Holy crap, this right here! That's the main line I draw to determine a person's pathology.
I tend to sympathize with psychopaths and due to that I've befriended quite a few over the course of my life. As a kid I was bullied and I grew up feeling misunderstood. Over time I learned to deal with it, trying to not stoop to the level of apathy that caused people to hurt me, and it's led me to meet some people who made me reach the following conclusion:
Nobody is perpetually apathetic to other people's emotions. Psychopaths are defined as people born without the ability to feel empathy, but I just consider that their "standard state". Emotions are easy to fake and difficult to hide, and a prolonged faking of emotions inevitably ends in authenticity seeping in. Empathy is an advantage for evolution, and ultimately beneficial for an individual. By definition, the potential for empathy is present in every mammal. I think that one without any capacity to feel empathy lacks any significant brain activity to survive.
The point is, I think people like to hide their empathy, related to the aversion of appearing weak. I'm pretty empathic myself but I think one can definitely shut down the reception of other people's emotions and is in fact a necessary action eventually in life. Psychopaths in general, from my experience, seem particularly insecure when their emotional needs are not met. They want to be remembered and their egos demand empathy from others, in essence. To me, that means that the people who appear most emotionless do so because of some sort of over-compensation. I think everyone can feel empathy and some people fight to feel less of it.
I'll get the blatant fallacies out of the way first:
Usually people with politically liberal tendencies may try to tiptoe the subject so as not to seem as ethnically prejudiced (I dislike the term "racist", I think it's horribly misused and that's part of the problem itself) as their opposition, so I'll tell you what I would do on a personal level in what I consider a more realistic approach:
What you really want is not SEEM "racist" to people whom it may offend (because it affects you professionally and inter-personally). The very fact that you're making a post is an indication that you're "fine" and therefore questioning yourself to keep a greater problem from happening. Being "racist" in itself is not a crime, "evil", or "wrong" and at its core is as inevitable as being a misanthrope and hating oneself (that is, even maybe healthy to some moderate degree). A lot of people have a tendency of being quick to judge on the subject (think of all the "death to racists", "racist people are crap" eye-for-an-eye fallacious mentalities). Those chances increase where there is ignorance or aversion to critical thinking. Remember that a lot of people from all races are what would be consider racist while still being generally "good people".
I lived in different cities with African-American majorities and I myself am a racial minority. I got along just fine with the sane people (and those who did something to keep some sanity they didn't have) in high-crime areas by treating everyone like humans, capable of good and bad and expecting them to act they way I myself would.
What I think you ought to do is be subtle. For example, don't make it too obvious when crossing a street after spotting a black man (more than racist, this is sexist. I would not automatically fear a black woman, but even if I were a black man I'd tell you to be careful). Hell, he might be more scared of you than you of him. But do cross so as to avoid potential negative moments. You recognize your situation is circumstantial and in an ideal world nobody should fear a person based on their skin color. We do not live in an ideal world. You do not live in an ideal world. Don't fear being "racist". In this case you're being rational, acting based on facts and a lot of people might call you out on it. Just do what you consider the right thing and doubt yourself only when necessary. A simple definition of "fairness" is giving the same treatment to everyone equally, and due to the high crime rates in your area, I would be suspicious of anyone who comes off as suspicious (even yourself, as silly as that sounds). Avoid those places that you know anyone would be scared of (some people might play brave and venture into dark alleys just to prove how not-racist their privileged asses are), treat people with the same amount of honest harshness and careful compassion you'd want them to treat you (say "please" and "thank you" to everyone but never kiss anyone's ass or appear soft. Anyone preys on weakness). Be understanding, support the underdog and know when to side with people who can hurt you. It's all about balance and knowing the different facts that make up what you are and who you are as a whole.
You know not all black people in this big planet are the same as the ones in your teeny tiny piece of residence. You're fine. Discriminate away if it means doing what's sane, safe, smart, sensible, and sometimes even the most respectful thing to do. You know you'll receive the same treatment, and if you're a kind person you're not making this world worse.
Now for my douchey part: these are not meant to be "epic metal songs."
These songs are for a band I have created called Rat King. No, not the king of rats, that's pretty uncreative. But a disgusting, dead pile of rats covered in blood, feces, etc.
Some explanation goes a long way. It sounds interesting, and one of my favorite songs is called King Rat (the one with the video directed by Heath Ledger where whales skin humans alive).
Especially if you try to make it fit within a sentence and make it make sense. That means, eliminating direct gender association and universal context is the difficult part, but I'm sure you'll come through.
