersexing wasn't the cause for our break up, I think it was a symptom.
It can be a symptom of some kind of lack in a relationship. You have needs, she doesn't meet those needs, you don't define exactly what those needs are because you more or less expect it automatically. You knew what you wanted but didn't think that she couldn't comprehend what exactly those needs were. So in the human nature to find what we need you found another way to satisfy it.
There is a really good book about this kind of subject, i'm thinking his needs her needs? maybe?
Aside cybersex itself seems to be obviously a form of sexual intimacy, which is also clearly a form of cheating.
1) People seem to be making the mistake that this was a 1 on 1 webcam chat with both sides involved in the attraction. My impression is that this was one of those sites where users pay (or don't in some cases) to be in a live chatroom either individually or in a group and interact with a woman who is putting on a show (and maybe taking requests). It is EXACTLY like being a stripper except even more removed (as they aren't there in person).
2) However, as stated, cheating is what the relationship has it defined as. If the relationship said kissing/more with random people was fine, then eve if most would consider cheating, it isn't. Cheating is in the eye of the beholder.
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Make up with her.
Make her feel special again.
Avoid the same mistake twice.
Learn from this experience.
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I don't know. We didn't built our relationship around sex. Actually, I don't really like to talk about it, although I think she did.
Anyway, it's over now.
Thanks for the input, everyone.
lol yes it is.
How would you feel if it were the other way around?
Vc ia ficar puto, ia dizer que ela tava querendo te fazer de corno. Deixa de ser maneh, porra!
didn't think so.
If you don't see how having secret virtual sex encounters with strangers is a breach of trust, then maybe you aren't ready for a relationship. And if after six years you suddenly break up because "you were attracted to someone else", one has to wonder how shallow your relationship was to begin with.
Porn is highly impersonal, where video cyber sex is not therefore yes, yes it is cheating. Anything you would do with your partner that shows you are a couple that you are doing with someone who is NOT you're parter IS cheating. Simple as that. Cyber Sex is still sex...a sad sex but sex none the less.
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Odds of pulling any specific rare in 5th Edition: 1:133
So, on average, 1 JtMS every 2.222 boxes or 1 Bird of Paradise every 3.694 boxes. Yeah, I'll take my odds with Mythics, they are easier to get than old rares.
Want to support a LGS that finally branched into the selling online world? Send me a pm with your email for a $5 off coupon (usable on purchases of $10 or more) for a LGS that just recently got onto TCG player.
It can be a symptom of some kind of lack in a relationship. You have needs, she doesn't meet those needs, you don't define exactly what those needs are because you more or less expect it automatically. You knew what you wanted but didn't think that she couldn't comprehend what exactly those needs were. So in the human nature to find what we need you found another way to satisfy it.
There is a really good book about this kind of subject, i'm thinking his needs her needs? maybe?
Aside cybersex itself seems to be obviously a form of sexual intimacy, which is also clearly a form of cheating.
1) People seem to be making the mistake that this was a 1 on 1 webcam chat with both sides involved in the attraction. My impression is that this was one of those sites where users pay (or don't in some cases) to be in a live chatroom either individually or in a group and interact with a woman who is putting on a show (and maybe taking requests). It is EXACTLY like being a stripper except even more removed (as they aren't there in person).
2) However, as stated, cheating is what the relationship has it defined as. If the relationship said kissing/more with random people was fine, then eve if most would consider cheating, it isn't. Cheating is in the eye of the beholder.