They reside on the west coast, I reside on the east coast of the USA.
The apartment isn't big enough for another person, (efficiency) and there isn't enough room for me to couch-surf. I don't have an easily transferable job, nor any hot-shot skills to just pick one up easily.
I don't want to wait until september/october when her lease is up. Am I insane?
I would be travelling via my car.
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Are you insane for wanting to move to be with your spouse? No, of course not.
Are you insane for planning to do it without knowing how to make it work logistically? Still probably not, although it seems like you need to work more on making it happen.
There are things that you two could do; given you need a bigger apartment, she could sub-lease her current apartment or break the lease agreement (if that's permissible under the terms of her lease, although that can get very expensive). But regardless of what you opt to do, the two of you need to have a plan. You should have a job lined up, or know how to support yourself while you search for one. You also need to make sure that she's on board with the plan, because the last thing you need at the end of a cross-country move is additional friction in a relationship.
If you're planning on showing up at her doorstep and surprising her, don't do that.
But for sure, you're not crazy for wanting to move to be with your spouse. In the scheme of things prefaced with the question "am I insane?" that actually seems pretty reasonable. But you still need to make sure that you and her can make it work. If it's not feasible, and it won't be feasible no matter how hard you try, then you'll just have to wait it out.
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Talk to the spouse. Talk about your emotional needs.
Take some time off, spend time and just be together for a few days. Really talk about and your needs, and figure out something together that will require sacrifice.
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We both want this. But her career is, 'going places', and mine isn't. I actually hate this city, so the farther I am, the better.
I'm just at a loss for figuring out how to get a job there and a place to stay until she can find somewhere else. I can't visit easily. Hotel and rental car accommodations are not in my budget for a visit. Plus I have finite paid time off, and then the employers starts to get all uneasy about non-paid time off.
I'm not sure what sacrifices would have to be made at all, except my time and continuing to work for a horrible company.
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My wife and I were in a similar situation a year ago. I'm a lawyer and she is a mid-level manager for a corporation. I had a great job in Florida with a house on the beach but she lived in the National Capital Region. She moved down to Florida but she couldn't find a job. I said that's ok, I can support us, but she wasn't having it. So she begged for her old job back after a few months, and as they hadn't hired anyone to fill her position, she got rehired. Fortunately, it's easy for a lawyer to get a government job in Washington. So I moved to be with her. Unfortunately, I am making less money than I was before, with much higher cost of living, and taxes. And I hate this place. I sort of regret leaving Florida, but those are the sacrifices one must make in marriage. My advice is to do what makes you happy. Don't do something that you may regret, but also don't continue in a situation in which you aren't happy just for the sake of toughing it out.
Your situation sounds a little different though. You hate where you're living now so it is a no-brainer. The only part left is the logistics. I wouldn't leave without securing some sort of job there, even if the job isn't ideal. But if her career is going places, and she wants you to be there, you both may be forced to deal with the reality that she's going to be the primary breadwinner until you find something better, go back to school, etc.
You can do anything for love. Moving to a city with a spouse (and away from a place you hate?) seems like a pretty good option.
I don't want to belittle your concerns. Getting a new job and a new career sounds daunting, especially if you aren't in the requisite fields for getting paid (under-employed struggling artist here, with a brand-spanking new rejection letter.) But you gotta choose love over fear. I'm excited for you. You can make this work.
Well, I moved. And I'm here. And we live in different places and it really hurts us both to do so.
My car broke on the way, costing an extra $2k just to finish the trip, and is still broken 3 weeks after.
I did, sort of, get a job that starts next week for training. But, I am not having a good time without my car and the freedom it gave me when it worked. I don't even have a bicycle here and the nearest market is 1 mile away. Uphill,.
We're going through some emotions and stuff. And tonight I felt like replying to this thread. I had plans to wait to care about magic until after i settled with a job, so i looked into going to some local stores, but withoutmy car, 2miles is far to walk. She plays but laments how she doesn't know it well enough but is too much of a social recluse to learn and practice by playing more. So she doesn't want to go. augh.
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The apartment isn't big enough for another person, (efficiency) and there isn't enough room for me to couch-surf. I don't have an easily transferable job, nor any hot-shot skills to just pick one up easily.
I don't want to wait until september/october when her lease is up. Am I insane?
I would be travelling via my car.
Selling some cards I don't want.
Generally less than tcg mid.
Are you insane for planning to do it without knowing how to make it work logistically? Still probably not, although it seems like you need to work more on making it happen.
There are things that you two could do; given you need a bigger apartment, she could sub-lease her current apartment or break the lease agreement (if that's permissible under the terms of her lease, although that can get very expensive). But regardless of what you opt to do, the two of you need to have a plan. You should have a job lined up, or know how to support yourself while you search for one. You also need to make sure that she's on board with the plan, because the last thing you need at the end of a cross-country move is additional friction in a relationship.
If you're planning on showing up at her doorstep and surprising her, don't do that.
But for sure, you're not crazy for wanting to move to be with your spouse. In the scheme of things prefaced with the question "am I insane?" that actually seems pretty reasonable. But you still need to make sure that you and her can make it work. If it's not feasible, and it won't be feasible no matter how hard you try, then you'll just have to wait it out.
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Take some time off, spend time and just be together for a few days. Really talk about and your needs, and figure out something together that will require sacrifice.
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I'm just at a loss for figuring out how to get a job there and a place to stay until she can find somewhere else. I can't visit easily. Hotel and rental car accommodations are not in my budget for a visit. Plus I have finite paid time off, and then the employers starts to get all uneasy about non-paid time off.
I'm not sure what sacrifices would have to be made at all, except my time and continuing to work for a horrible company.
Selling some cards I don't want.
Generally less than tcg mid.
Your situation sounds a little different though. You hate where you're living now so it is a no-brainer. The only part left is the logistics. I wouldn't leave without securing some sort of job there, even if the job isn't ideal. But if her career is going places, and she wants you to be there, you both may be forced to deal with the reality that she's going to be the primary breadwinner until you find something better, go back to school, etc.
You can do anything for love. Moving to a city with a spouse (and away from a place you hate?) seems like a pretty good option.
I don't want to belittle your concerns. Getting a new job and a new career sounds daunting, especially if you aren't in the requisite fields for getting paid (under-employed struggling artist here, with a brand-spanking new rejection letter.) But you gotta choose love over fear. I'm excited for you. You can make this work.
My car broke on the way, costing an extra $2k just to finish the trip, and is still broken 3 weeks after.
I did, sort of, get a job that starts next week for training. But, I am not having a good time without my car and the freedom it gave me when it worked. I don't even have a bicycle here and the nearest market is 1 mile away. Uphill,.
We're going through some emotions and stuff. And tonight I felt like replying to this thread. I had plans to wait to care about magic until after i settled with a job, so i looked into going to some local stores, but withoutmy car, 2miles is far to walk. She plays but laments how she doesn't know it well enough but is too much of a social recluse to learn and practice by playing more. So she doesn't want to go. augh.
Selling some cards I don't want.
Generally less than tcg mid.