Well, keep in mind that even native Latin speakers at the time made regular mistakes due to overlooked factors that made correct Latin grammar the stuff of scholars and legends. Anyway, here's my attempts:
Caro Dei, enter Luce
Buccae Cinicae, Lingaue Praetae
In Vortex Pestis Fames
Now the douchey part: no, those do not sound like epic metal songs, try something else, please (unless that's the whole point, in which case, carry on with your life and have a blast).
Even as an atheist, I find it's difficult to take advice on lifelong commitment from secular sources such as the ones you'll find here. As you'll notice, many are just as concerned (if not moreso) with fulfilling their sexual appetites as they are with any actual commitment. Often times, they don't even really believe in lifelong commitment, marriage is something you do while it's convenient. Then, like a piece of gum, you spit your partner out when you're done with them.
I recommend going elsewhere for this advice, perhaps a spiritual or religious adviser of some kind.
Exactly. This is what I agree with the most.
While a seemingly dismissive "go somewhere else" might seem rude and useless, I think this is actually the best advice to give considering your specific situation. Also, I'm all for actually talking to the affected person before consulting strangers on the Internet. Imagine how she'll feel when she finds out you chose to ask us first instead of her.
On a separate note Blue is the best rival in the series by far, and this is an objective truth.
Nuh-uh. Have you seen the rival in Black/White 2? When it comes to characterization, he's perfectly written. The scene where
he sits there in Plasma's ship with Liepard in front of him
is award-worthy. Also N is pretty top-notch. I dare you NOT to be moved by anything surrounding his story.
His lines and manner of speech, so aloof and mellow yet subtly menacing, like a free thinker who still works for a group (later continued with Colress). The caretaker's goosebump-inducing take on innocence. The hauntingly creepy music in N's abandoned room, made even creepier (if such a thing is possible) in the sequels, topping off the Haunted House in Lentimas Town. Ghetsis's way of treating him. His final speech and farewell...
If so, you have no heart. I did shed tears with his story and I know I'm not the only one. With Blue, not so much.
I was one to initially slam 5th Gen's "lazy, childish" design as soon as it was spoiled, but then I took a chill pill, looked at it objectively and realized that speaking in fact-speak, every generation is equally lazy and childish. It is a fun game aimed at children that has always had playful silliness in its design. Seriousness is reserved for other Pokémon, like the legendary ones. I'm still hoping, as the games keep improving, to see some depth in the storylines. Black & White were amazing with the whole "Truth and Ideals" origin story with the Brothers' War. I still wanna see that Dragon/Fight pokémon that exists to fight for people who have suffered and teaches them that life is worth fighting for, etc. Pokémon makes me dream, and I think that's the whole purpose of the brand.
I love how it's still as big a deal as society will rightfully let it be, but at the same time it's become a certain level of "underground" (everyone has always known about it by now- kind) that Pokémon talk is somewhat discreet nowadays.
Also, the games are supposed to be linear. Anyone wanting otherwise doesn't really understand the franchise (I mean Nintendo).
I suppose I'm a conservative hardcore fan. Sometimes I'm beyond rationality, loving anything Pokémon-related. And I know they know a large part of the fanbase will continue buying the games regardless of content. I am glad they still work to give us better games every time.
From a personal perspective, which is all I can give: I love growing my hair long. I love my hair, other people love my hair, and yes I am a little attached to it. Thing is, I'm ok with cutting it, it's just not my personal preference, and I'm uncomfortable with it short, so I just deal with it until it grows back.
In short, I won't discredit that there might probably be mental ills related with excessive attachment to one's hair, but as obvious as it sounds, it seems perfectly reasonable to me if a person simply really likes his/her hair in a non-obsessive, healthy way.
My only advice is to take it with an appropriate sense of humor, you know, confidence and the correct amount of self-deprecation that indicates you don't take yourself too seriously but you still value your dignity.
Worst case scenario is that some insensitive, socially-challenged (or genuinely curious) person says something along the lines of "wait, weren't you a dude?" to which I think it's perfectly acceptable to jokingly answer along the lines of "I know, now I'm a woman, it's all weird and strange" or whatever. If you don't treat the subject as taboo or go telling it without anybody asking, chances are people will just accept it. Remember, it's better if they're awkward about you than flat-out offensive or bigoted.
If they take you as a joke, just laugh and say "not cool, man" with a smile, or whatever suits you. There's a way to take everything, especially humor at one's expense.
What I understand is you coming here to vent, but what I don't understand is why you'd feel bad at all for not going through with it.
Everyone goes at different "speeds" and life isn't even a race. I'm not trying to preach something corny like "wait until the time is right" but I'm saying you should wait until things (ie. consequences) are less messy. So yeah, you dodged a bullet, nipped it in the bud, etc.
