Quote from traderjoeSociety frowns upon people like these. How do we get them to change? How will they see themselves 5 years from now? The rest of us work hard to earn a living and we don't have the same amount of time to "have fun" or "chill out". Can it be that we as productive members of society have it all wrong? Perhaps we should indulge in the little and materialistic things and keep us happy.
No. I was once a "durdler" in life and can tell you from experience that it's not fulfilling. Fun for a while, but let it go too long and you start to lose all self-respect. Peers are a big motivator. They don't even have to say anything directly, just having some good friends to be an example and picking up things from everyday conversations about the joys and challenges they face in their career, family, home ownership, etc. is huge.
If you're worried about your friends you should ask them what their plans are, where they see themselves in 5 yrs or 10 yrs. At least get them thinking about it. Do they want to be 47yrs old still living with their parents and just watching movies and playing games all the time? What about when their parents eventually retire? What about when their parents inevitably die? If they mention wanting to change something, encourage them. Chances are they've already thought about it but they don't know how to take the next step and are too afraid of looking stupid to ask for help.
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Urza sure is awesome no?