My Ex left me a year and a half ago. She suddenly left after we bought a house. The breakup wasn't easy.
However, after a year of no contact she messaged my at three'o clock in the morning. She wanted to call me. We hang on the phone for an hour and a half. She made an apology for the way she left and we had a nice chat. This was tuesday.
Wednesday i went clubbing with some friends and coworkers and i ran into her. We both were flabbergasted in seeing each other. But it got.. kinda weird? She was constantly touching me, hugging me, claiming my attention. She could not believe how good i looked and she was constantly touching my belly. She even lifted my shirt in the middle of the dance floor. When a friend came to pick me up to go to the next bar, she objected with :'' i've decorated his house!'' Wich i found, weird.. When i made clear that i really was leaving she wanted to know if she'll ever see me again. i asked if she really wanted to, she said yes. I responded with a ''we'll see''.
She texted me not an hour later with:'' how's the house? Wanna meet!''
This morning she texted me again. This time she was very short. I got nothing more then "omg.. last night'' ''Can't remember everything' ''so drunk'' ''had a good time!''
I'm not into 2/3 word texts an told her that i had to leave and that she had to sober up.
The thing is. What does she want? Does she really miss me? I really have no idea what she's upto and what her intentions are. I would like her back as a GF, but i have no idea if thats in the cards or not.
What do you guys and gals think?
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“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.” —Volrath
I would hear from her sober before moving forward with anything. Good decisions are rarely made at 3am when fueled by alcohol. I would call her during the day and have a conversation. Her text says she doesn't remember everything so perhaps start by finding out what she does recall from your interaction at the club. Depending on what she says think about meeting in person if you feel that is the right thing to do. Don't make any commitments till you are sure what her motives are. If you feel she really wants to get back together and (I don't know the details of your breakup) she has moved on from whatever caused the breakup then go for it. Just be sure she isn't after your house or some worst case scenario ulterior motive like that.
Yes, it is. And i still think your advice is sound. I just want to know what she wants :/
My friend, I'm not even sure she knows.
What she seems to want is whatever she doesn't currently have. She wanted the house, then she wanted out of the house. She wanted that carefree lifestyle, now she wants back. If you let her back in, she's just going to go after something else again.
Yes, it is. And i still think your advice is sound. I just want to know what she wants :/
My friend, I'm not even sure she knows.
What she seems to want is whatever she doesn't currently have. She wanted the house, then she wanted out of the house. She wanted that carefree lifestyle, now she wants back. If you let her back in, she's just going to go after something else again.
Exactly this has been going through my head. And my head tells me to avoid her at all costs. It's just that i've been utterly miserable without her all this time. I've had a few dates and short fling, but at the end of the day i still miss her, unfortunately. Maybe my feeling are clouding my judgement...
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“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.” —Volrath
Move on.
This person does not know what she wants and will continue to use you as an emotional anchor. She maybe a nice person, great in bed, or whatever, but you can find dozens of women who are just as cool, smart, fun, and who are also emotionally stable, know what they want and also know the value of a great guy and how to treat them to develop a healthy relationship.
Move on.
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I've renovated my house already in my own personal little man cave. Some things i simply can't redecorate. The floors, kitchen, bathroom etc. We picked those thing together.
She contacted me again yesterday. She wanted to know if i had seen her glasses. This was another obvious little lie to get my attention. However, she claimed to have done something very stupid when drunk. She had sex with a total stranger when i didn't respond to her text. I had to lay the law down there. Being on good terms is fine, but i don't have to know her sexlife, nor does she have to know mine. We're exes. That's not natural. She agreed not bring it up again. But she has been shoving her sexlife in my face the last time she reached out. Personally i think she's trying to make me jealous or something. She told me she simply wants to be friends. Sure.
I saved a screenshot of her little sexual adventure, just in case she's gonna be ***** again.
But why get out of the way to be friends after a year of no contact? If she didn't reach out, chances are i wouldn't ever have seen her again. I mean, why would a person so desperatly try to be ''just friends'' with an ex you screwed over and wronged and haven't seen or spoken to in a year?
I'm glad we're on good terms for the sake of our shared friends. But even though i really, really want her back, i think i'm simply gonna ignore her from now on and try to move on.. Again..
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“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.” —Volrath
However, after a year of no contact she messaged my at three'o clock in the morning. She wanted to call me. We hang on the phone for an hour and a half. She made an apology for the way she left and we had a nice chat. This was tuesday.
Wednesday i went clubbing with some friends and coworkers and i ran into her. We both were flabbergasted in seeing each other. But it got.. kinda weird? She was constantly touching me, hugging me, claiming my attention. She could not believe how good i looked and she was constantly touching my belly. She even lifted my shirt in the middle of the dance floor. When a friend came to pick me up to go to the next bar, she objected with :'' i've decorated his house!'' Wich i found, weird.. When i made clear that i really was leaving she wanted to know if she'll ever see me again. i asked if she really wanted to, she said yes. I responded with a ''we'll see''.
She texted me not an hour later with:'' how's the house? Wanna meet!''
This morning she texted me again. This time she was very short. I got nothing more then "omg.. last night'' ''Can't remember everything' ''so drunk'' ''had a good time!''
I'm not into 2/3 word texts an told her that i had to leave and that she had to sober up.
The thing is. What does she want? Does she really miss me? I really have no idea what she's upto and what her intentions are. I would like her back as a GF, but i have no idea if thats in the cards or not.
What do you guys and gals think?
“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.”
—Volrath
If so, avoid her like the plague. All of my advice in that thread still stands.
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“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.”
—Volrath
What she seems to want is whatever she doesn't currently have. She wanted the house, then she wanted out of the house. She wanted that carefree lifestyle, now she wants back. If you let her back in, she's just going to go after something else again.
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Exactly this has been going through my head. And my head tells me to avoid her at all costs. It's just that i've been utterly miserable without her all this time. I've had a few dates and short fling, but at the end of the day i still miss her, unfortunately. Maybe my feeling are clouding my judgement...
“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.”
—Volrath
This person does not know what she wants and will continue to use you as an emotional anchor. She maybe a nice person, great in bed, or whatever, but you can find dozens of women who are just as cool, smart, fun, and who are also emotionally stable, know what they want and also know the value of a great guy and how to treat them to develop a healthy relationship.
Move on.
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She contacted me again yesterday. She wanted to know if i had seen her glasses. This was another obvious little lie to get my attention. However, she claimed to have done something very stupid when drunk. She had sex with a total stranger when i didn't respond to her text. I had to lay the law down there. Being on good terms is fine, but i don't have to know her sexlife, nor does she have to know mine. We're exes. That's not natural. She agreed not bring it up again. But she has been shoving her sexlife in my face the last time she reached out. Personally i think she's trying to make me jealous or something. She told me she simply wants to be friends. Sure.
I saved a screenshot of her little sexual adventure, just in case she's gonna be ***** again.
But why get out of the way to be friends after a year of no contact? If she didn't reach out, chances are i wouldn't ever have seen her again. I mean, why would a person so desperatly try to be ''just friends'' with an ex you screwed over and wronged and haven't seen or spoken to in a year?
I'm glad we're on good terms for the sake of our shared friends. But even though i really, really want her back, i think i'm simply gonna ignore her from now on and try to move on.. Again..
“I once had an entire race killed just to listen to the rattling of their dried bones as I waded through them.”
—Volrath