However, if you're kinda impatient and your priority somehow is to simply lose your virginity (like my case a few years ago), then go for the older friend. We're here for you if you ever need to make a thread about that other thing later on.
This sort of thing is quite common. If it were a high-demand card, it might have been worth a lot as a misprint, but no... sorry but I doubt it's worth anything.
Ok, this might set up a whole debate with utterly obvious conclusions...
First, isn't this essentially evolution? Even if there's no apparent benefit from this differently-colored honey, it's still a biologically-produced natural substance obtained through artificial ingredients. It's not like manmande food is utterly toxic to all other lifeforms, but in the core of things, it just causes different ways of decaying (considering only the negative aspects) considering preservatives and all that...
Also, the end of the article suggests this substance that isn't even considered honey (WHY? why?!) might be harmful... I guess it can't be ruled out that it isn't up until now, but jumping to that conclusion (which thankfully hasn't happened yet) seems very unscientific.
Kind of related, even though Primer handled the idea of time travel well, I don't think it worked very well as a movie. It was cool to watch the movie, read up on all of the different charts on the internet, and then watch it again to see what I missed... but the longer I sat on it the less I liked it.
Exactly, Primer is a good story if you're up for intellectual, scientifically viable mind-blowingness, and was great and novel production-wise considering how limited it was, but as a movie to enjoy it pretty much sucks.
I'm interested in watching Looper not only because I consider Rian Johnson to be today's Orson Welles but because the trailer alone tells you this is an ACTION movie, not necessarily a sci-fi one (plus it's Rian Johnson. He's a genius).
Holy crap, this right here! That's the main line I draw to determine a person's pathology.
I tend to sympathize with psychopaths and due to that I've befriended quite a few over the course of my life. As a kid I was bullied and I grew up feeling misunderstood. Over time I learned to deal with it, trying to not stoop to the level of apathy that caused people to hurt me, and it's led me to meet some people who made me reach the following conclusion:
Nobody is perpetually apathetic to other people's emotions. Psychopaths are defined as people born without the ability to feel empathy, but I just consider that their "standard state". Emotions are easy to fake and difficult to hide, and a prolonged faking of emotions inevitably ends in authenticity seeping in. Empathy is an advantage for evolution, and ultimately beneficial for an individual. By definition, the potential for empathy is present in every mammal. I think that one without any capacity to feel empathy lacks any significant brain activity to survive.
The point is, I think people like to hide their empathy, related to the aversion of appearing weak. I'm pretty empathic myself but I think one can definitely shut down the reception of other people's emotions and is in fact a necessary action eventually in life. Psychopaths in general, from my experience, seem particularly insecure when their emotional needs are not met. They want to be remembered and their egos demand empathy from others, in essence. To me, that means that the people who appear most emotionless do so because of some sort of over-compensation. I think everyone can feel empathy and some people fight to feel less of it.
Usually people with politically liberal tendencies may try to tiptoe the subject so as not to seem as ethnically prejudiced (I dislike the term "racist", I think it's horribly misused and that's part of the problem itself) as their opposition, so I'll tell you what I would do on a personal level in what I consider a more realistic approach:
What you really want is not SEEM "racist" to people whom it may offend (because it affects you professionally and inter-personally). The very fact that you're making a post is an indication that you're "fine" and therefore questioning yourself to keep a greater problem from happening. Being "racist" in itself is not a crime, "evil", or "wrong" and at its core is as inevitable as being a misanthrope and hating oneself (that is, even maybe healthy to some moderate degree). A lot of people have a tendency of being quick to judge on the subject (think of all the "death to racists", "racist people are crap" eye-for-an-eye fallacious mentalities). Those chances increase where there is ignorance or aversion to critical thinking. Remember that a lot of people from all races are what would be consider racist while still being generally "good people".
I lived in different cities with African-American majorities and I myself am a racial minority. I got along just fine with the sane people (and those who did something to keep some sanity they didn't have) in high-crime areas by treating everyone like humans, capable of good and bad and expecting them to act they way I myself would.
