Quirkiness - You're overthinking this. Thinking about what is to come in a relationship is going to ruin what you already have.
Enjoy what you have, and try to take things as they come. Becoming neurotic about it is only going to strain the relationship and any potential future friendship. It's really important that you don't confuse what you think should happen with what actually has to happen. I'm actually sad for you guys that you didn't get more time together because of the artificial constraints you put on the potential relationship. It sounds like you really care about her, and the reality is that you'll regret what you didn't do more than what you did.
You should definitely talk to your girlfriend about these concerns, see what she says. Don't discount a long-distance relationship, my wife and I spent a total off three of the twelve years we've been together across the country from one another. It's never fun, but if she's as great as you think she is, she'd be worth it. Skype and Facetime have made the distance a lot less of a problem in recent years, too. We just kept a Skype call open so we could talk whenever. It would have been the worst mistake of my life if we didn't even try when she moved away, and a lot of couples break-up because it's what they believe has to happen instead of just following how they feel.
I'm not saying follow her across the country blindly. I'm saying give your relationship a chance, because breaking up in your head now to save yourself pain later never works, you're still hurt later and you've ruined the time you'd have together now. There is no timeframe on when the break-up/marriage has to happen. My wife and I dated for nine years before we got married. It worked because we loved one another, and while the distance, lack of money or inability to move forward with marriage was rough, it was ultimately worth it because I didn't break up with my best friend just because things got hard. This was also the third time my wife and I dated - a break-up doesn't have to be the end forever, sometimes it just means that one or both of you needs time to mature before trying again.
If neither of you think you're ready for a long distance relationship, talk about it. If the answer is 'I need someone nearby', 'it's too much work' or 'I don't think I could stay faithful', that's one thing. If the answer boils down to 'I'll miss you too much and I think it'll just be painful', that's a very different thing.
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Enjoy what you have, and try to take things as they come. Becoming neurotic about it is only going to strain the relationship and any potential future friendship. It's really important that you don't confuse what you think should happen with what actually has to happen. I'm actually sad for you guys that you didn't get more time together because of the artificial constraints you put on the potential relationship. It sounds like you really care about her, and the reality is that you'll regret what you didn't do more than what you did.
You should definitely talk to your girlfriend about these concerns, see what she says. Don't discount a long-distance relationship, my wife and I spent a total off three of the twelve years we've been together across the country from one another. It's never fun, but if she's as great as you think she is, she'd be worth it. Skype and Facetime have made the distance a lot less of a problem in recent years, too. We just kept a Skype call open so we could talk whenever. It would have been the worst mistake of my life if we didn't even try when she moved away, and a lot of couples break-up because it's what they believe has to happen instead of just following how they feel.
I'm not saying follow her across the country blindly. I'm saying give your relationship a chance, because breaking up in your head now to save yourself pain later never works, you're still hurt later and you've ruined the time you'd have together now. There is no timeframe on when the break-up/marriage has to happen. My wife and I dated for nine years before we got married. It worked because we loved one another, and while the distance, lack of money or inability to move forward with marriage was rough, it was ultimately worth it because I didn't break up with my best friend just because things got hard. This was also the third time my wife and I dated - a break-up doesn't have to be the end forever, sometimes it just means that one or both of you needs time to mature before trying again.
If neither of you think you're ready for a long distance relationship, talk about it. If the answer is 'I need someone nearby', 'it's too much work' or 'I don't think I could stay faithful', that's one thing. If the answer boils down to 'I'll miss you too much and I think it'll just be painful', that's a very different thing.
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[Primer] Krenko | Azor | Kess | Zacama | Kumena | Sram | The Ur-Dragon | Edgar Markov | Daretti | Marath