What I think you ought to do is be subtle. For example, don't make it too obvious when crossing a street after spotting a black man (more than racist, this is sexist. I would not automatically fear a black woman, but even if I were a black man I'd tell you to be careful). Hell, he might be more scared of you than you of him. But do cross so as to avoid potential negative moments. You recognize your situation is circumstantial and in an ideal world nobody should fear a person based on their skin color. We do not live in an ideal world. You do not live in an ideal world. Don't fear being "racist". In this case you're being rational, acting based on facts and a lot of people might call you out on it. Just do what you consider the right thing and doubt yourself only when necessary. A simple definition of "fairness" is giving the same treatment to everyone equally, and due to the high crime rates in your area, I would be suspicious of anyone who comes off as suspicious (even yourself, as silly as that sounds). Avoid those places that you know anyone would be scared of (some people might play brave and venture into dark alleys just to prove how not-racist their privileged asses are), treat people with the same amount of honest harshness and careful compassion you'd want them to treat you (say "please" and "thank you" to everyone but never kiss anyone's ass or appear soft. Anyone preys on weakness). Be understanding, support the underdog and know when to side with people who can hurt you. It's all about balance and knowing the different facts that make up what you are and who you are as a whole.
You know not all black people in this big planet are the same as the ones in your teeny tiny piece of residence. You're fine. Discriminate away if it means doing what's sane, safe, smart, sensible, and sometimes even the most respectful thing to do. You know you'll receive the same treatment, and if you're a kind person you're not making this world worse.
Some explanation goes a long way.
Good luck on the project! Because
Especially if you try to make it fit within a sentence and make it make sense. That means, eliminating direct gender association and universal context is the difficult part, but I'm sure you'll come through.
Caro Dei, enter Luce
Buccae Cinicae, Lingaue Praetae
In Vortex Pestis Fames
Now the douchey part: no, those do not sound like epic metal songs, try something else, please (unless that's the whole point, in which case, carry on with your life and have a blast).
Exactly. This is what I agree with the most.
While a seemingly dismissive "go somewhere else" might seem rude and useless, I think this is actually the best advice to give considering your specific situation. Also, I'm all for actually talking to the affected person before consulting strangers on the Internet. Imagine how she'll feel when she finds out you chose to ask us first instead of her.
That was Gen II IIRC, with Sunny Day and Rain Dance. Gen 3 just introduced them in the overworld, and it introduced Hail (basically expanded on it).
Nuh-uh. Have you seen the rival in Black/White 2? When it comes to characterization, he's perfectly written. The scene where
I love how it's still as big a deal as society will rightfully let it be, but at the same time it's become a certain level of "underground" (everyone has always known about it by now- kind) that Pokémon talk is somewhat discreet nowadays.
Also, the games are supposed to be linear. Anyone wanting otherwise doesn't really understand the franchise (I mean Nintendo).
I suppose I'm a conservative hardcore fan. Sometimes I'm beyond rationality, loving anything Pokémon-related. And I know they know a large part of the fanbase will continue buying the games regardless of content. I am glad they still work to give us better games every time.
In short, I won't discredit that there might probably be mental ills related with excessive attachment to one's hair, but as obvious as it sounds, it seems perfectly reasonable to me if a person simply really likes his/her hair in a non-obsessive, healthy way.
Worst case scenario is that some insensitive, socially-challenged (or genuinely curious) person says something along the lines of "wait, weren't you a dude?" to which I think it's perfectly acceptable to jokingly answer along the lines of "I know, now I'm a woman, it's all weird and strange" or whatever. If you don't treat the subject as taboo or go telling it without anybody asking, chances are people will just accept it. Remember, it's better if they're awkward about you than flat-out offensive or bigoted.
If they take you as a joke, just laugh and say "not cool, man" with a smile, or whatever suits you. There's a way to take everything, especially humor at one's expense.
Everyone goes at different "speeds" and life isn't even a race. I'm not trying to preach something corny like "wait until the time is right" but I'm saying you should wait until things (ie. consequences) are less messy. So yeah, you dodged a bullet, nipped it in the bud, etc.
However, if you're kinda impatient and your priority somehow is to simply lose your virginity (like my case a few years ago), then go for the older friend. We're here for you if you ever need to make a thread about that other thing later on.
My next guess is Kankennon, though...
First, isn't this essentially evolution? Even if there's no apparent benefit from this differently-colored honey, it's still a biologically-produced natural substance obtained through artificial ingredients. It's not like manmande food is utterly toxic to all other lifeforms, but in the core of things, it just causes different ways of decaying (considering only the negative aspects) considering preservatives and all that...
Also, the end of the article suggests this substance that isn't even considered honey (WHY? why?!) might be harmful... I guess it can't be ruled out that it isn't up until now, but jumping to that conclusion (which thankfully hasn't happened yet) seems very unscientific.
Exactly, Primer is a good story if you're up for intellectual, scientifically viable mind-blowingness, and was great and novel production-wise considering how limited it was, but as a movie to enjoy it pretty much sucks.
I'm interested in watching Looper not only because I consider Rian Johnson to be today's Orson Welles but because the trailer alone tells you this is an ACTION movie, not necessarily a sci-fi one (plus it's Rian Johnson. He's a genius).